(Closed) how old were you when you met your FI?

posted 11 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are born the same year but I’m 6 months older than he.

We met when I was 25 and he 24. We’ll be 32 and 31 when we get married this September.

When I met my Fiance I had just got out from a really really bad relationship – thay guy didn’t hit me or anythig like that but he was a big big jerk. I thought I would never meet someone nice and normal. Even thoug I had been with really nice guys in the past. And I never thought I would go back to normal after beeing with someone so manipulating and egoistic.

Don’t stress and don’t settle is my advise. Listen to your gut feeling, what does it tell you? It is never too late to find the one.

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We met when I was 30, and I turned 31 three months later. (I’m 33 now, he’s 30).

Whatever you do, don’t put so much emphasis on age. Don’t settle, either. I went through some pretty bad relationships before meeting Fiance, and you know what? I didn’t find “the one” I was meant to be with until I STOPPED looking. I got comfortable with myself, figured out who I am, and what I wanted from this life. My Fiance came along when he was supposed to and not a minute before.

A friend gave me a birthday card on my 30th Birthday, and wrote “I have a feeling  this is going to be YOUR year.” I thought she was nuts, but it turned out she was right. I saved the card. It’s a nice reminder of all the wonderful things that happened to me that year. πŸ™‚

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was engaged at in my very early 20s and we broke it off 6 weeks after he proposed. At the time it felt like my world was ending, but nearly a decade later I am about to marry a wonderful man who is truly my best friend. We met when I was 25, and I’ll be 29 when we marry. There absolutely are second, third and even tenth acts in lives, and yours is coming – chin up, joygirl. πŸ™‚

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Cosigning @monkeygirl…it happened for me when I stopped looking and worked on myself for a while, too πŸ™‚

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Also, I wouldn’t want to marry someone who doesn’t want to marry me. If you don’t think your Fiance wants to marry you, get out and move on with your life. It will hurt like hell in the beginning (breakups always do), but over time it will get easier. Best of all you will free yourself up to be available for YOURSELF, to get to know YOU, and what YOU want and where you want to be.

I’d rather wait for the right person than waste more time marrying the WRONG person. Deep down, you already know the answer. Follow your heart and have faith. You WILL be okay.

Good luck and many blessings to you. πŸ™‚

Post # 67
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We were both 29. We’ll be 37 when we’re (finally) married. When I think about the person I was in my early 20’s I’m glad I waited & didn’t get serious with earlier boyfriends. 30 seems so young– you have plenty of time to find the RIGHT one!

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

30 is not old at all!!!!  I have friends who are in their 30’s and have yet to even live with a guy let along get engaged and married.

Think about all the women in their 40’s & 50’s who are or have been divorced or widowed, they’re all out there on the dating scene again.  I have a friend who got married and then divorced in her mid thirties and she’s been seeing a really great guy now for about 4 years (she met him about 2 years after she separated from her husband).

You’ll be A ok my friend, don’t you worry :0)

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My previous relationship, we dated for 7 years then broke up. It was pretty discouraging, but no matter your age, there is always a possibility of falling in love.

My fiance and I went to high school together. We went on one date in high school- he thought I was boring and my friends didn’t like him, so we didn’t go out again. We ended up “becoming friends” on myspace 10 years later, started hanging out at friends, and eventually started dating.

Post # 70
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was 24 and he was 28.  And 30 is young by the way!  My sister met her SO when he was mid-thirties.

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We met when I was 33 & he was 35 and married two years later when I was 35 & he was 37.  I’m so glad I didn’t settle for the wrong guy before meeting him! πŸ™‚  30 is so young and you still have plenty of time!  It’s much better to wait & marry the right guy than marry the wrong guy at any age!

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was a few months shy of my 28th birthday, and he was 24 when we met. We officially became a couple just 2 years ago – we’re moving into our first home exactly on our 2-yr anniversary. We’re getting married a few months after, I’ll be 33 and he’s 29.

I didn’t think I would ever find the one for me, and at one point, I had given up completely. And then he came along …

They say that you’ll meet the one when you least expect it. It’s true! The logic behind it for me was: I met him doing what I liked to do, being completely myself (since I never expected to meet anyone) and he was doing the exact same thing.

Smile

Post # 73
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was 39  when I met my FI! At 30, I broke off a 5-year relationship and moved to a new city. I had a few significant relationships in my 30s but none led to marriage. Believe me, I thought I’d missed the boat! I had even begun the process of trying to adopt a child on my own because I didn’t want to miss out on marriage AND motherhood.

But then I met my Fiance and all my other choices seemed worth it. Sure, I wish I met him 10 years earlier, but I’m so glad I didn’t settle for the wrong guy earlier in life. So many friends my age have a divorce (or two!) in their past and it’s been a lot of strain and heartache for them. Take my word for it, you are nowhere near too old. If this guy is right for you don’t let him go, but if he’s not, don’t force yourself to marry him because of your age. You are young and will have lots more chances…maybe even better than you imagined!

Post # 74
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Bumble Beekeeper

We were 17, 18 when we started dating.

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

We had our first date two weeks after my 30th birthday, and he proposed exactly two years later, right after I turned 32. We haven’t set a date, but I will be 33/34 and he will be 35/36 when we marry.

I had a six-year relationship in my 20s. I thought I would be with this guy forever. We loved each other, but also knew we weren’t on the same page as far as our futures were concerned. We held on for too long, waiting for the other to change their mind about certain things, and eventually the anxiety got to me and I finally broke up with him for the last time when I was almost 28. I was devastated too, and had the same thoughts you are having about it being “too late” to find anyone else. Then I met my fiance through work (he had a 6-month fellowship position at my organization). Our relationship was just so much easier to navigate. I look back now and realize I dodged a bullet by ending my previous relationship. And my ex-boyfriend found someone he was more compatible with as well, though he married her six months after they first met. (which irks me a little given how long he strung me along. πŸ˜‰  )

There is always hope sweetheart, as long as you are breathing and willing to put yourself out there and look for love. πŸ™‚

Post # 76
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We met when I was 33 and he was 30.  I’ll be 36 and he’ll be 34 when we get married in less than 10 weeks!!  wow!

Don’t give up hope.  When I was 29- I thought I was dating (or about to start dating) the best guy for me.  Things didn’t work out.  I can’t imagine my life any other way. 

One of my mom’s friends has recently found the love of her life- at 71!!

 

 

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