(Closed) How old is TOOOOO old for flower girl??

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just be careful how you dress her. Not white poufy dress. I would lean more towards Jr. Bridesmaid style gowns. But she can still cary a pomander and you can still refer to her as your flower girl.

Post # 4
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think 11 is fine, especially considering she’s your daughter which I think is very special.

My three flower girls are 8. 9, and 10 and it means the world to them!

Post # 5
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When I was 11-12 I was the flower girl for my sister’s wedding. I think that’s fine and not silly at all!

Post # 6
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I don’t know, at my FSIL’s wedding, my Future Brother-In-Law was the flower girl, with the bucket of rose petals and everything.  He was adorable and did a lovely job.

JUST KIDDING.  (I mean, I’m not, that really happened, and it was great, but I realize that doesn’t help you at all.)  I think having your daughter do it would be lovely!  When my dad got married, I was 10, and I was a bridesmaid for my stepmom, and no one seemed to think anything of it, so that’s another option for you as well.  Good luck, and welcome to Weddingbee!

Post # 7
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was a junior bridesmaid when I was 11. I would probably put her as a junior bridesmaid instead because she may feel a little arkward being a flower girl.

Most flower girls range from 3-8 years old.

Edit: How about asking her how she would feel about being a flower girl.

Post # 8
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think its fine.  Especially given that its your daughter.  Not having her walk down the aisle would be odd.  I agree with roxy- don’t try to dress her in the typical flower girl dress.  Besides, I bet at 11 years old she thinks she’s all grown up!  Lol. 

Post # 9
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

As someone else mentioned, I would make her a JR. Bridesmaid.

Post # 11
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My niece is 10 (will be almost 11 at the wedding) and when I got engaged she *insisted* that she be a flower girl, NOT a junior bridesmaid.  And because she is my niece and I spoil her and want her to have a great time, I said OK, whatever you want!  She also specified that she must be able to actually throw flower petals (she was a flower girl at a family friend’s wedding when she was younger and was not allowed to throw any petals, which she maintains does not “count” as being a flower girl)


If she wants to be a flower girl and you want her to be a flower girl, then she can be a flower girl.  It’s your wedding– it won’t look silly at all if it is what you want!  Now, if you or she or both of you feel weird about her being a flower girl and she would prefer to be a junior bridesmaid, then maybe that is a better choice.  Otherwise, flower girl it is!

Post # 12
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

10 or 11

Post # 13
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

12, 13? If i were around your daughter’s age, i’d MUCH rather be a flower girl, haha. You don’t have to practice everything – just show up, toss some flowers, and get a present 🙂

Post # 14
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My cousin was my flower girl and she’s 13. She wore a cute modern white dress and carried the basket and threw flowers. She loved it and everyone thought it was cute. [attachment=811307,102556]

Post # 15
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think that 11 is fine. I agree with someone else who said lean more towards the jr bm dresses instead of fg dresses. I’m having to go w/ jr bm dress for my flower girl. She’ll be 9, and only a few days away from being 10, but is a big girl for her age (TALL!).

Post # 16
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with 11 being just fine. I also agree with no having her wear a poofy dress.

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