Post # 1
Just genuinely curious…
I am in my early twenties, and probably call my parents once a week at most. In addition, I will see them maybe once a week (I live around 20 minutes away). I love my parents and everything they have done for me, but we were never SUPER close growing up.
I thought this was normal until I met my 2 FSILs…
Both live within 5 minutes of their parents, and probably see them around every other day. What really shocks me is that both will call around 4-5 times a day to talk to SOs mom. Its bizarre… there have been a number of times that I was over SOs parents house, a sister calls and talks to the parents, and then she calls back an hour later to have another conversation.
So, how often is it for you?
Post # 2
akm57 : We speak every day. Visit every 1-2 weeks unless life gets super busy.
Post # 3
I call about once a week. We also email twice a week. Since I live four hours away, plus am long distance with Fiance, who is a different four hours away, right now I only visit once every two months. Before it was once a month. This would be much closer to once or twice a week if I lived near them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
akm57 : I don’t find that unusal, but I’m also very close with my mom. I was fortunate to grow up with my grandparents in the home, and when I moved out, my grandma wanted me to check in every night so that she knew I was home safe. So I was in contact with my gram every day up until her health declined and she passed, though I was at the hospital every day when that happened. Now I either call or make some kind of contact with my mom every day (text, FB messenger, etc.), as it was always my routine to call on my way home from work. Sometimes we speak more than once in a day if we have quick questions to ask each other or some news to share. I also stay in regular contact with my Mother-In-Law but not as frequently, maybe once a week or so.
ETA: I live 20 minutes from my mom and a little over an hour away from the in-laws.
Post # 5
I visit my parents 1-2 times a week, but we maybe only talk on the phone twice a month. I currently live about 15 min away from my parents. When I lived in a different state during a 10 month internship, I talked to my mom on the phone almost everyday. But that was moreso because I was living alone. I consider myself very close with my parents, but they don’t need to know every detail of my life as it unfolds! I catch them up on the big stuff when we see each other in person.
Post # 6
My mum and I usually speak everyday. Occasionally more than once a day. Fiance speaks to his mum via text everyday, but I much prefer a phone call (with everyone, not just my mum). Dad, I will message a few times a month (more since wedding planning to be fair)
Post # 7
We text sporadically throughout the week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I don’t call my parents every week though. And I see them every couple of months (they live a 3 hour drive away).
My in-laws call every Sunday. Which I think is kind of weird because sometimes they don’t have anything to say but call anyway. And we visit them once or twice a year as they live 8 hours away.
Post # 8
I speak with my mother every day. I don’t actually see her as much as I would like to/should though. My father on the other hand, well we ‘don’t have too much of a relationship so it’s more sporadic.
Post # 9
I’m in my mid-twenties and living in different countries with my parents. We send a good night message every day and Skype once a week, with actually seeing each other about twice a year these days. If something else comes up we’ll exchange more messages, and there’s also stuff like tagging each other in FB posts of interest/random cute stuff/etc.
My best friend is in an exact same situation as myself and spends about an hour a day at least Skyping/calling her family back home.
Everyone is different, which is fine – so long as balance is maintained in all relationships.
Post # 10
Also mid twenties and I speak with my mum most days, and several time a day isn’t really abnormal for us. I might call her during the day while I work just for a chat and maybe again later on when i’m walking home from the station. We only see each other every other month or so as she lives in a different country.
Post # 11
I call my parents almost every day. I don’t live very close to them and I like to chat with them pretty regularly.My sister on the other hand, rarely calls so they have one kid that talks to them often, one that does not.
Post # 12
I do not speak with my parents very often. Maybe once a month, if that. I see them maybe once a year. Its different for me as my father was abusive and my mother was complicit so I made a choice a long time ago to distance my life from them. I can’t change what happened when I was a child, but I do have a choice now to not share my life with them. That’s the price they pay. It makes me really sad sometimes I don’t have a better relationship with them but they are pretty selfish so I am reminded of that when I do interact.
Edited to add: Im in my late 30s.
Post # 13
My father left when I was 8 so I had no relationship with him afterwards. My mother and I live in different countries/time zones. We speak every 2/3 weeks or so. I love and respect her as my mother but we do not see eye to eye on very many things so we are not that close.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
We don’t talk on the phone a lot but my 2 sisters and I all chatter in a group text message with our mom almost everyday. We all have lunch together once a week and other times on our own. We weren’t close growing up but after I had kids we were very close. We all live in about a 30 mile radius of each other.
Post # 15
My sister and I are like your FSILs. My mom and I have a phone call usually twice a day and we text throughout the day about random goings-on. My sister and I only talk every other day or so but we also text all day. Mom lives about an hour away so I only see her maybe every other weekend. We also make a point to plan a nice vacation together- me, mom, and sister- every year.
My sister and I once didn’t hear from Mom for six hours and we called the police to do a welfare check 😂 In our defense, she mentioned having a headache when we last spoke so our minds went straight to explosive brain tumor. We were truly very worried, but she was just napping.