(Closed) How often do you try to put yourself in “someone else’s shoes”?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How often do you consider someone else's opinions
    sometimes : (6 votes)
    18 %
    never : (0 votes)
    often : (28 votes)
    82 %
    neutral : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    I think there’s a difference between putting yourself in others shoes and being overly sensitive worrying what others will think. It sounds like the blog post was one of those overly sensitive things on your fiances end. 🙂

    The only time I put myself in someone elses shoes is when I’m upset, am trying to understand a different perspective, or wondering how something I am planning to do/did do made someone else feel.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I tend to try and consider others’ perspectives a lot of the time.  I think a large part of this is due to what I do for work…I work with teens doing therapy amongst other things.  And, I think if I were to not consider their perspective, I’d fail at my job.  And be constantly upset and feeling like a terrible therapist.  

    I think too, it’s my tendency to think a lot about everything, including my interactions with others.  And as a result, this leads me to be constantly considering what other’s are thinking.  

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Considering someone else’s feelings is different than living your life so as to make sure everyone likes you. 

    I’m not saying you don’t though.  I’d have to hear more examples but it does sound like you respect his feelings which I think is more important.  What petty things are you getting angry about?  I sometimes get like that though around period time and also if I am upset at my job. 

    Post # 7
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    1543 posts
    Bumble bee

    I usually try to look at it from the flip side of things. You know, the whole “Do unto others”, and “What if the shoe were on the other foot” mantras. Doesn’t necessarily mean you have to let what other people think change your actions, but it can offer perspective to how you go about those actions.

    Post # 8
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    As others have said, there’s a difference between empathy/compassion and constantly worrying about others judging you.

    Post # 9
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    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    i do all the time.   one topic in particular is homeless people.  i can’t stand when people are like, “oh they need to get a job!  all they do is get high with the money people give them, bla bla bla”  my attitude about it is that no one has the slightest clue as to what that person’s life was like.  A LOT of homeless men were vietnam war vets and i’d like to see everyone watch their buddy’s entire body explode 2 feet from them and then come home and be normal and get a job and contribute to society.  lol  not  everyone has the luxury to afford proper health care (ESPECIALLY mental health care) and most homeless people have severe mental diseases that they couldn’t afford to get help for.   at the end of the day, they are human beings.  they have feelings..just like us.   it disgusts me when people are disgusted by them.  get off your high f’n horse.  it’s the luck of the draw when it comes to what kind of family you were born in.  mr. lawyer or doctor from a family of harvard graduates obviously has a better chance at making it in life than mr. crack baby whose dad is MIA and his mom is a crackwhore.  these things are not controllable and it’s hard to play with the hand you were dealt when you weren’t given a pair of aces from the beginning.  i see it just like a poker game really.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @nontraditionalmiami:

    I <3 you.

    (I did an internship after college where I lived and worked at a homeless shelter for a year. I could go on about this subject for awhile, but I will keep it short and just say I appreciate your perspective.)

    Post # 12
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    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    one time i was at a walgreens on my lunch break buying some stuff and there was a homeless guy in line behind me with a 6 pack and he was getting all of his crumbled up dollar bills in order, getting ready to pay for it.  so when it was my turn at the cashier, i just grabbed his 6 pack off the counter and paid for it (it was like $4) and he was like, “OMG god bless you!”  lol i didn’t give a shit.  i’d wanna be drunk too if i was homeless.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I put myself in other people’s shoes a lot, in the sense that I like to think about why people do certain things. And if I am going to do something unexpected or whatever, then I will try to think if I am going to hurt someone’s feelings. But mostly, I don’t let what other people think affect my actions (especially if they don’t have a good reason to care).

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