Post # 1
Fiance and I have no young girls that we’re really close to. He has two neices who will be 4 and 13 at at the time of the wedding. He wants one of them to be the flower girl but I don’t want a flower girl. I think that having the 4 year old is going to be uncomfortable for her since she doesn’t really know us. We see her a couple of times a year and she doesn’t recognize us. She doesn’t do well with strangers and even FI’s sister (not her mom, her aunt) said it was a bad idea. His sister would know since she babysits often and sees them on a near-daily basis.
So FI’s response to me saying the younger girl was too young was that the older girl could do it. Um, if I were almost 14, I would not want to be a flower girl.
Option number three… His crazy Schnoodle who pees on everyone.
What are your flower girl experiences?
Post # 3
I was probably 7 went my dad married the 2nd time… I was so irritated to be labeled a flower girl, Im pretty sure a 14 yr old would also not want to be a flower girl.. Ours will be 2 1/2 and our ring bearer will be just shy of 4… but I think its more than acceptable to forgo them all togheter.
Post # 4
mine is 5. She is really excited about it.
My suggestion is to have the 13 year old as a Junior Bridesmaid, and then have the 4 year old walk with her at the same time, or just behind her as the flower girl. If you think throwing petals would be an issue, get her a pomander maybe?
You could also have her mother get her a flowergirl book or something from the library and talk up the role.
I actually have a 14 yr old in my wedding and she is a full-on Bridesmaid…I am not even calling her a Jr Bridesmaid. But then again, she’s my future sister in-law.
Post # 5
I had my niece – she’s like my little clone – and she’s 7.
I don’t think I would have a flower girl or junior bridesmaid if the child/girl didn’t know me or Darling Husband well. It’s a bit too much stress to be worth it! And I wouldn’t have a peeing puppy either! Would you consider a bridal party without a younger girl (or puppy)?
Post # 6
I am in a similar situation. We don’t really have a lot of kids in the family. My cousin’s daughter is 5 and she is quite adorable so I suggested we ask her. I asked her mom (my cousin) and she said she would love to, as long as she gets to wear a dress. So we’ve already asked her and I can’t take it back now, but we only see her a couple times a year. She’s sooooo shy. Whenever she does come over she stays by her mom’s side and looks down when you try talking to her.
I am thinking maybe I should try taking her out a few times this year, just so she gets to know me better?
Post # 7
My flower girl will have just turned 5 about a month before our wedding. I’ve babysat her since the day she came home from the hospital, and she’s SO excited about being my flower girl. Her sisters are also going to be my Jr. Bridesmaids. One will be 8 and the other will be 9. If they didn’t have a younger sister, they both would have been flower girls. I think anything under 10 is fine for a flower girl. Older than that and I’d go with Jr. Bridesmaid…. but really it’s whatever you want!
Post # 8
Our flowergirl will be just turning 4. She is already playing ‘going to the wedding’. I think she is really excited about it. Our ring bearer will be 5 and I think I am going to have them walk together. I am also going to have her mom towards the front of the church so she sees her if she gets scared. I really don’t care if the little ones even make it down the aisle. I am thinking of them as another way to make people smile on our wedding day.
Post # 9
My flower girl is my niece and right now she is 5. She will be 6 next summer, at the time of our wedding. You could possibly make the 14 yr old a Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man and just give her a smaller bouquet of flowers. Have her walk about before you instead of a Flower Girl. If you are not comfortable with the 4 yr old being the Flower Girl, then I would go with out. You don’t HAVE to have one!
Post # 10
Well first of all, if you don’t want a flowergirl, you shouldn’t let anyone force you to have one.
My flower girl was two. Frankly, I’m surprised she actually walked up the aisle. I was fully prepared for her to dump her basket of petals and run out of the church instead.
We weren’t around the flower girl a whole lot anyway, so I’m not sure why it would matter if you know your flowergirl that well. She was with us in the bride’s room before the ceremony but didn’t really have to be. And we took a couple formal pictures with her after the ceremony but didn’t take her to the park for the rest of the pictures with the bridal party.
Post # 11
My adorable niece will be almost 5. I can’t wait, although she might get a case of stage fright, but I guess we’ll see.
Post # 12
My flower girls will be 5yrs old and 6yrs old. I was very tempted to use the cuter aged girls who are under 4 but I just wanted to stick to girls who can make it down the aisle without any assistance. The flower girl plays a very tiny role in the wedding so I wouldnt stress about it too much.. If your Fiance really wants to use this niece of his, just let her be in it, if she messes up that wont reflect badly on you at all, people can see how young she is and will just think she is cute even if she doesnt make it down the aisle.
Post # 13
My flower girl was 2 1/2. She just carried a basket of flowers instead of dropping petals and walked beside my Maid/Matron of Honor. When she was 3, she was a flowergirl in her uncle’s wedding and told the other flower girl at rehearsal “I was a flower girl before. We can do this!” Haha it was great!
You don’t have to have a flower girl if you don’t want, but if you decide to include your FI’s neices, I don’t see why you couldn’t have the 4 yr old flower girl walk with the 13 yr old (make her a JR BM) if she’s not comfortable walking by herself.
Post # 14
If I were you I’d go with no flower girl. You don’t have to!
Post # 15
We don’t have any younger children that we are close to, so we’re not having a flower girl….or any child attendants for that matter. Our wedding is a kid free zone 😀
Post # 16
Ours was 4, my hubby’s niece. She’s not shy at all and we’re very close so it wasn’t an issue.
Could you make the older girl a junior bridesmaid? Or you could have your fi’s sister (is she in the wedding) walk down with the younger girl. My friend’s fg was terrified of being in the spot light so they had her walk down with her moh (cousin) and she did fine.