(Closed) How old is too old to be a ring bearer

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Acutally as soon as I saw the topic line on the board, I thought to myself how 10 should be the cut off point.  I think it’s fine.  And if he’s looking fwd to it, even better!

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

We are having an older ring bearer. He will be 11 when we get married. We have decided to have him titled ring bearer/Jr. Groomsman. I don’t see anything wrong with it. He is very excited about it.

Post # 5
1011 posts
Bumble bee

As long as HE’s ok with it, then it’s fine.

Post # 6
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My ring bearers are 5 and 4. I have another little cousin who’s 10 and got bumped up to Jr Groomsman. I think 10 for a ring bearer is fine as long as he’s happy with it—I already had two ring bearers and not enough jr groomsman that’s why I put my 10 yr old cousin as a jr groomsman.

Post # 7
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

If he wants to do it, I think it’s great 🙂  If you’re trying to think of something else for him to do, you could have him do a reading or have him do a “house party” type job, like hand out programs.

Post # 8
272 posts
Helper bee

I saw that you’re Filipinio – I’m only vaguely familiar with the different ceremony traditions, but is there another wedding item (like cup, candle, rope, etc.?) that he could present instead?  I don’t know if that’s totally off base or not, but might be a way to include him that’s not in the traditional ring-bearer role. 

Post # 10
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I think that it’s totally fine for a 10 year old to be ring bearer – even moreso if he’s excited about it!

Post # 11
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My ringbearer is 11 and my flower girl is 13 so I’m obviously all for it 🙂

Post # 12
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think 10 is fine.  As long as he doesn’t feel too old, I don’t think there is an age limit.

Post # 13
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

FH’s neice is our flowergirl – she will be 9 at the wedding. I’ve been told that she is “too old”, but I think she’s the right age, and she is super excited about it. I could see if thery were 14or something, but 10 is still a “kid” and it makes them feel so special and included. How could anyone deny them that?

Post # 14
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think if HE is okay with it and excited about it then it is absolutely okay 🙂

Post # 15
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My little brother was 11 when he was our ring bearer, and was stoked about it. I think as long as he’s really into it, 10 is just fine!

Post # 16
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

If my youngest cousin wants it, he’ll be our ring bearer. He’s 6 right now, so he’ll be 8 at the wedding. His sister will be 11, and I’m struggling with how to involve her!

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