How often do you see or talk to your parents?

posted 2 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

I’m kind of surprised by how many people talk to their parents daily as well as how often they see them!

My parents live on the east coast (we’re on the west coast), and we see them approx every 2 years for a few days.  We talk about 3 times a month for 15-30 minutes.  And exchange a few text messages or emails as well.

My in-laws live about 30-45 minutes away depending on traffic.  We see them maybe 2-3 times a year for a meal.  Almost never talk on the phone unless it’s an emergency, but text a few times per week.  

 

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2019

How nice you get to be so close! I live a few hours from my parents and my mom and I talk on the phone every day (and usually my dad will pop on for a bit as well). I don’t have a car though, so I only get to go home every few months. My fiance is really different–he lives across the country and only talks to his mom every couple of weeks. I’m really looking forward to the week before the wedding when I’ll get to spend some much needed time at home with my parents!

Post # 48
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Helper bee

I talk to my parents once a week because they asked me to (we do get along just fine, but my norm for the last decade or so was closer to…….once a month? Every other month?) I used to live a block away from them and we still saw each other about that often.

Post # 49
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Helper bee

pinkcorsage :  Not about you specifically, but people’s willingness to make gender attributions in this site is weird. It’s not “just men.” I traditionally talked to my parents like….once a month or every other month. My husband talks to his near daily and makes plans to go see them often. There are just…different family styles.

Post # 50
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Newbee

I live 3 hours from my momma but I talk to her daily, multiple times a day and went from living with her to seeing her every 2-3 months. If I could have it my way I’d see her everyday 😂. My dad and I speak to each other every so often, we are not close.

Post # 51
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Helper bee

I work with my dad, so I see him everyday, not that all those days are meaningful interactions but we keep up to date.

I live probably 45 minutes from my mum and I would see her maybe once a month. We’re not as close, but I limit my time with her for my mental health.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I see his mom once a week at least because she doesn’t live far from us. I see my mom at least as often. We have every other Sunday dinner with my mom so I can see my new nephew and my step daughter can hang out with her aunty and uncle and her JoJo (nickname for my mom). I just helped my mom plant flowers before the rain came in yesterday.

Post # 53
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Helper bee

My parents live about a 15-20 minute drive away.

I love my parents, and especially my mom, dearly, but I find them a bit overwhelming, (they are very strong in their views about things) so I see them about every 2 weeks. Even this can get a bit much, so I sometimes go 3 weeks. We talk via text or phone call maybe once a week.

We go away as a family for about 3 days over Christmas once a year as well, although I wouldn’t necessarily feel pressured to do this. Last year I took my own car when we went away, and sometimes I’ll need to spend part of the Christmas break with my SO’s family as well.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

You can still be emotionally close to your parents and not see each other that often, even if you live close by. I think it’s great your fiancé chose to move out of home for college, it’s good to build independence. 

I live 25 minute drive from my parents and my sister (who live on the same street as each other). I see my parents once a week, but only because they watch my twins on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. My sister I see once a month give or take. 

I used to live 1.5-2hrs away and could easily go three months without seeing them, and perhaps then I would speak to them on the phone every 1-2 weeks. 

If they didn’t watch the twins I would probably only see them once a month, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t close – we all take care of each other tremendously. We’re all just very very busy – my dad works full time, my mother also watches my sister’s two children 1-2 times a week. They go out a lot together and take regular vacations. I also work full time and the twins are only 15 months old so run me ragged. 

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017 - France

My parents live in another country so we don’t see them. They took a trip over in 2017 so that’s the last I saw them in person. We don’t have calls on the phone because I don’t have long distance camping. We do messenger video calls about once or two times a month. It sucks. I miss my family everyday but things are tough back home and time zone difference makes it difficult to video call.

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I see my parents once a week, minimum, for Sunday dinner. My husband sees them twice, he takes our son over every week (he is on parental leave) to hang with his grandparents. We have a family chat with my sisters so text most days too. 

We see my in-laws a few times a month usually, they live 3 hours away, but try to call/video message them a couple times a week, and I text my mother in law most days too. 

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

My sons live 3 hours away. My oldest and I text almost daily. My youngest son never texts or calls unless he needs something (I know that sounds horrible but it’s the truth) but I text him at least once a week to say I love and miss you. My daughter lives about 8 hours away, is in school full time and works nights so her life is pretty hectic for the next 21 months. I text her once a week to see how she is doing. The children and I have a group text that we will all text back and forth maybe once or twice a month. My children aren’t big phone talkers and I live out in the country with HORRIBLE cell service. I try to go visit the boys at least once or twice a year. My oldest comes sees me at least once or twice a year. My youngest hasn’t come to see me in over a year. I haven’t seen my daughter since my wedding day 11/11/17. I had a trip planned down to see her this past October but the day I was to leave, got hit hard by Hurricane Michael and couldn’t go. Hopefully soon I’ll be able to make it down, still cleaning up from the storm and have so much work to do on the house. My parents passed many many years ago. My husbands parents live in the same town. We see his Mom and step dad several times a year and we see his dad and step mom once a year, on Christmas day. He talks to his dad almost daily on the phone though and his step mom follows me on Facebook so I make sure to post pictures and tag her so his dad can see. Wow writing this makes me kinda sad, gonna text my kids right now. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

keikochan :  It depends on what is going on. Seeing my dad for the first time in two years, he lives 1,000 miles away and our work schedules conflict. Not a good reason IMO but I’m trying to change it. We text every other week. I text my stepmom about once a month or less; usually I send picture messages to keep everyone updated and she never gets my pictures because my phone is dumb.

Mom and I text weekly and I see her in person when I can handle it. We live 10 minutes apart now but she lived an hour away earlier this year, and across the country last year. We would have “mommy dates” before she moved cross-country, usually involving wine, romantic comedies, and shitty cooking.

I see my boyfriend’s parents about every 2-3 weeks, his mom likes to have Sunday dinners but sometimes our schedules don’t  line up.

Post # 60
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Helper bee

Boy ya’ll make me feel like a terrible daughter! 

I talk to my parents maybe a couple times a month, and I try to visit at least once a year(we live on opposite sides of the country). I love my parent, but we honestly just don’t have much to talk about. We ask each other about work, activities, anything new, etc, so it doesn’t make sense to talk every day. I don’t really consider myself “friends” with my parents :/. 

Post # 60
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Helper bee

I’m close to my parents, although they live a 4 hour drive away. I text/email my mum most days, we speak about once a week & I randomly email my dad. Literally never see or speak to the in-laws. 

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