(Closed) How often do you talk to your BF, FI. Husband ?

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

When my Fiance and I were LD, we would text intermittently all day and then have a long phone call/skype call at night which normally lasted 1-2 hours (although if neither of us had plans or anything we had to do, they could last up to 5 hours).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think that’s too personal for us to tell you if its too much or too little. I’m not long distance so I’m not the right person to answer. 

I think its important to communicate often enough to feel connected and secure. Most long distance couple’s I know text frequently. But at the same time, I think its good to have time to distract yourself by keeping busy with other activities. I’m guess i’m no help haha

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

when Fiance and i were long distance we texted constantly throughout the day and then at night we’d talk anywhere from a few hours to a bunch of hours. i think that whatever works for you is what is enough…

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance and I were LD for about 6 months and in different time zones. We texted all day long, and would IM each other when we were able to and both were awake at the same time. We didn’t speak on the phone or skype too often, mostly because of the time difference and our jobs/sleep schedules. But we were in contact everyday.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not as much as we should. We have different schedules but talk at least a couple of minutes each day. We mostly talk through IM, but we are both doing other things so it isn’t constant or dedicated conversation.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It depends on what the two of you think not the rest of us.  My husband and I were in an LDR at the beginning of our relationship.  We didn’t get a chance to talk during the day because we were in school but usually talked for a few hours at the end of the day.  If we are apart now, we usually only have an hour or less to talk since my husband can’t have a cellphone at work and usually works long hours.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We text all day, so I don’t know. We don’t like talking on the phone. But we see each other once a month, so that makes it easier.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We were long distance for a while, we spoke for a few hours everyday. Prob an hour on the phone and an hour or 2 online while we did homework/work.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@KeshiaSimone: The two of you really need to talk about this.  It sounds like the level of communication isn’t enough for you and you need to decide if this is going to be good for you in the long run, walking on eggshells and being afraid to call your Fiance because he thinks you are ‘clingy’.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

when hubs and i were long-distance at the beginning of our relationship, 4-5 years ago, we talked online (gchat) basically consistently throughout the day. he was in the uk so talking on the phone was too expensive, and we didn’t know how to skype. and it was before gchat had a video feature. now when one of us goes out of town, we don’t talk as much, maybe a couple texts/emails/im’s throughout the day, and like for about 10 mins at the end of the day. i get annoyed sometimes at him for wanting to keep in contact so much when i’m out of town–i usually only do go without him if i’m working or visiting family, so i’m usually too busy to talk, lol! in general though we’re together most the time now, he works at home and i’m a student and study at home, so we talk in person on and off all day. when we were both working at offices, we’d chat online throughout the day too.

BUT like others have said, it’s whatever you and your fi are comfortable with, you can’t compare that wiht what works for other people

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We text through out the day, but usually hes really busy at work so I don’t get a text right away sometimes. Then if I work the next morning we talk for about 1-2 hours but if we have free time it can be between 3-5 hours 🙂

If he is off work and so am I and it happens to fall on a weekend then we talk all throughout the day (free weekends hehe)

LDR survive on lots of different things, I’ve seen people only talk to their SO maybe once a day for a few minutes to every couple days.. If your feelings are strong and you have faith in your SO and trust it will be okay 🙂

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

For the first six months of our relationship, we lived about an hour apart. I know that isn’t technically a LDR, but it was for us. We saw each other between 2-5 times a week. I’d say we texted thru the day when I could (I work retail, so only on breaks, really) and then at night we would text anywhere from 1-4 hours, or we’d aim on the computer. We would have talked on the phone, but I shared a studio apt at the time, so no privacy 🙁

However, I think if *you* feel like you’re getting enough time with your SO, then that is right for you. Now that Fiance and I have lived together for three years, we just don’t have long phone conversations (if one or both of us are at work or something) b/c I know I’ll see him in a few hours. When one of us is away with work, which rarely happens, we’ll talk on the phone for about an hour or two.

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