(Closed) How often do you visit your mother?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How often do you visit your mother?
    Once a year : (6 votes)
    8 %
    Once a month : (17 votes)
    23 %
    Once a week : (28 votes)
    38 %
    Other : (22 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Your mom sounds annoying and needy. I do see my mom about once a week and talk to her nearly every day. But my mom doesn’t bug me or guilt me. 

    Post # 3
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I live about 45 minutes away from my parents.  I might drive down to visit them about once a month or so.  My mom and I talk almost daily via e-mail while we’re working, and the random phone call about once a week. 

    When I first moved to go to college, I had this issue.  I’m her only child, so empty nest syndrome was difficult for her.  I basically had to tell her that we’d talk as often as she’d like, but that I wasn’t spending every weekend going home for a visit. lol  

    Post # 4
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    4238 posts
    Honey bee

     

    AmandaLeigh731:  

    There’s no correct answer, as well you know. Talk to your mom about healthy boundaries for your situation and then follow that.

     

    I’ve visited my mom’s grave on average every other year.

     

    Best Wishes as you and your mom find a good balance.

     

    Post # 5
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    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I’m probably an odd duck, but I visit my mom often. Probably twice a week. She’s my best friend. We are extremely close. LOL I get anxious if we go to long without seeing face to face. We do talk everyday too.

    Post # 6
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    4943 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My mother lives in another city (about 4 hours away), so I see her a few times a year.

    Post # 7
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    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    This sounds terrible… I see my mom Mon-Fri because we work together. I’d say I see her and my dad once every 3 months and my father and his family around the same. My Future In-Laws I see weekly, sometimes more, but they live 10 minutes down the same road as my home and my folks all live around an hour and 15 minutes away.

    You’re normal and she’s insane, but the guilt she’s piling on does terrible things to your mental state. Keep up on doing what you’re doing, you have to live your life and she needs to let go and understand. She sounds lonely.

    Post # 8
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    5954 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    AmandaLeigh731:  Sorry, but she’s emotionally manipulative. She probably doesn’t even see that she is. You spend a LOT of time with her. My mom lives across the country, but even if I were nearby she wouldn’t have that much time to spare for me! She volunteers and a few different places. Your mom needs hobbies, friends, and things to do!

    Post # 9
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    11520 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    AmandaLeigh731:  I see my mom about once, maybe twice a year.  Granted I live a 3 hour plane ride away.  I went home a few weeks ago for the first time in 2 years (she’s been here several times in that 2 years for a variety of reasons).  I talk to her every couple of weeks.  It used to be every Sunday night but her schedule’s gotten funny at work and with the time difference it doesn’t always work out.  I’m 32 and have been living away from home since I was 18.

    Post # 10
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    1727 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    AmandaLeigh731:  How far away do you live from your mom? 

    AFM I visit my mom a couple times a week. Granted she is my best friend so she doesn’t get on my nerves. 

    Post # 11
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    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My Mom lives over 900 miles away from me so I don’t get to see her nearly as much as I would want.  We go maybe 3 months between one of us visiting the other.  I talk to her 2-3 times a day on average.  If I lived close to her I would probably see her all the time.  But then again my Mom is my best friend so there is that.

    I think you need to have a talk with your Mom about the guilt she is putting on you.  And whenever she makes a comment about how she never sees you, you need to come up with a general statement like “Mom, I do not appreciate that comment.  I talk and see you on a regular basis and you know it, so please stop with the guilt trip.”

    Post # 12
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    860 posts
    Busy bee

    If my mother showed up (she’s not supposed to know where I live) I would lock the door and call the police. So I guess that’s a never from me. 

    Post # 13
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    36 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I would give anything to live closer to my mom. We live 23hrs flying time away. So it’s an entire day of travelling in order to see her & my dad. I’m so close with them, so I struggle with living on the other side of the world. We skype almost daily & whatsapp too. 

    Post # 15
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    29 posts
    Newbee

    Haven’t seen or spoken to that crazy bitch in 8+ years, and it’s fantastic.

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