- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I say it’s not anyone’s place to judge what parenting techniques are appropriate or innappropriate at any age for the child as long as the technique is not hurting the child or anyone around them.
Is the sight of a breastfeeding 2 or 3 year old hurting you? No. So why does it matter!! There are plenty of reasons why a mother might want to breastfeed an older child, and it’s really not anyone’s business but the baby and its mother.
And the ultimate victim is the innocent baby, whose health and comfort are often compromised for this stupid social tabboo.
bells– To the walking comment, my son walked at 6 months, and wasnt even eatting solids yet, so I think ideas like that should be more on a kid to kid basis. I do agree that was crazy early for him to walk, but I think some people without kids do not realize that all kids can mature in a very wide range of ages. It should not dictate on appropriateness. Now, my daughter could ask for most stuff at 10 months by sign language. So tecnically to some that mens she should not have been NIP, but she was.
To people who are worried even before the baby is born about NIP, this post is just peoples experiences and individual opinions.When you do NIP in reality its nerve wracking the frist few times, but then you realize 90% of people dont care, or dont even realize you are doing it. Once I actually had two moms come up to me I think cuz they realized I was all uncomfortable but had no choice. THey just grabbed their kids, talked with me and we just all fed the kids talking. A husband walked up talked for a while, then after 5 minutes asked “wait, are all of you nursing?” It was an observation, nothing more. He didnt care, I think he was used to it by then lol.. it was so funny how much people really dont notice in reality how often people NIP. I think its also about where you are. Personally I think its more obvious in a resterant, or a fancy store but if I were at those I used to just make sure I was concealed, and most people just thought the babies were sleeping. I believe in the right, I just think it shows respect to make others more comfortable if at all possible.
I think that if they can eat other foods, then it is not necessary to be done in public.
It also annoys me when people talk about it being natural and that we (As a society) need to stop sexualizing breasts…breasts are for feeding our babies blah blah blah. I agree it’s natural, but if you want breasts to stop being sexualized…stop buying push up bras, and low cut shirts, and FAKE boobs. I’m not trying to be rude, I am always seriously confused when we (as women) say “this needs to change” and then we keep doing things to make it continue. Ok, off my soapbox.
Also there are lots of things that are “natural” that we just don’t do in public and we wouldn’t think of doing in public. I realize that breastfeeding in public has to happen sometimes, but why go out of your way to make it happen. I find that odd. I think that I would do it if I needed to, but I would rather do it at home where I am baby am more comfortable.
BackyardLoveBird– I dont know if you have kids, nor is this againct you either way, but babies who do eat solids can not just go with out milk/formula as a subsitute. Some babies can not, or will not use a bottle. What would you do? Descreatly feed your child, let them scream, or feed them in a bathroom? I am only asking because I had to decide this many and many times with my childeren.
Not to get off subject about age, but your comment about sexualization of boobs kind of rubbed me the wrong way.
I do agree that boobs are sexualized, but I do believe that the majority of people do not look at a baby feeding on that said boob will see it in a sextual manner. Out of personal belief I do my hardest to not show myself, especially if childeren are around. Not because I think they will see it as sextual, but personally I think it is something that parents should decide if they see, not me. I also dont see any difference in that out look no matter how old the baby is your feeding.
My discomfort with older kids nursing in public is the fact that with MY experieces with older kids it has been more of a statment than a nessesity. That is my only issue with it.
I don’t find boobs offensive or obsene so it don’t matter to me.
But for all the talk on the internet about public breastfeeding, I’ve never seen it, and I wish I did because now I feel like a freakshow even in my own home if we have visitors over. I go hide in the nursery so people don’t gawk, seriously people get wide eyed even just mentioning breastfeeding, so until I’m comfy in what I’m doing I hide and that isn’t cool.
troubled– I was like that for a while, but relized that talking about it is one thing, doing it is another. My Fiance has some close guy friends who all blush if BFing gets brought up, yet they have seen me discreatly do it quite a few times without even blinking.. lol…
One of his friends actually was more weirded out when he could hear my pump coming from the bedroom when I was attepting occasional bottle feeding. Asked me why I dont just feed the baby already, the sound was kinda creepy.
Once they turn into a ‘kid’ and not a ‘baby’ its weird to me. Maybe not ‘wrong’ but looks odd to an outsider.. if the kid can talk and has teeth, i find it odd to see you nursing them.
As someone who is not a mom or other parent figure, I voted over 18 months. For me, when they can vocalize, ask for it and pull up your shirt it’s a good time to learn that some things can wait. Teeth can make for a very strong motivator as well. A friend of mine has a two year old that’s still breast feeding but only when they’re at home. It seems to work really well for both of them. But also, like @weeonebride:, you can never know what sort of circumstances a family might be it. I hope I wouldn’t presume to judge.
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