(Closed) How old is too old?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1874 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

No I don’t think they are too old. People are starting to have adults as flower girls now.

Post # 4
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

I had my little cousin, who is 10 (or 11? crap, I can’t remember now) serve as a Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man. Honestly, I think that age is just a bit too old for a flower girl.

She really didn’t have any duties, but she wore a cute dress (totally different from the BMs, but was complementary), and carried a smaller bouquet that was similar to the BM’s. She also walked with the ring-bearer down the aisle.

I think it is totally up to you, but it might be more exciting for THEM to be called Junior Bridesmaids, rather than flower girls. Might make them feel more grown up and special, even if they don’t really have any “duties” 🙂 Just some thoughts!

Post # 5
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just went to a wedding where there was a 24 year old ring bearer soooo anything goes haha

Post # 8
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think whatever works! if they are comfortable and so are their parents, then go for it! 

Post # 10
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It seems a bit too old to me.  My feeling is puberty is the cut off for flowergirl and where you need to adjust to jr. bridesmaid.   But if you and they are happy with the idea, then go for it !  What matters most is that you’re happy and the member of the bridal party is too!

Post # 11
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree with too old. I think making them flower girls/jr bm might be a better idea.

Post # 13
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I was a “flower girl” at my aunts wedding when I was 11, I had a cute little basket of flowers that I didn’t throw and walked her dog down the aisle, it was very adorable.  Now you may not have a dog but you could volunteer the basket idea, kind of an inbetween of a flower girl and jr. bridesmaid, like a “flower bridesmaid” lol

Post # 14
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Why don’t you offer it to them and see how they feel about it? Or just let them know you want them involved some how and maybe you can all find something that feels good to everyone.

Post # 15
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

no I dont think thats too old.go for it!

Post # 16
8373 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had two junior bridesmaids, 9 and 13, who wore dresses in the same fabric but a slightly different style than the bridesmaids, and they carried slightly smaller bouquets. Their dresses also were originally strapless; however, there was no way I was putting girls that age in strapless gowns, so the designer agreed to make straps for them that matched the thin, ivory, sewn-in sashes that their dresses had. They looked adorable! I also had a flower girl. I was very pleased with the overall look.

Here is a pic showing two of the bridesmaids’ dresses and one junior bridesmaid’s dress:

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