(Closed) how old were you when you met your FI?

posted 10 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 167
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I was 28, he was 24. We are now 35 & 31 respectively ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 168
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 This will be my second marriage, but I met my fiance back when I was 15! We reconnected in our 30’s on a social networking site.

Post # 169
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I met my FH when I was 30.  We worked together for almost 3 years.  We began dating when I was 33 and he proposed when I was 34.  When we will be married he will be 31 and I will be 35.

Believe me, I’ve been there, it took a lot of dating what I thought I was attracted to to find what I needed. I spent a year by myself before we decided to date and was completely okay with being single for the rest of my life.  I enjoyed my time around my friends, I enjoyed my own time, and I was okay with this.  

Of course, that’s when FH and I started dating.  LOL Wink

You can’t just say it, you have to believe it.  Literally begin dating yourself, finding out what you want.  Learn how to ask for it and don’t settle. 

I love my FH.  Relationships are difficult, none of them are as easy as the media makes it out to.  It’s hard.  But the end is worth it.  Not settling is worth it.  The scumbags I dated before him that broke my heart?  He is worth it.

You are worth it too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 170
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

OMG, please! You are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO young, my dear. Unless you live in the countryside, there are millions of single men in their 30’s near you. 

And by the way, men mature A LOT in their 30s. A LOT. (I am tremendously thankful I did not marry ANY of the men I dated in my 20s.)

I met my fiance when I was 32 and he was 33. We were just friends for 3 years — we had a lot of friends in common and we shared dating advice with one another from time to time. Then he asked me out when I was 35 and he was 36. After I got over the initial shock that he was interested, we dated for 2 years. We had been living together for 10 months when he proposed — I was 37 and he was 38. We are getting married after 1.5 years of engagement — I just turned 39 and he will be 40 shortly.

Most of the couples I know who married in their 20’s are getting divorced now. Better to be slow and steady than fast and furious.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

Post # 171
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

16. We had hooked up at 18, but we didn’t start dating until we were 25 (after I had already been married) and we’ll be 28 when we get married. 

Post # 172
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Worker bee

@joygirl:  36 when I met the love of my life. Looking back, I am so grateful that I didn’t settle for any of the guys I met in my 20’s. I know myself and what I want ever more so in my 30’s.

Post # 173
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I was 23 & he was 28.

Post # 174
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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Post # 175
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Worker bee

I met the love of my life at age 36…he was 29 at the time.  We met naturally & thought we’d see each other again but lost track of one another, and ironically, mutual friends set us up three months later.  We’ve nearly dated two years, so I’m hoping to tie the knot for the very first time at age 38.

Post # 176
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I was 30 when I met my Fiance…we’ll both be 32 when we get married on our 2 year anniversary of our first date.  FWIW, I broke up with a long-term boyfriend the year before I met Fiance when I was 29…we’d been together for 6 years.  I wouldn’t say I was in the “waiting” stage, as I wasn’t sure I wanted to marry him (okay, hindsight is 20/20 and now I know that means the relationship isn’t right, but at the time I just thought I “didn’t believe in marriage”.).

Anyway, even though I didn’t necessarily want to marry my ex, it definitely hit me after we broke up that I’d “gotten old” while we were dating.  What helped me with those feelings is taking control of my own future:

I finished grad school and got my master’s.  I started a new job. I bought a house on my own (awesome!) and I told my friends/mom that I was going to consider adopting when I was 35 and was going to save up for that.  I felt very “in control” and I definitely didn’t feel any big rush to meet anyone.  I dated around a bit and was just having fun.

Then of course….once I planned my future, I met my now-FI, we got engaged, and his job transferred us all the way across the country.  SO, my little plans didn’t work out, but it sure gave me peace of mind.  On the upside, I now have a rental property, so that’s cool.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 177
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Technically, we were 12 when we met. We went to junior high together but didn’t “hook up” again until early last year via facebook lol. I’m 22, he’s 23 and we’d like to be married by 24/25 or 25/26.

Post # 177
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We have dated off and on for a loooooong time, but when Fiance and I met I was 25 and he was 18.  When we get married I will be 42 and he will be 35.

Post # 178
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I met him when I was 16 and he was 18. We adored each other from the start. He would pick me up and drive me to the beach! We had so much fun swimming in the ocean and laughing for hours — But nothing came of it!!! He was joining the military and exited my life for the next 20 years! He did ask me for my address before he went to bootcamp so he could write me letters. – And he actually did! LOL. We were always friends and friendly — our lives went very different directions. I actually married someone else and it ended very quickly as it was a clear mismatch from the start!!!! –

Suddenly my guy is back in my life – a man now, some silvers in his hair. We have been peas and carrots for the last three years. Best friends and adventure team!! It just feels right! We are very excited about moving forward together. He is 39 and I’m 37 now. We just got married last week. Just the two of us at the courthouse.

We are going to throw a big party next may when he retires from the military. I couldn’t be happier – and I don’t care that we are finding eachother again after missing out on 20 years together. We both grew into the people we are today and I’m grateful for my experiences that have given me more patience and wisdom.

Don’t worry that you are turning 30. It is hardly the end. – LOL I was married at 32 and divorced at 35 cause it was just so so so wrong. I also felt sad, but it was just wrong wrong and I had tried to tell myself it was right. The right man will not leave you hanging – will not give you doubt. Everything will just fit – you just have to keep being you and working on making yourself the best you there is. If it works out with this guy-  great- if not – oh well . . count yourself lucky you aren’t trapped to someone who makes you miserable!! I’d rather be single than married to the wrong man!  

Hang in there! 

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