How old were you when you got married and had kids?

posted 4 months ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: How old did you get married and have children?
    Before 20 : (2 votes)
    3 %
    20-21 : (2 votes)
    3 %
    22-23 : (7 votes)
    10 %
    24-25 : (5 votes)
    7 %
    26-27 : (6 votes)
    9 %
    28-29 : (12 votes)
    18 %
    30-31 : (11 votes)
    16 %
    Other Age : (23 votes)
    34 %
  • Post # 2
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

    No kids, but we got engaged at 24 and married at 25.

    Post # 3
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    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    I started way too early, not the perfect time at all.  I married a man as a teenager and 23 years later discovered he was cheating on me with a co worker for 3 years.  I am now engaged to a wonderful man and am getting married next month.  regardless of the timing, the children i had with my ex husband are wonderful young men and are gifts that i would never exchange.  I learned a lot, and at this point, looking back, 27 or 28 seems like it would have been a perfect age to make a mature choice and really be the best mom i could be.  

    Post # 4
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    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    Married at 28, first kid at 29, second at 31.

    No idea what is perfect. We felt ready in our relationship, our finances, and emotionally.

    Post # 5
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    3540 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

    daenerystargaryen93 :  I imagine that most people will report a different age for marriage and children, but your poll puts them together. While I got married at 25, we started trying for a baby when I was 27. I’m now 28 and we are pursuing fertility treatment, so I have no clue how old I’ll be by the time I have a baby in my arms. Hopefully by 29 or 30.  

    Post # 6
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I got engaged a month after I turned 21 during my last year of college, got married at 22. I got pregnant at 23 and had my little girl a few months before I turned 24. Wouldn’t change it for the world, actually had issues staying pregnant so I’m happy my timeline happened the way it did and we are super happy. Will have been married 2 years come July

    Post # 7
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    Yeah, the two are separate. I voted 30-31. I’ll turn 30 a few weeks after we get married. No definitive timeline on kids yet, but not like years or anything. I’m super happy that I didn’t get married and start having kids young…it’s been wonderful to have time with Fiance, time to pursue my hobbies, time to travel. I’m already a little broody, and I find myself looking forward to the changes that having a kid will bring…I’m well past any desire to go go go go go. 

    Post # 8
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    340 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Married at 24 and first baby at 28. I would have been okay with a couple years sooner, but my husband wasn’t ready, and the timing felt good in the end. 

    Post # 9
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    6806 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Wow so my age range just fell right off the map, huh? 

    Post # 10
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    4128 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m old as dirt according to your poll options. I was 38 when I got married and 39 and 41 when I had my kids. 

    The right time to get married is when you find the right person (treats you well, similar goals and morals, etc) and are financially ready to be a unit and live independantly. There is no AGE that is the right time. It varies for everyone. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    Married at 28, will have first kid at 30- so there wasn’t really a poll option for me. I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s the “perfect” age but I didn’t meet my now-husband until I was 25 so- a bit limited there. And some people don’t meet the person they’re supposed to be with until they’re 35. People meet people and attain different life milestones at different times so there’s really no “perfect” age to do anything. 

    ETA: I do feel like it was important for me to have fulfilled my non-romantic/procreation related milestones first. Being self sufficient, establishing a career, etc. When I met my now-husband I was at a point in my life where I knew exactly what I wanted and didn’t want in a relationship, so I didn’t beat around the bush. 

    Post # 12
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    9736 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    The poll doesn’t work if you didn’t have kids exactly after getting married. 

    There is no perfect time. You need to have a place to live, stable jobs, income to support a child and the emotional maturity to be a good parent. That doesn’t happen at a certain age for everyone. 

    Post # 13
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    9620 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I can’t really answer your poll because we are waiting a bit after marriage to have kids.

    We got married at 26.

    Planning on TTC next summer at 30.

    There is no such thing as the perfect time. Each person and every relationship is different so you have to figure out what works for you. 

    Post # 14
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    2820 posts
    Sugar bee

    This may not wind up being the most accurate poll because:
    A) Marriage and babies don’t always (or even often) occur the exact same year
    B) Getting married and having kids in your 30s is very common and you’ve left that age range off entirely. I only know one person that got married in their late 20s and they didn’t have kids til their 30s. 

    To answer your question – I got married at 30 and plan on having kids when I’m around 35. 

    There really isn’t a perfect time for everyone. It depends on way too many individual factors – where you live, your lifestyle, what your career is, when you meet the right person etc. etc. If you try to force it based on external expectations you’re a lot more likely to make decisions for the wrong reasons and wind up unhappy. 

    Post # 15
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    9736 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Everyone knows us cryptkeepers can’t reproduce!llevinso :  

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