(Closed) How old do you consider too young/old to have a baby?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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Blushing bee

24 TOO YOUNG

35 TOO OLD

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would have said under 24 was too young, however I was 20 and in comparison to other mums I know in their late 20s/early 30s I’m on the same maturity level…and in some cases more so ha, I would say it depends on the person. I know 18 year olds more capable of parenting than other 30 year olds. 

Over 40s is too old IMO, in terms of complications and risk to the child. 

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Too young : 18 and below. Because most people get married to there spouse they started dateing at the lest a year, then get married and have there kids when most people get married in there 20’s.

Too old: 45 and up. Becuase when you have a kid that when they get old its gonna be hard to always be there for them, when there older and need adice when there is no one there to give it.

Post # 21
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t think there’s ever a right age to have a child. It just depends on the woman’s life stage. They should have the education of their choice, have started a career and the ability to pay their own bills.

 

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

For me, 25 and post-menopause, like joya.

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@LadyElva:  
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@beemo:  35? Seriously? The average age for first birth in the UK is 30. I only know a tiny, tiny minority of people who have had babies younger than that… I knew one teen Mum, I have two school friends who married in their 20s and had babies aged 25 or so, and I have two friends who had babies as single parents aged 35+. Almost all my family have had children later in life.

Even my parents were older… my mother was 33 at her first birth (me) and her mother was even older than her.

I always aimed to have my first birth by 30 and my last by 35, but it’s probably not going to happen for me. I won’t be much older, hopefully, but I’ll probably be older. Also, bear in mind that my generation graduated into a recession and are probably still doing unpaid internships into their late 20s…

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My mother had me at 22, and went on to a very successful career. I’d say under 20 is too young.

I’d say over 40/45 is too old. I realise menopause is often later than that (ha, it is for me!) but health factors for the baby means that having a baby just before menopause is ill advised. So I’d say ideally before 40, perhaps before 45 at a stretch.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

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@Rachel631:  ummm …. are you kidding me? 30 is the average age?? Did you count all the chavs happily living off the system never worked a day in their lives?? 

UK definitely has a problem with teenage pregnancy. 

At the same time I do have quite a few friends who are in their late 20s and not looking to have a baby any time soon. 

being in high school is, to me, unacceptable … anything under 21/22 is too young. You need to at least get some sort of qualifications. I think your body tells you when to stop so late 40s is pushing it

 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I’d say under 25 is too young if you went to university, and under 22 if you didn’t (I think people need to spend enough time in employment to ‘settle’ a bit, live in the ‘real world’ outside education and save money).

I’d say 36 and over is too old (due to health concerns- increased risk of genetic abnormalities, risk to mother, being too old to see grandchildren grow up). Though with technology improving year by year as well as longevity, perhaps 36 is too low..

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@leecy87:  Ugh, don’t get me started on the benefit-scrounging teens pushing prams in the UK. I left the country 4 years ago and never want to live there again!

Post # 26
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Bumble Beekeeper
Post # 27
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Rachel631:  The second link says the average mother’s age for all births is over 30, but the average for a first birth is about 28. But still, your original assertion that the average for a first time mother is 30, was not far off.

EDIT: Oh wait, the Daily Mail link says the average 1st time mother is indeed 30. I’d tend to believe the Guardian ahead of the Daily Mail :), but in any case we both agree that 30 is not far off.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think if your emotionally and mentally financially stable to have a child and have a positive foundation by all means go for it! 

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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@paula1248:  Some of those articles are more up to date than others (I think some are from as early as 2010). I posted a spread so that people could compare by year and source. But the 2012 ones confirm my hypothesis…

And yeah… I hate the Mail as well, although the Guardian is known as the Grauniad for a reason… full of SPAG mistakes!

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@beemo:  Um. I’ll be 35 when we start trying, and FH will be 36. You have to be freaking KIDDING me.

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