(Closed) how old were you and your SO when you got engaged/how long did you date?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 77
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I met my fiancé when I was 19 and he was 20– we tried dating back then but it was a huge disaster! We broke up but stayed in touch. (We worked together, I really don’t recommend it.) We are now engaged at 29 (me) and 30 (him) and have been back together for just under 2 years. (We just got engaged.) I don’t think there’s a right or wrong age. Too young for some might be perfectly fine for others. Clearly for my fiance and I we needed time to mature and grow before we could be together. For another couple all those years would have been too much time and space. For me, age 29 is a perfect time. I feel ready and excited for this next chapter! (Though reading some of these posts make me feel like a bit of a late bloomer! Haha)

Post # 78
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We are 1 year and 4 months apart in age, so in the months between our birthdays we are 1 year apart and the other 8 months of the year he is 2 years older than me. 

 

We were 21 and 22 when we met, are now 23 and 25.  He is older.  We will be 24 and 25 when we get married.

 

 

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We started dating at 22 & 24. He asked me to marry him 3 months into our relationship and I told him he was crazy. NO. We officially got engaged at 25 & 27 but didn’t get married until 27 & 29 because I was doing too much traveling at work to plan a wedding. 🙂 We’re in our 30’s now and have been happily married for a few years.

My sister and her DH started dating at 20 and got married a week after they both turned 21. They are both 27 now and one of the happiest couples I know.

Do whats right for you, not what anyone else thinks. 

Post # 80
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@alohakay:  Don’t worry yourself with age. Only you and your SO know when you’re ready. Who is to say that at 20, 25, or 30 someone is magically ready because of their age? It has more to do with maturity level and commitment.

It IS true that divorces are more common among young married couples because of their lack of maturity and their instability. If you aren’t both set in careers, it may be a problem, but it may not. You just have to be aware that with love and marriage comes a little bit of sacrifice sometimes, which often comes in the form of moving somewhere for your SO’s education or job- away from family. That’s where young couples often go wrong. They focus on the superficial parts of weddings (the ring, the planning, and the honeymoon- which is all fun don’t get me wrong, just not the most important), instead of the true meaning of being husband and wife.

I am considered quite “young” to be getting married, but I’ve had a 1 year and 4 month engagement (known him 5 years, dating for 3), and we’ve had COUNTLESS people come up to us and tell us what good heads we have on our shoulders, and that we have a healthier relationship than almost anyone they know.

Don’t let people tell you you’re too young, ever. You’re smart for wanting to take things slow, but if you two have the same goals, same ideas for living location, stable income, and you truly know you want to spend your life with him, don’t let skeptics and cynics pull you down. They’d still make comments if you waited until 35 by saying, “she just doesn’t want to get too old, she’s settling.” You can’t win with people sometimes.

If you have living and money figured out, you’re halfway there. The rest is commitment and your future. (:

 

 

Post # 81
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@alohakay:  I was 25 and he was 32. We had been dating for about 11 months.

Post # 82
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We got engaged when I was 27 and he was 29. We’ll be married at 28 and 30. We’d been dating for two years and living together for one when he proposed. 

I think that getting married at a young age can definitely come with a certain set of challenges, but that can be said for marriage at any age. 

For me, personally, getting engaged at 24 would have been a mistake. I just wasn’t ready for that kind of commitment back then. On the other hand, two of my cousins got married at 19 and while I thought they were crazy, they’ve both been happily married ever since.  

Honestly, only you can tell if 24 is too young. What would be too young for some people might be perfect for you! Like someone said above, age is just a number. Smile

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@alohakay:  Started dating at 20(me) and 22(him) we were in college.  Got engaged at 23(me) and 26(him)   and got married at 25(me) and 28(him).  At that point we had lived together for 2 years and been together for almost 5 1/2.

Post # 84
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I was 19 when we started dating, and he was 24. We dated five years before we got engaged, and then had a one year engagement. 

Post # 85
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I had just turned 27 when he proposed (he was 28) and we had been dating for 8 1/2 years.  We married last month on our 10 year anniversary.

Post # 86
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - Lavender House Hotel

Just got engaged, im 21, He’s 22. Weve been together for over seven years. Lifes too short to worry about what people think of your age. If you love eachother and are committed to spending your lives together, why wait? 🙂 x

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

we got engaged at 23 and 26, we started dating at 17 and 20.

we will be 25 and 28 on our wedding day.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We started dating when I was 15 and he was 18, engaged at 18 (me) and 21 (him), married at 19 (me) and 23 (him). I will be 20 in 2 months.

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We started dating April ’11 then he popped the question April ’13 I was 29. We are getting married April 2014. 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We started dating November 2001, when we were both 15 years old. We got engaged in July 2013 when he was 27 and I was 26, and we will be married October 2014, when we are both 28  years old and just shy of dating 13 years.

Age shouldn’t be a factor in whether or not you get married. It’s about whether or not you both have the same commitment level to always making it work. 

Post # 91
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@alohakay:  DH and I met when we were 18/19. He proposed when I was 26, 8 years later. A lot of people asked why I waited so long and I said because we took our time and we both agreed that an engagement would come when we were both financially stable, done with school, and had money saved. And most importantly, when you know you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you dont mind waiting. I would have done it all over again. I dont think I waited long bc we did what worked for us. Every couple is different. We got married on our 10 year anniversary. We had a 22 month engagement which worked well for us bc we also moved in together 7 months before the wedding so we needed the long emgagement to also save money to furnish the apartment

 

Dont worry about people saying you are too young. If you both feel that you are ready and are in love and have no doubts that you want to spend your lives together, than everyone else is insignificant

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