(Closed) how old were you when you met your FI?

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with all the other posters.  My Fiance and I actually met when I was 22 but we lost touch and started dating when I was 31 and he was 35.  At 22, I was not ready for a real relationship or to settle down.  I had my share of wrong relationships (including another engagement) and I would not trade those experiences for anything!  I think he and I are entering our relationship with a much better sense of who we are as individuals and how we want to be as a couple.  So, as the other Bees have said, don’t get married because you’re approaching 30… get married when you feel it is right. (for some it might be younger than 30 but for many of some of us it just takes a little longer… but SOOO worth the wait!!) good luck! 

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Im sorry about how your Fiance is acting. Don’t get down. Things will look up for you… in the mean time, don’t let your YOUNG age get you down. If he decides he doesn’t want you to be a part of his life right now, he will soon learn that he was wrong and come back.  I met my Fiance when I was 16 going on 17 and we have been through ups and downs.  Yes… I was young, but im older at heart :). Anyways, what im trying to say is that if he want’s you he will be there waiting for you to walk down the aisle.  Good luck!!! Hope all turns out well.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill

I was 28 and he was 38 when we began dating.  We were 31 and 41 when we married this summer.  Don’t lose heart, joygirl.  I know it’s easy to do when things are rough and uncertain.  Just remember, it’s never too late for love… whether it’s with your current SO or some wonderful man you have yet to meet.

(((hug)))

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. But I am sure that if things do not work out you will be able to find a great guy. You could join different groups or match.com If you work outside your home there are always places to meet men. But to answer your question me and the Fiance met in Highschool when we were 15 or 16 but we did not start dating till we were 19 and are currently 22. But keep your head up and im sure everything will work out in the way its supposed to *hugs*

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I moved to England at age 30, to take on a new opportunity at work.  I met the love of my life less than four months later, and we were engaged by the time my one-year moving anniversary came along.  If I had let my fear stop me from leaving the US and taking this new opportunity, I would’ve never met him.  I can’t imagine missing out on this level of love and compatibility– what my husband and I have is so much better and stronger than anything I’d ever dreamed.  You can’t let fear stop you from taking the steps that you know deep down are necessary for your future peace and happiness.

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

When I was 29, I was dating a guy who was clearly not ready to be married.  We broke up right before I turned 30 and I thought i would never find anyone who would be as fun to marry as he would.  I was meeting with someone at work about life indurance right after that and I was so depressed that I had no one other than my dog to put own on my form as the person who would receive it.  I”m writing that here because its just so laughable now.  My boyfriend then needed a few years to grow up.  From what I hear, he’s very happily married now.  And I met my Fiance when I was 33 who not only is fun to marry, but makes me  better person and happier in so many more way than the other one ever could have.  We actully broke up after  a year of dating so I went thru the whole I’m so old I”ll never meet anyone thing, just like I did when I was 30.  My point is, you n your fince are going thru  a rough time.  If it works out, great, you will look back and be glad that it did.  If it doesn’t, there is still so much time.  All the time I had for myself has been so worth it.  And now I have the best relationship that is so much better than any of the others I thought ever were.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

I was living with 2 other 30something females 2 years ago. We all have since married within 10 months of each other. One was 34, one was 35 and me- 36 when we met our (now) husbands. One couple met at church, one met at work and  I met through mutual friends (whom I also loosely had worked with at church).  We had dating/engagement periods ranging from 2 months to 18 months. Just pick a good one…even if you have to wait and wait. Make sure you are ready to GIVE and in a place where you can choose a lifetime committed partner with a clear head.

By the way, all 3 of us (and 2 of our husbands) were never married with no kids.  And..my cousin just got divorced last summer due to her husband’s jerky cavorting—she is in her mid  30’s with 2 young kiddos– and is now with a fabulous guy in his early 30’s who hasn’t been married either but is very committed and is pursuing settling down with her. My point is…it can happen at any stage…just keep on maturing yourself and your current friendships.  Stay strong and keep the faith!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was 21 just turned 30 on Sunday.

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What a tough situation, my heart goes out to you. – but my one piece of advice is DO NOT force something that shouldn’t happen. I was going to break up with my “first” fiance and now ex-husband the day he proposed.  I caved, said yes, married 6 months later, and divorced 4 years after.  I met my “real” fiance when I was 28, he was 22!  We’ve been together nearly 2 years and will be married in July. I can tell you that after a divorce, then a bad long-term boyfriend after that I was OVER marriage.  But then I met my fiance and he’s amazing. We share a birthday and I’ll be 31 on our wedding day and he’ll be 25.  I have a more than a few friends who are well into their 30s and either divorced or single and I think they’ve got the best of it! They can go younger, older, same age – whatever.  The world is at your fingertips. Do not settle 🙂

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I met him for the first time when I was 24 when I first met him but we started dating two months before my 26th birthday.  I will be almost 29 when we get married.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I believe there is someone out there for everyone.  Don’t give up and don’t ever settle for something/someone less than you deserve.

I met my Fiance a couple weeks before my 24th birthday and we will be married a couple weeks before my 29th bday!

Post # 29
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495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

18….we met my freshman year in college and will be getting married when I’m 26. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We were both 20 when we met…but we were friends in college, so that’s why it was so long…but I know PLENTY of friends who have met and married before us who were 30 or older…don’t let that get to you!!!! you are young…so concentrate on meeting someone who will can share your life with…not someone who will make you miserable…

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I met my fiance when I was one week away from turning 33.  I can’t tell you how happy I am with him.  There is someone out there — don’t ever settle and don’t ever allow yourself to get discouraged!   

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