Post # 1
some of you bees may have noticed my other posts about my FI’s recent cold-fish attitude, and how we may be on the verge of ending our engagement 🙁
I’m going to be 30 in less than a week, and am tempted to get really depressed and lose hope that i’ll EVER meet someone again if Fiance don’t work it out and get married in July, as planned…
and while i want it to work out with HIM, if it doesn’t, i still want to meet someone better for me someday…
so i’m putting this question out there……..
how many of you were in your 30’s when you met the person you’re marrying or married? how old were you when you met him? is there hope for me to meet someone in the next few years, get married, and start a family?
and i apologize if this comes across as obnoxious or offensive in any way to any of you. i’m in a really sad place right now (which you may know if youve seen my threads…)
Post # 3
You will be fine. I didn’t meet my Fiance until I was 33 and I had never been in love and neither had he and he was 36 when we met. You could still find some one if your Fiance and you don’t get married. I’m currently 35 and we are talking about a family and how we see that in our future but we want to be married for a couple of years before we begin that. You still have time.
Post # 4
I was 34 and he was 35. We married out 36 for both of us. We are eight months apart in age. Neither of us was even married before or engaged both. I think both of our longest relationships were about three months.
Post # 5
thanks….obviously logic tells me it is plausible, and other people’s happy stories are encouraging…but when it feels like the world i’ve been building is falling apart around me, these reminders are needed.
so thank you.
Post # 6
PLEASE don’t settle for less than what you really want. You don’t want to have regrets down the road wondering what if….
I never wanted to get married, and if I did, I always hoped it would be to someone who travelled a lot. I wanted a weekend husband if I had to have one at all!
I got married at 29. The chemistry between us was magic. Almost 30 years later and it still is.
Right now you’re in a bad place, but I think if you’re honest with yourself you’ll realize,(and from what little you’ve shared about it), everything that’s wrong didn’t happen in the past few days. It’s OK to walk away when it isn’t right. Don’t sell yourself short. You really deserve so much better.
Post # 7
I know so many people who have! you are still plenty young, please please please don’t settle for unhappiness – because that will most likely lead to divorce and many years lost….
My cousin met her husband at 34, married at 35, two kids over the next 3 years…
A very good friend broke up with her BF/amost FI at 33, met a new guy at 34, they moved in 9 months later and will be engaged any day now
A good friend got marrieda at 24, divorced at 29, met her husband at 30, married at 33…..
I could honestly go on,
Post # 8
I know lots of people much older than you who have met wonderful partners. But if you stay with someone who isn’t right for you you’ll never have the chane to meet them. Really it’s not worth it to be with someone who isn’t right for you. It probably won’t work anyway and you won’t be happy. AND 30 isn’t anywhere near being old!!!!!
Post # 9
Me personally, I am in my mid-twenties and I met my BF almost a year ago. There is a bit of an age difference, he is 31.
Don’t stress about the age. One of my best friends, who is also 31, is getting married to a woman who is 36. They met when she was 34. The age difference has not been a problem for them at all, the only issue is whether they are going to have biological children or adopt. My friend says he is open towards all options, as long as he gets to raise a family with the love of his life.
I do hope things work out for you and your Fiance, but do keep in mind that there are other men who would want to date you 🙂
Post # 10
I was 11, 14 when we started dating. But we’re weird! most people don’t meet that young. Don’t worry, I firmly believe that it doesn’t really have to do with age.
Post # 11
I was 15-16 and in high school.
Post # 12
Your going through a difficult period. Sometimes we think problems appear out no where, but usually they’ve been brewing for a while. Just know that you are important and if your not happy its not worth to wait and see if things get better. Either you work it out or start over. My FH and I saw each other for the first time 5 years ago, he was 24 I was 20. We were not introduced almost a year later, he was the best man and I the maid of honor @ our best friends’ wedding. We’ve had are difficult periods in these almost 5 years, but we worked through them. Recently it was not having a date set for the wedding . It was bugging me because I turned 25! yeah I know what am I thinking. But when my friends are all married and people ask you when is the wedding you start thinking and stressing. Today we still do not have a date. We worked our issues out and I stopped caring about others and concentrating on us. On February 13 of this year was our 1 year engagement anniversary. Where I’m going at is some of our women stresses and in my cases insecurities can interfere and put a strain on your relationship. My advice is to communicate your concerns, and try to work out a plan. In the end wheter you decide to stay or leave. What matters most is your happiness. And if this guy is not the one for you believe 30 is young, and there is no reason why love cant find you. My best wishes for you 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
I believe I was 15 when I first met Justin, and we started dating when I was 17. We got engaged six years later, and married in our eigth year of being together. This April, we’ll have been together ten years already!
I’m very particular about the men I like, and I know now that if we split up, my increased confidence would mean that I’d MEET a lot of people but likely have a hard time finding someone RIGHT. I think that at this age I’d be more than up for the challenge. However, not having been single for so long, I can’t even remember what it’s like.
Post # 14
I’m sorry you are going through a hard time in your current relationship and I hope you two will be able to work it out.
That said, I was one month shy of 31 when we met. He was 30 – we will both be 35 when we get married. A lot of my friends (in their mid 30’s) are meeting, marrying and having kids all within a 2-3 year time span. We joke around that weddings and babies go in cycles. I big wedding boom around 23, then babies, then another wedding boom around 27-28, and now another one around 33-35.
It is certainly not to late to ‘start again’ at 29. Not sure where you are from, but around my circle the average age to have a first kid is about 33 (a close friend is having her first in May and she turned 36 in January!).
I’m living proof you can have a later start. My mom and dad got married when she was 37 and had me at 42!
Best of luck to you.
Post # 15
please don’t get depressed! whatever your situation, do not get married out of fear that it may be your only chance. if things don’t work out, don’t despair, there will always be someone else. YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY MEET SOMEONE ELSE. i’m sure all of us would if any of our directions changed. i’m in my mid 30’s and i know plenty of people who have met their partners in their 30’s, and plenty of people still looking, and even a few in their 30’s looking to marry again. if you really want to have a family and are concerned about time, confirm he shares your goals in that too before you go through getting married. i haven’t seen your posts, but yes, 30 is very young!!!! you have loads of time to see the world, meet someone, and start a family! oh, the possibilities! seriously!
Post # 16
If deep in your heart you know he’s not the one, then marrying him will only make it harder to find the one.
They say 30 is the new 20! =)