(Closed) How often does your SO call you beautiful?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your SO compliment you often?
    Once a day : (135 votes)
    36 %
    Once a week : (60 votes)
    16 %
    Once a month : (34 votes)
    9 %
    Less than once a month : (56 votes)
    15 %
    More than once a day : (92 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    Did he read the entire book on Love Languages or just your reference to it?

    I think most guys after reading it in full will take it seriously. That could change his mind from thinking words of affirmation for you are nice to essential.

    Post # 3
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    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - Grandover Resort

    You are not alone. My fiancé who I’ve been with for 5 years doesn’t ever comment on my appearance. The last time he did was probably within the first few weeks we met. It doesn’t bother me now though. In the beginning of our relationship I use to try and talk to him about it to see if he could work on it for my sake. But he just explained how that’s just not in his personality to be that way, and I had to accept that he’s not vocal with that nor is he affectionate. 

    I’m sorry that you are feeling upset. 🙁 Did he use to say stuff like that a lot early in your relationship, and then now he doesn’t?

    Post # 4
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    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    More than once a week but maybe not every day. Also I get “pretty” a lot and while that’s nice I wish I would get called beautiful or gorgeous every once in awhile. “Pretty” has just become too easy and almost comes out without meaning anymore… I feel like. Or it could just be me being self-conscious. 

    Post # 5
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018 - SLS Las Vegas

    mrstea83:  Bee I am so sorry! I know how hard that is. I was in a relationship that I did not feel wanted and he didnt affirm me. I am now engaged to a man that tells me I am gorgeous every day and leaves me love notes and affirmations all over the house. I feel incredibly lucky but also that i deserve it.

    Post # 6
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    2326 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

    He tells me how beautiful, gorgeous, wonderful I am on a daily basis, and it still makes me squinch my face and feel slightly uncomfortable. 

    My love language is def not affirmations. I have never read that book, so I have no idea. 

    I’m sorry what you’re going through. What is his love language? What are they? Could he be showing you in other ways that you’re valued and loved?

    Post # 7
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    916 posts
    Busy bee

    SO usually says it once or twice a day. He hasn’t said it in a couple days, but he’s had an insane week so I totally get it. It’s usually when we’re laying there after smexy time, or when he gives me a big hug that I’ll say it. I love hearing the compliment-it makes me feel special, and beautiful, to him at least. We’re big on the compliments and I love you’s, it’s just how we are. We’re very verbally and physically affection:)

    Post # 10
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    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2027

    mrstea83:  I would say 4 to 5 times a week but he is a verbal love kind of person. I am more physical… fortunately, after a separation last year, then counseling we are both learning to speak the others language.

    Post # 11
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    7905 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think it’s probably that it’s hard to make a change in habits. He probably still finds you attractive but isn’t used to expressing it nowadays. I bet you are beautiful in real life!

    I don’t need compliments that often, but Darling Husband is so great at saying sweet things to me. I am very lucky. 

    Post # 12
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    1610 posts
    Bumble bee

    mrstea83:  I usually get it several times a week, get told I am gorgeous and beautiful. I know looks aren’t everything but it’s nice to hear when I dress up and he says I’m beautiful. My guy is very verbal, more verbal than me, and has an easy time talking about what he feels. 

    Im sorry you are feeling this way. I find most guys aren’t like my guy, they arent as verbal. A lot of guys show they find you attractive in other ways, like touching. It sounds like your guy has his own way but you both have different ways of expressing it. 

    Post # 13
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My husband tells me all the time even after being together for like 5 years, multiple times a day which is nice because he’s not usually open about his feelings unless I force him. I do know that he likes to be complimented consistently so I do that, it really boosts his overall mood. But he also is always trying to cop a feel which I find much more amusing. Haha

    Post # 14
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    2627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

    We use ‘gorgeous’ as a term of endearment, so we hear it a lot.

    “Hey Gorgeous” “Want a cup of tea Gorgeous?” etc.

    I couldn’t tell you how often I’ve heard him genuinely compliment my appearance without me asking though. It’s probably only once or twice in the 8 years we’ve been together.

    However, if I ask him how I look, he’ll usually say “very pretty” or “beautiful as always Darling”

    Very rarely I get a “yeah, fine” to that question!! 

    I think I’m more verbal than he is – he usually shows me that he is attracted to me, rather than telling me outright.

     

    Post # 15
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    9041 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    mrstea83:  ok so the love languages thing is all well and good but it doesn’t change someones personality. Just because your love language is one thing does not mean that is a comfortable thing for your partner or make them able to change how they personally express love.

    I think it is good that you have recognised that you maybe doing the exact same thing and that he does express love just in a different way. It isn’t about right or wrong but about different styles all of which are perfectly ok.

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