How often do you talk to MIL?

posted 1 year ago in Married Life
Post # 16
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

So I’m not married yet, but I talk to my Future Mother-In-Law fairly often. We text each other every few days. We don’t call each other, but I HATE actually talking on the phone lol. I’m very happy where our relationship is right now, it’s been a little up and down over the last 7-8 years… but we reached a happy place about 3 years ago and have been great ever since. 

Post # 17
256 posts
Helper bee

She sends group texts a lot. I don’t go out of my way to talk to her. She’s a nut case.

Post # 18
351 posts
Helper bee

I see my Mother-In-Law about twice a month, but I barely talk with her. She just wants to see my child and she can’t without me there. She’s cordial, but we don’t chat. She (and FIL) has shown many times that what she wants is more important to her than how hubby, myself or LO feels, so we don’t have much of a relationship.

How often does your husband talk with your mother? There’s no need to be close with his family if you don’t want to. 

Post # 19
7434 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are in a similar situation to you where we live about 7+ hours away and don’t see Mother-In-Law very often. Darling Husband talks to her a couple of times a month and I text her maybe once a month. I tend to send her pics if we are doing something I know she would like to see but I have never actually talked to her on the phone. I should also add that Darling Husband was never close to her.

On the other hand, I speak to both of my parents a few times a week and I don’t think Darling Husband has ever texted or called them. I think it’s okay that you two rarely talk over th euphonium, especially if your husband is talking to her as much as he is.


Post # 20
1946 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I am very close to my mother in law and I talk to her everyday, I also talk to my mother everyday. It’s usually a five minute conversation but I know that it brings a smile to both moms 

Post # 21
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

My Future Mother-In-Law lives in the same city as us, so I chat with her whenever we end up at their place for something. It’s not frequently, but probably about once a month or two. We get along great and I genuinely love her. Quite sure the feeling is mutual lol

We text back and forth a bit too but not Ina super regular basis. Just send each other funny things if they make us think of the other, or when we need to ask a question.

My parents live on the other side of the country from us so I chat on the phone with them regularly. FH will once in a while take a turn on the phone when we are chatting but for the most part no. Usually just if it’s a bday phone call or something like that. And he called them a few times in the lead up to our engagement. 

Post # 22
2014 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My in laws live next door. I love his mum and she’s like a second mum to me!! She sides with me over her own son ๐Ÿ˜‚

Post # 23
1047 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My Mom talks to my Dad’s stepmom (who raised him) every few weeks on the phone. It’s funny because her and my Dad are divorced, and my Dad is holding a grudge and won’t talk to my grandma. 

Post # 24
7905 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Mother-In-Law lives several hours away. We talk when we visit, and we send texts or emails every once in a while. That’s all, but I think we both like each other. 

Post # 25
176 posts
Blushing bee

MissCtoMrsR :  I’m not the only one! People find it CRAZY that my mother is still close/part of my father’s family. Even when we were still children my father and his wife lived away, so their dislike of the situation has never really mattered. 

Post # 26
1556 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t ever talk to Mother-In-Law on the phone, but neither does my husband. They live around 15 mins away and we see them around once a month, hubby usually more

Post # 27
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I don’t really see or talk to my future in law often. I see them every 4-6 weeks or so, and I will text his mom occasionally, but fiancé does most of the communication with his parents.

I struggle with them because they are nosy and judgmental and I bite my tongue for fiancés sake because he doesn’t want conflict, where as if anyone else in my life behaved like that I’d call them up on their behaviour, and I would t have them in my life at all. So I keep contact to a minimum from my side because my fiancé doesn’t want me to argue with them.

Post # 28
2591 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Mother-In-Law is very needy. She lives 1.5 hours away, but is in the process of moving closer to her work and us. She talks to my D.H. 3 times a week or so, and we see her about once a month. I have random text chats with her and about once a month we talk on the phone. Especially if she hasn’t talked to her son in a while (a whole week). She usually doesn’t call me unless she hasn’t been able to get a hold of D.H.

I’ve been trying to help her find a new apartment since I’m a teacher and have more time during the summer than she does, so we’ve been talking more frequently lately. She’s lonely, doesn’t have a husband, and is a very nice lady so I like to keep in touch. 

Post # 29
318 posts
Helper bee

Never. I’ve also never met her. She lives extremely far away, is a ‘difficult’ person and we have no relationship. 

Post # 30
209 posts
Helper bee

Fiance and I live far away from the ILs and while we have good relationships with all of them, we don’t really interact with each other’s parents. It sounds like there are some good reasons why you’ve been busy and I’m sure you’ll be able to build your relationship up better soon.

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