(Closed) “How OLD are you?”

posted 11 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’ll be 23 two weeks after the wedding and he’ll turn 23 about a month before.  We’ve received mixed reactions.  This is partly because we’ll have been together a little over five years at the time of the wedding so some people are like “Finally”.  This is also because almost everyone I know is already married.  When we were going to have a bigger wedding we cut out the bouquet and garter toss because we thought it’d be embarrassing for those 4 people out of 80 to participate alone.  Only every once in a while do I get called too young.

Post # 18
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1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was 25 and people still asked me that!  If they’re older than you, they’ll say that! lol.  It’s riduclously anoyning, but a complement!

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh I understand it.  My husband and I were married last year at 21/22.  We owned our own home and I lived on my own since I graduated from high school.  We are both going for masters and now have decent jobs too.  Age isn’t everything!

Post # 20
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am 24 and my Fiance is 26. (will be 25 and 27 when the wedding comes) and we have been together for 8 years this Friday. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I get the age/life lectures from people!!! 

AND to top it off I always get the “never marry your highschool sweet heart” snarky comments from people too! I would love to tell them to eff off and mind their own business!!!! 

Post # 21
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2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I will be 24 and FH will have just made 25 by the time of the wedding. We dated for 6.5 years before we got engaged. Even though we were 17 when we first began dating, people were wondering why we had not became engaged by the time we were 21/22. No one has had anything bad to say about us getting married, but people keep telling us not to have kids until we are 30 (which isn’t their place).

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@jillieb: I get the high school sweetheart comments too.  I hear “Aw, that’s so sweet” then when we got engaged “Are you sure you want to do that?”

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@trugem: I get asked when we’re having kids all the time.  In addition to being married young most people I know either have a kid or two already or have some on the way.  We want to wait and actually more get asked why we want to wait a couple of years.  

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re 23 and 25. I’m 23. I look younger than that! I’d say I look about 17. Ha! So people at work constantly tell me I’m so super young to be getting married. Okay…well what if I told them they were old to be getting married? lol.

Post # 25
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When we get married, I’ll be 21, and Fiance will be 22.

But I totally get it. I went a church where my mom is doing an internship, and some random old lady was like, “You’re getting married? You’re too young… you look 12!”

 

Helllo. I didn’t look 12 even when I WAS 12. I’m pretty sure you’re the only person in the world you doesn’t think I look older than I really am. But nice try.

Post # 26
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well I’m 19 (will be 20 when the wedding rolls around) and Fiance is 21 (22 for the wedding) ๐Ÿ™‚ We’ve been together over 4 years (our wedding is on our 5 year mark) and have lived together for 2 years now ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I will be 19 when I get married, Fiance will be 22. Many of my friends and family think I am crazy. Luckily, Nathan’s side of the family has all gotten married young and doesn’t think it is strange at all. Infact, they are all still together and there are no divorces in their family!People think you can mark getting married with an age. BUT I think it all matters on how you have grown up and the type of situations that have made you mature. My Dad was a truck driver  and was always gone. My mom passed away my freshman year of high school so weeks at a time I was home alone while my dad sent me money. This happened till the day I graduated and moved in with Nathan. I am a 3.64 GPA student and am attending CU Boulder and working on majoring in History. Nathan is lead fabricator for an engineering company and he makes $60grand a year. He has lived on his own since he was 18.We believe we are emotionally, religiously, and financially stable and have no doubts what so ever. We waited this day since we met 6 years ago.

Stop venting, they are all just jealous. They don’t know your story so they have no right to say anything except congrats. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 28
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i’m right there with you… i’m 23 & my fiance is 25… we’ll be 24 & 26 at our wedding in june.  we’ve been dating since we were 15 & 17.  we’re completely ready for marriage, even if others aren’t ready until they’re 30.  he’s an auditor with a good job and i’m in law school.  don’t worry about what other people say.  it’s all about the two of you.  my parents were married when they were 17 and they’re still going strong 33 years later.

for me what’s frustrating is that i look even younger than i am.  the other day i went into a bridal store to look at bridesmaid dresses.  the first salesperson i saw said, “oh are you looking for a homecoming dress?”  i said “no, i’m looking for bridesmaid dresses.”  she said “oh… you’re the only one looking?” i had to point out to her that yes, i’m the only one looking because i’m the bride!  i guess she didn’t notice the ring or something lol.  but then a little bit later while i was looking at the bridesmaid dresses, another salesperson came over and said, “are you looking for a homecoming dress?”  i was so mad.  they all just assumed that i was (a) too young to be getting married, (b) too stupid to know that i’m looking at bridesmaid dresses & (c) that i wasn’t supposed to be where i was.  needless to say i’m not buying anything from that shop.  people who work at bridal stores should really think before they speak.

Post # 29
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

24

Post # 30
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559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All the women in my family got married before the age of 19, kids by 20, and the only divorce since the various lines immigrated was my first cousin (abusive, organized crime husband).   My mom got married 3 weeks after she turned 17 – would have been the day after, but my dad’s little sister called to say she was getting married that day when my dad picked up the phone to call his parents with the news. 

Both my and my guy are 24 (him as of today!)  EVERY time any friend or acquaintance brings up our relationship, it’s to ask when we’re getting married or why we aren’t already married.  We’ve been together about… 20 months.  He just commented this morning that turning 24 somehow seems the perfect age to settle down, and he actually feels like an adult now.  

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We are both 25, people ask me that all the time.  Either that or give me really weird looks when they find out I’m engaged. I chalk it up to the fact that most people think I look a lot younger than I am. 

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