(Closed) how old should a flowergirl be?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: how old should a flowergirl be?
    1-2 years : (4 votes)
    7 %
    2-4 years : (14 votes)
    23 %
    4-6 years : (26 votes)
    43 %
    6-8 years : (13 votes)
    21 %
    8-10 years : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    First I will let you know that I had no kids in my wedding, and only 2 were invited – so you know where I stand on that.

    But I don’t usually like kids under 3 in the wedding because you never know how it will go. And I haven’t been to a wedding where it went well (at the last wedding the ring bearer was 2 and sat on the brides train, and no one made him get up, so that is where he sat…).

    But, I think if you have both the 9 yr old and the 1.5 yr old that could be cute. The older girl could help the little one.

    If you don’t pick them, I would do without rather than going with distant relatives that you aren’t close with.

    Post # 4
    Member
    331 posts
    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t ask kids/anyone that are distantly related just to fill a slot. I’d want the wedding party to have special meaning for me.

    That said, I think the “perfect” age for a flower girl would be between 5-10 simply because there would be less of a chance of “interference” or sort. Yes, it’s cute when little kids toddle on down the aisle and if they fidget a bit during the ceremony, but it does get a bit distracting and possibly annoying if they throw a fit or start to whine/cry. This is what I’ve seen as a guest so I don’t know how a bride would feel in this position.

    In your case, I’d go for the 9 year old. I sort of think jr. bridesmaids start at 11+ years old and anyone under 5 is a bit too young to be an “active” part, even if just walking down the aisle looking cute as all get out. 🙂

    If you want to incorporate both of them, you could decorate a cute little wagon or sorts with the 9 year old pulling the baby. I’ve seen variations on this and it seems to get a pretty good response (depending upon theme/formality/style of wedding).

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My little cousin and our niece will be flower girls. They will be 3.5 and 4 respectively. They are going to be so adorable and we are close with both of them!

    I also might have my junior bridesmaid (who will be 13) walk down the aisle with them. Maybe the 9 year old can be a junior bridesmaid and walk the 1.5 year old flower girl down the aisle?? I did that for my aunt’s wedding when I was 10.

    Post # 6
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    2731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I voted for 2-4 and 4-6. That seems about average to me. But, back in the day, I was a flower girl for my cousin four days before my 11th birthday. But at that time, I was the youngest girl in the family, so she didn’t have a whole lot of choices and I know she wanted to include me. If it were me, I’d go with the 9 year old girl. I don’t think people will think too much of it.

    Post # 7
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    3374 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I was 2 when I was a flower girl and I was too young to get it. I ran screaming down the aisle. The bride and groom thought it was funny, but it’s not ideal obviously.

    My ringbearer was 3 1/2 and was just barely old enough to get it. He did his job and walked down the aisle perfectly!

    Post # 8
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    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I didnt make a vote. My flower girls are going to be my daughters. My oldest will be 6 about to be 7 and my youngest daughter will be 20 mons. I cant imagine my girls (and my son will be the ring bearer, will be 4) not being a part of my day. If there is a member of your family, or friends, that you are very close to that you would love to be a part of your day, I would think about them. Dont put high expectations on children. THEY”RE CHILDREN!!! I expect them 2 mess up, but most guests will think its cute. No one is going to criticize a child for making a mistake. Wat I would criticize is adults messin up.

    Post # 9
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    You could always ask the 9 year old to be a junior bridesmaid, but perform the same things a flowergirl would. I did that when I was 9. For our wedding, we’re having two flower girls because my Future Brother-In-Law has twin daughters. They will be five during our wedding. 🙂

    I voted for all between 4-8, though it really depends on the child. My future neices are three now, and I would still let them be in my wedding if we were getting married right now because they are very well behaved and too cute!

    Post # 10
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    1089 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    5 to 10 …. I like when the flower girl knows that she has an important job and there are way less problems. They are ok with walking down the isle by her self.

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