(Closed) how old were you when you met your FI?

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I met my Fiance when I was 28 and he was 39.  At our wedding, we’ll be 30 and 40. 

Before Fiance I was with my college boyfriend from age 20 to 28.  After we split, I was sure I had wasted the best years of my life and would never find anyone in time to have a family by age 35. After all, I had just been in an 8 year relationship that got me nowhere near marriage!

And, that same year, into my life walked my Fiance. There will be someone, your Fiance or someone else.  Just be sure you’re doing the right thing. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Please don’t ever think “it’s too late” to find your perfect match!  From 19 until 29 I was with my first love, engaged to my rebound at 30, proposed to on my 32nd by my daughter’s father—but knew in my heart none of them were right for me.  I stayed single from age 35 until 37 when I met my future husband.  Our wedding is planned for three months before I turn 40 (although we secretly eloped in January) and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I may not have done it ‘textbook’ like the rest of my family (my mom, and both sisters married their high school sweethearts by 23 yo) but it was what worked for me.  I was never in any rush to get married and so happy I wasn’t or I may have missed out on my ‘THE ONE’!!!  Good luck and remember to follow your heart, not your age schedule

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We met when I was 21 and he was 22. I don’t think age has to do with it at all though….whether 15 or 50 😉

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was 27 and he was 30.  

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

It’s so easy to feel hopeless right now, but when you least expect you will find someone.  Just don’t give up on it, or pass up on opportunities. 

As for you ?, we met when I was 19 and he was 24, we didn’t start dating until I was 22 and he was 27.  And just after a bad break-up when I was convinced I wasn’t going to find someone for a long time, so life definitely gives you nice surprises. 

Keep hopeful and no matter what don’t settle and have fun in the meantime, life’s too short.

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

In the area I live in (Boston, MA) almost everyone is 30 or older before getting married. I am freakishly young at 27! My fiance was 31 when we met, and i’d say 2/3 of his friends are still looking for their match. 30 is NOT old, you should definitely take whatever time you need to get what you really want out of a relationship. Use this time to become a more interesting person if it doesn’t work out with your finace!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Okay, while my story may not help you (we met when we were 21 while on a study abroad tour – we’re both 33 & marrying in June), let me just say that we’re one of the LAST in our groups of friends to be married…most of THEM met/started dating when they were in their late twenties, early thirties & all but two friends were married & having kids before us.  My favorite wife our FI’s friend didn’t meet FI’s friend until she was 29 (just before her 30th b-day) & they married 3 years ago (when she was 32)…they’re trying to get pregnant with their first baby & she’s turning 36. Another of FI’s friends (this time the best man at our wedding) married at 21, divorced at 26, & with a little help from his friends (me & one of my BMs) is dating a MARVELOUS woman in her 30s (we’re hoping they REALLY hit it off!).  So you’re not alone, in dating in your 30s, nor will you be alone while you date – your friends will help you by hooking you up with great guys (at least that what my Bridesmaid or Best Man is doing for her friend with the BEST man at our wedding…)!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Omg, I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Please do not feel that there is no hope in meeting someone new after you’ve turned 30. I do hope that things work out for you and your fiance but please don’t hold on just because you are afraid you won’t find someone else. There are still so many people in their thirties who are searching for a lifetime partner. You wouldn’t be the only one. My cousin met her fiance when she was 31. They’re getting married next year. Also, my colleague met her husband when she was 38 and he was 42. He was a divorcee and has kids, but he’s such a good guy and she’s very happy. I think love can be found at any age. Good luck girl! All the best to you!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

my cousin was 31 when she met my other cousin on the other side of my family who was 35 i just attended their wedding sept 2009 they were together for a year and half before getting married… there def hope and they were the happiest couple i have seen getting married ever, they couldnt stop smiling

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I met my fiance when I was 33 and will be 38 when we marry. Your age doesn’t matter in the scheme of things. What matters is marrying the wrong person. Good luck!

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am 34 and he’s 39.  I am happy that it’s him and not some of my exes.  When you get older, you realize more things about yourself, and it’s easier to determine what you want.  I think that’s why marriages between older folks tend to work out better.  I also had an engagement end when I was about your age, and I think it was definitely good that it ended.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

When we started dating, it was about a month before my 29th birthday. He was 23. Now, it’s a month before my 35th birthday and he’s 29.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Our first date was 5 days before my 27th birthday which I tried to avoid telling him; however at the end of the night he wanted to make plans for that weekend, and not being good at one-the-spot lies, I stammered that I couldn’t because I already had plans for my upcoming birthday.  Fortunately I was able to refrain from telling him the plans were with my on-again/off-again ex-boyfriend;)

I’d also like to point out he in fact called on my birthday and left a VM but did NOT say happy birthday or even acknowledge the fact.  To this day I give him a hard time about it.

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was 28 and he was 29.  We will be 35 and 36 when we marry in March ’11

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I was 30 (2 weeks away from my 31st b-day) and he was 38 (2.5 months away from his 39th b-day).

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