(Closed) How old were you when you met SO and what's the age gap?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
407 posts
Helper bee

Sugar Plum.x:  We were both 20. He’s a few months older. We didn’t date until 6 years after that though.

My mom met my dad when she was 21 and he was 35. They had a great marriage. Age gaps can work out just fine.

Post # 47
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I met my Darling Husband when I was 20 and he was 28, about to turn 29 the next month. So almost 9 years for the age gap. It’s never bothered us. We get along splendidly; I get along with people older than myself, and he is very energetic and a lot of fun. I never thought I’d marry someone with that big of an age gap (my limit growing up was 4-5 years), but love surprises you sometimes!

Post # 48
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I was 23 and he was 26. We are 2 years and 2 months apart!

Post # 49
1435 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

We met when I was 25 and he was 34. Today I am 36 and he is 45. We have been married now for almost 8 years and we have a son who will be one next week! Dh looks very good for his age. He has a full head of hair and hardly has any grays. We don’t look like we have a 9 year age gap. I look younger than my age too though!

Post # 50
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We were 20 or 21 when we met and 21 when we started dating. I’m 10 weeks old than he is lol

Post # 51
176 posts
Blushing bee

I was 20 (5 months from 21) and he was 28 (2 months from 29 when we met and began dating. Was never an issue!!

Post # 52
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was 21 almost 22 and he had just turned 38 When we met. I didn’t realise he was as old as he was when we first started chatting and it didn’t come up until half way through our first date when I was a bit shocked by his age and he mine. He thought I was about 27 (cheeky sod) I thought he was early 32ish. So we thought about 5 years difference it’s actually just over 16. But we have never noticed it he’s a manchild and I’ve always been oldminded.  

Post # 53
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

I was 19 going on 20 when I met my husband. He was 31. He looked really young though…like 25 max. We have a 12 yr age gap and it doesn’t really bother us.

Post # 54
6523 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I was 25, he was just barely 23, so a 2.5 year age gap.  If the guy is younger, I wouldn’t go for any farther apart – it took him ages to feel ready for marriage, even though he was a pretty mellow, settled down guy and his best friend got married a year after we met. (Seriously, almost 9 years before we got engaged!) He’s often said he wished he was older because our timelines would have meshed better.  It’s just now kicking into reality for him that it’s almost too late to have kids – he said I need to have twins when I get pregnant so we won’t have to worry about time for a sibling, lol.

 Obviously if the man you’re asking about is older, that shouldn’t be as dire an issue as he’s had plenty of time to mature.

Post # 55
3 posts
  • Wedding: August 2018

I was 20 and he was 33, now 21 and 34 – his birthday is the day before mine 😊 I personally have never noticed the age gap and we couldn’t be happier. 

Post # 56
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was 18, he was 28 (turning 29 shortly after we met). So 10.5 years difference. The age gap wasn’t noticeable, because I’ve always been seen as an old soul and have been responsible/mature. We’ve been together 5 years now and the age difference has never been an issue. 

Post # 57
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I was 19, he is 7 years older than me. Started dating a few months before I turned 22. The age difference is ok, although I first knew him as faculty where I went to college, so it was an interesting adjustment to make! 

Post # 58
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We met when we were both 20. He is 3 months older than me. 

Post # 59
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I was 20 and he was 22, we have 2 years and 12 days between us.

Post # 60
31 posts
  • Wedding: April 2016

Sugar Plum.x:  I was 33 and he was 23.  We’re now 36 and 26.  It looks like a big deal on paper, but it’s not.  In fact, he’s far more mature than I am.  My parents are the only ones that find issue with the age gap, no else even notices.  There are a few times something will come up that I was a kid and he wasn’t born yet.  But it’s just kind of a funny thing….

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