How often do you see you inlaws?

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Technically we see them everyday – if you count them driving by our house and seeing us outside the majority of the time. We live like 1/8 mile down the road from them, haha. Less than a 20 second drive down the road by car (that’s driveway to driveway). 

HOWEVER – I love my inlaws and don’t speak to my parents soooo they’re like the parents I never had. We enjoy spending a lot of time with them and are extremely close. I would say if Darling Husband and I have a busy week we still see them about once a week and once on the weekend, sometimes its everyday of the weekend. If we don’t have much going on we’d prob see them anywere from 2-3 times a week either for dinner or just stopping in to catch-up. 

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

peachnlello :  We see them about once a month, sometimes twice if there’s a birthday or holiday. They live about 1.5 hours away. We talk on the phone pretty regularly though. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My Mother-In-Law lives about an hour away, we see her and her partner every few months at most (more around holidays, of course). We’re really busy on the weekends, so is Mother-In-Law so it’s rare that we can make something work for everyone.

My mother lives about 1.5 hours away, I try to see her every month, but sometimes it’s less depending on what I have going on. Husband doesnt usually come with me to see her because she lives in a small condo, so we don’t have a bedroom or anything.

We see our siblings quite often though as we live closer to them and are good friends with them.

I like Mother-In-Law and my mom and I are very close, but I am fine with seeing them the amount we do, I wouldn’t want to dedicate multiple weekends a month to them like some of my friends do.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

They’re half an hour away. Prior to having kids we saw them maybe once a month or a bit less? Since kids we see them probably twice a month.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Seems like many people see their in-laws fairly often! Future Mother-In-Law lives 4.5 hours away by car, we see her maybe twice a year, but she’ll be moving to Florida in 2 months so she’ll be a couple of hours away by plane. We’ll probably still see her the same amount as I imagine she’ll come up for holidays and such. Future Father-In-Law lives 20 minutes away but we see him maybe once every other month. He tends to be busy and active on the weekends, as are we.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I see my dad once a week usually, and my husband probably sees him every other week. We see my Mother-In-Law about once a month, unless it’s a busy month with a few birthdays or holidays, then we see her a little more. She’s a handful so once a month is sufficient for us. Occasionally my husband will go see her without me also. We see my Father-In-Law and his wife about once or twice a month also. Sometimes my husband sees his father without me also, not because I don’t want to go but because my husband, his dad and his brother like to do guy stuff sometimes, like go golfing or have poker games with their friends. 

It’s tricky when one or both of you have divorced parents because you have even more people to balance along with your own friends and time as a couple, but I think we do a pretty good job. We also are happy to sometimes spend time with our parents alone. I really value my conversations with my dad and he likes to do guy stuff with his dad, and sometimes Mother-In-Law and I will go get our nails done or do something girly. So we like spending some of our time with our parents together and some separately. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

peachnlello :  We see them about once a week! Sometimes we miss a week but I always feel bad and then make sure to stop by the next week! They live near our church so we always swing by after. Even though we never tell them we are coming (it’s mutually understood) I don’t like to feel like we left them hanging. Plus we are pretty close with them so seeing them often is fun(:

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

peachnlello :  We see them about once a week! Sometimes we miss a week but I always feel bad and then make sure to stop by the next week! They live near our church so we always swing by after. Even though we never tell them we are coming (it’s mutually understood) I don’t like to feel like we left them hanging. Plus we are pretty close with them so seeing them often is fun(: I should add that from our house to theirs is about 30 minutes.

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our visits went way up after we had a kid (sigh).

We see my mom and Mother-In-Law for one ~2 hour visit a week. Father-In-Law comes every 2 months or so, he lives 2 hours away. My dad I don’t really speak to.

I’d really prefer every two weeks max…

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

campingbee54 :  Definitely tricky – I’m also in the “both of us have divorced parents” camp.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

peachnlello :  I see them maybe twice a year and FaceTime sometimes so they can see their grandson. They live about a thousand miles away though (my parents are 2000) so it’s not like I feel guilty about that. My husband is very close to his family and if we lived nearby I’m sure we’d see them a lot more often, if not weekly. I’d probably arrange to have a weekend to myself sometimes, taking advantage of that. They aren’t the type to get offended if I didn’t visit at every chance. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

We see his parents about 1-2 times a year each (they are divorced and remarried). We used to visit his dad once a month when he lived 2 hrs away. 

I would love to see them more, but they’re a flight and long distance drive away. And they can’t visit us unfortunately because they have dogs and we live in a one bedroom apartment. 

We see my parents a couple of times a month because they live about 20 minutes away. 

Post # 28
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Newbee

Once or twice a month for his parents. I’m fine with it. They are great people. 

No family of mine to see.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We see my Future Mother-In-Law about once every two weeks, sometimes more, sometimes less, depending. My FI’s father passed away a few years ago, and she often needs help with something (she was very dependent on her husband for pretty much everything, she’s pretty technologically illiterate, and her English isn’t great, so she has to lean on my Fiance to help with some things). She lives about half an hour away. I go along and while my Fiance is busy helping my Future Mother-In-Law, I hang out with the dog, or my Future Sister-In-Law if she’s home from college. We usually spend a long time there when we go, especially since my Future Mother-In-Law can talk and talk and talk lol, but I enjoy going there. We used to go there every single week, though, which was a bit too much for me.

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

They live about 40 mins away, we usually see them a couple times a month at least. Maybe sometimes 3

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