How old is too old to be a Jr bridesmaid/groomsmen

posted 6 months ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

The junior bridesmaids don’t have to walk down the aisle with someone else who also had a Jr title. I was a 16 year old jr  bridesmaid in a cousin’s wedding, and I walked down the aisle with a regular groomsman. There’s a big enough age difference to say that those under 13 will be given the Jr designation. I’d have been upset as a 17 year old to be lumped in with the younger kids because there’s a huge maturity difference in a 17 year old who is a year away from adulthood and a 13 year old.

 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I dunno… I’d just say everybody under 10 is a flower girl. 10-18 is junior. 18 and over regular bridesmaid. 

I’m having my two daughters as junior bridesmaids and they’ll be 9 and 11. A little young for jr. but a little old for figs.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Can someone explain to me the practical difference between a Jr. Bridesmaid and a bridesmaid and for a Jr. groomsman and groomsman?

I feel like for women you end up with a version of the dress that may come in children or jr. sizes and for both you don’t go to the bachelor/bachelorette party, but if this is true no matter what, then what does it matter if you just call everyone bridesmaid/groomsman? Or ask them what they prefer?

Like either way their only job is showing up wearing an outfit, right?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

AnonBee2019 :  Yeah it’s true there’s really no practical difference between a Jr. bridesmaid/groomsman and a regular bridesmaid/groomsman beyond the age. It really doesn’t matter if someone decides to call them Jr. or not, it’s really just preference. Some people feel a bit odd calling their 11 year old nephew or whatever a groomsman, and would rather add the Junior title. Either way is fine. Personally I am having my niece as a bridesmaid and will probably call her a Junior bridesmaid, to avoid people who are like “Isn’t 12 too young to be a bridesmaid?”

OP, I think you’re overthinking this. You can call the 17-year-old just a regular groomsman if you’d like, and he can still walk down the aisle with the 14-year-old Junior bridesmaid. You can do away with all “Junior” titles if you want to do that. You have have the 10 year old as a Junior groomsman while the 17-year-old is a regular groomsman, and just say anyone under 16 you consider “Junior,” I don’t see why you say you can’t do that? Or you can call the 17-year-old Junior if you really want, he is under 18. There are really no rules for this, it’s up to you and what you want to call them.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

sarusarunna :  Got it. Makes sense!

 

I think in this case, OP, it’s best to just ask the 17 and 14 year old what they prefer and not to overthink it, since it doesn’t really matter anyway.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Throw out the labels, and call them all Wedding Party. Groom’s side, or Bride’s side. 

The adults can be paired, the under-18’s can walk singly. Or have them all walk singly. 

Done.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I was a bridesmaid at 14 and was not considered a jr. I wore the same dress they did and was paired up with a 30.yr old. 

I dont really get the jr thing unless they are really young  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think the difference to me is if you’re including them in all the extra stuff. I.e planning the bachelorette and bridal shower. If you’re not expecting them to help plan with the rest of the bridesmaids, then adding junior is a way to signify that. 

I personally loved being a junior bridesmaid. It made me feel so grown up as a teen. I never saw it as a negative or too young for me title. I was just glad not to be a flower girl. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

There’s really no difference between jr. Bridesmaid and regular bridesmaid. My niece was 12 when she was a bridesmaid in my wedding and everyone else was an adult. She just walked down the aisle with the shortest groomsmen.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

lyssajacqueline :  We had a 14 year old groomsmen, 17 is definitely too old to be a “junior”. 

Just call them all groomsmen and bridesmaids.  Throw out the junior label.  I don’t think Meghan markles bridemsaids were called juniors and they were like 4 years old haha. 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

lyssajacqueline :  with those ages, it’s best to walk alone or with someone close in age. Do not pair young or teenage children with grown adults. Especially do not pair young women to link arms with much older men. So much cringe and you make people uncomfortable.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

lyssajacqueline :  “What should I do?” — Stop worrying about silly labels. Is there a reason to differentiate “jr” vs “non-jr”? What would be the consequence of calling all the females bridesmaids and all the males groomsmen? Seems like that is a super simple solution.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

rockclimberbride :  why would that make people uncomfortable? They’re literally walking down an aisle for 15 seconds they’re not entering into an arranged marriage.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

buzzerbeater :  

 

“….they’re not entering into an arranged marriage ”  lol

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