(Closed) how old were you and your SO when you got engaged/how long did you date?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 92
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Busy bee

27 got engaged  (to be married at 28!). He will be 29 when we get married. We dated just a few days past a year when we got engaged.

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@otto2008:  The whole idea of having a long engagement to “see if it works out” is so silly though. Getting engaged means you are 100% ready to get married, and you need X amount of months to plan the wedding. This is why nowadays engagement doesn’t mean much because most people who do get engaged break up with their SO before they get married. 

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I met my now fiance this past January. We lived together for about 8 months already (at least – we moved in together really fast for financial reasons). It accelerated our relationship a lot – but I know for sure I want to marry him. We got engaged on Christmas, and our expected wedding date is October 2015. We will both be 23 (1/2) years old. 

If we had not lived together prior then our relationship would not be ready so soon

Post # 95
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Helper bee

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@sauerdragon:  I said that to be a middle grounder. She is worried about being too young to get married but doesn’t want to leave her SO. So why not have a long engagement to be older. Because IMO, two years isn’t enough time (when they started dating at 22), they’re going to change a lot in the next couple of years. But if she wants to be engaged I don’t see why she has to wait, there isn’t any rule book on how old people should be before being engaged. Many couples have a long engagement to save money or to plan without stress, so why not wait because she’s feeling young.

 

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was 32 and DH was 30 when we got engaged. We were dating for 10 months. 

Post # 97
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We got engaged in November, I’m 26 and he’s 35. We’ve been together just over 5 years. We’re getting married next fall, so I’ll be 27 and he’ll be 36. We waited to take the “next step” until we were in a stable, secure financial situation. I was still in college when we met and it took me a long time to land a good job after graduating. I wanted to make sure I could contribute everything that he was to our relationship, and that I could stand on my own two feet. I don’t think age should be considered an indicator of how successful your marriage will be. Every relationship and situation is different.

Post # 98
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@alohakay:  Fiance proposed this past November. He is 26 and I’m 25. We’ve been dating for over 6 years and won’t be married until 2015 (so just about a 2 year engagement).

 

Would you be interested in a compromise? He could propose in March like he wants, but you guys can wait a bit longer to have a wedding – for instance 1.5 or 2 years instead of 1 year. You’ll be a bit older that way and you’ll both have time to accomplish any life goals you want to before marriage. You’ll also have some extra time to save for a wedding as well.

Post # 99
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Wannabee

It took me a little while to find “the one”, but it was totally worth the wait!  I am 34 and he is 29. Yup, my man is young, hot and I love it! πŸ™‚  We had been dating for about 2 1/2 years when he suprised me in the most romantic way with a proposal and a beautiful ring, which he selected and designed all by himself.  I truly would not have wanted it any other way!  We were friends for about 2 years prior to dating. Love is truly a beautiful thing!

Oh, I am new to these boards by the way, so hello Bees!  I look forward to chatting with you all! 

Post # 100
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Helper bee

I was 23 when we got engaged (2 days before my birthday), 25 when we got married. DH was 25 when we got engaged and 26 when we got married. We were together 4 years before getting engaged, and lived together for 7 months. 

Post # 100
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel

He proposed last November, we were both 24. I will be 25 and he will be 26 when we get married next May. 

We had been together 5 years, since I was 19. We had lived together and been completely financially independent for 2 years. Both have good jobs and are on track with our careers, know each other very well and are good at solving problems together. We have achieved a good balance when it comes to finances (paying bills, saving for things etc.) and housework. 

I think these things are much more important than age. There is certainly no rush to get married, at least there wasn’t for us – we just felt right about it, and have no reason not to. 

Post # 101
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My FH is 24 and I’m 23, we’re getting married this October and were engaged in June last year. We’ve been together almost 7 years and have lived together for over 3 πŸ™‚

If you guys are ready then do what feels right. I was worried about ‘being too young’ but it feels right and everyone has actually been really supportive! From family to friends to all the suppliers for our wedding, everyone has been great! Only our florist made a comment about our age but left it alone pretty quick after we told her how long we’d been together lol. Some people are just old fashioned πŸ˜‰ Good luck ! x

Post # 102
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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alohakay:  We had been dating for 11 years when he proposed and we were both 28. πŸ™‚

 

Post # 103
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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alohakay:  I’m 36 and Fiance is 42. Neither of us have been married before. We dated for a little over a year when we got engaged in February and are getting married in November. We would have engaged before but Fiance lost his job unexpectedly not long after we started going out. He got a new one in February.

Do I wish I would have gotten married younger?  Sure I do. But that’s life. It took me this long to find someone worth my time and energy.  I made lots of friends, had fun, did some travelling and got myself a great education and career. And learned lots of lessons lol.

Post # 104
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Blushing bee

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alohakay:  I was 23 when we met and he was 25, I moved in after 6 months of dating because I got a better job near his, and we got engaged just before our 4 year anniversary, I’m 27, he is turning 30 soon.  We aren’t getting married for another year or two, and it’s mostly just because of scheduling with the things we have going on in life. 

Maybe if you get engaged, take the first 6 months of the engagement to just enjoy the idea of getting married, don’t set a date, don’t get wrapped up in plans.  I’d say once you’ve lived together over a year (a very wise monk/professor at my college recommended that if couples live together before marriage, they should do so for at least two years to see how well their true selves blend and live together).  I know for almost the whole first year we lived together I kind of felt like I was on good behavior, the first 3-6 months I probably acted like I would if i were a guest in someone’s home.  You know yourself though, if you are relaxed and comfortable living together now and he is as well, then you are probably ready to get engaged.  You can wait until you are 25-26 to actually get married if it fits into your plans better.

Post # 105
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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LarLa:  i completely agree w/ so much you’ve said here!

i am 33 and FH is 39 – we are getting married a month from today (CRAZY) and this will be the first marriage for both of us πŸ™‚

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