Post # 1
Hi Bees I am in my twenties and me and my boyfriend are thinking about starting a family in the next couple of years. I would like to know your stories of when you started a family and how old you were when you had your first child and got married. I am really excited about this process and I would like to know if anyone else was nervous. Please share your thoughts.
Post # 2
I was 22 when I had my son. He was a surprise. I just got married and I’m 26 and my husband and I are TTC’ing. Obviously I love my son to death but it would have been way more ideal for me to start having kids around the age I am now vs. 4 years ago.
Post # 3
I had my first at 32. That wasn’t what we planned. We started trying at 29 but it took us 2.5 years to get pregnant
Post # 4
Married at 28, first baby at the end of 29 (a few days before husbands 30th, one month before my 30th) so even though I technically fall in the 25-29 option it was more like 30.
Post # 5
I had my first child at 26.
Post # 6
we started trying when I was 28 but it took a bit so I actually turn 30 in a few days and am due in about a month with our first. 🙂
Post # 7
I was married at 27 and had our first child just before 30, so while I was technically 29, it was much like slomotion, and was more like 30.
Post # 8
I was pregnant at 29 but had her after my 30th birthday
Post # 9
Married at 22 and got pregnant on accident 2 months later. So I was 23 when I had her. If I could do it over we would’ve waited longer to enjoy time just the 2 of us being married, but now I’m 35 and I’ll be 41 when she graduates so plenty of time to enjoy being empty nesters! 😂 My husband is also 6 years older than me so his timeline was a bit different. He’s 41 now and we can’t imagine starting over and going to our youngest kid’s graduation at 60 😳 Everyone is different though, that’s just us!
Post # 10
34. If we have another I’ll be at least 37.
Post # 11
Got married at 33, had my son at 34 and due to have my second son at 37. It took us nearly a year to conceive our second, whereas it was only a few months with my first.
I was soooo nervous with my first! Everyone else was so happy when we announced and I was still uncertain because I knew my life was about to change drastically. It was a rough go for 6 months with an extreme case (unusually long) of colic and adjusting to life, but we settled into a groove after about a year or so. It’s not an easy job but it’s extremely rewarding, so for me – totally worth it!
Post # 12
Married at 38. First kiddo at 39, second at 41
Post # 13
Married at 26, first born at 27, second will be born when I’m 31. Wouldn’t do it any other way. We bought our first house before getting married, so we were settled into the house and into our jobs and had done a little bit of traveling. I’ll be in my 40s when they graduate high school and they’ll be long done college when I want to retire 🙂
Post # 14
I was 30….but could have easily been 35 and happy with that.
….I however am not married (waiting…but not with my child’s father) ….so that makes it different.
Growing up….always said if I had kids I wouldn’t wanna do it past 25 but I had so much fun living life, touring, traveling, having wild careers with various start ups….I have zero regret being older.
Best of luck on your parental journey! It is amazing and hella hard, but always worth it.
Post # 15
I’m definitely the minority. I had my first when I was 16, second when I was 18, and my youngest when I was 19. I was a baby having babies. Not the ideal situation. My parents were older when they adopted me, 42 & 60. My mother suffered a major stroke when my youngest was 6 months old. She had no idea who I was, my children, her own husband. She passed a few years later. My dad was diagnosed with cancer at 80 and died when he was 83. If I hadn’t been such a “bad kid” my parents would have never experienced grand kids. My kids are 30, 28, & 27 now and are wonderful productive adults. I was NOT going to let them repeat my bad behaviors. None have kids of their own…yet. I’m 46 and I honestly can’t wait until they are ready to have a family. I’m so proud of them. Raising them wasn’t easy, I did it mostly on my own while caring for my parents, their dad was never around, but I did it! They were wonderful children, respectful, kind, caring. I don’t know how I got so lucky.
And because I’m just so proud to be their mom, here is a picture of us on my wedding day last year. All 3 of them “gave me away’.