Post # 1
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Busy bee
Lately I have been questioning what people will think of BF and I getting engaged soon…we are both 22 and know that we want to marry each other so that’s not a question. I don’t know if it’s because I’m the oldest child & grandchild but my family seems unprepared for me to be engaged. I mentioned something to them last week about one of my friends being married already and their response was “I didn’t realize she was that much older than you?” She’s only 23! Albeit I am still in school and won’t graduate for a couple of years but I’m working full time and have a license in what I do so it’s not like I’m a part time student and worker…I work 7:30-4:30 M-F and go to school M-Th 5-9…both full time!
So just to ease my mind or maybe not, how old were you….
Started dating, engaged, and then married???
I don’t think we’re crazy for wanting to be married next year but maybe I’m wrong…
Oh and to top off my anxiety my mom is going to be meeting his parents and grandparents for the first time tonight! Awesome!
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Not crazy – if you know it’s right, you know.
We met at 16, dated ever since and got engaged at 23. When we get married, we’ll both be 24. At least in our area of the country, we’re actually slow to get married since we didn’t do so right after college.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
You’re young! Although when I was 18 my grandparents told me that they won’t give me birthday presents anymore, but they will give me anniversary presents. Talk about weird pressure!
I was 25 when we met, 28 when we married. I was a month shy of 27 when we got engaged.
The timeline is different for everyone. If you meet the right person young, all the better.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
We started Dating when I was 17. We dated 5 1/2 years before we were engaged (this past August) I’m now 23. We will be getting married in Spring of 2011. I will be 24. I think it all depends on you and where you are in life. I will be done with school next month. We both have good full time jobs & have just purchased our first home. We will be beyond ready come May 2011!!
Post # 6
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Honey bee
I’m 23 now, and we’ll be engaged in February, married in August when I’ll be 24 (my birthday is May 2). When its right, it’s right, and as long as you go into it with both eyes open and realize that it’s GOING to be hard, you’ll be fine.
I feel like so many people who get engaged/ married young (including myself) expect it to be SO EASY because their relationship doesn’t have the problems that everyone else’s does and that they’re different. Life has a funny way of handing you problems you don’t expect and they always seem to affect relationships the worst.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
We met at 22 (We’re the same age)
Started dating at 23 or 24
Engaged at 27
Married 28
Post # 8
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Busy bee
Well we started dating when we were juniors in college and now I am 27 and he is 26. We have been together for 4.5 years and we only moved in together 9 months ago. Mind you we are not engaged yet.
Every relationship is different. i know people that got married when they were 23 and I know people that are 30 and not engaged.
If you guys feel that this it then who cares what anyone else thinks. If you want to get married now and that’s what makes you happy then go for it because in the end you have to live your own life for yourself not for anyone else.
Your family will come around once they see that you are happy.
Post # 9
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Worker bee
When it’s right, you just know. There’s no other way to explain it than that.
My fiance and I had only dated for 5 months when we got engaged. We’ll have been engaged for a year and a half by the time the wedding rolls around. And when we get married, I’ll be 27 and my fiance will be 30. I guess we’re not exactly considered young, though we’re certainly not old.
Even if your parents seem resistant at first, they’ll come around once they realize how happy you are and that you really are a responsible adult.
Post # 10
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Newbee
We started dating when I was 20 (he’s 2 years older).
Engaged when I was 23.
And I’ll be 25 when we get married in July.
Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
Me Him
Met 18 21
Engaged 22 25
Married 23 26
My parents are still getting used to me being married. It takes time because i’m the oldest daughter and also, now the only child. So just move on with your life, what you want to do, and they’ll get used to it. They may “never” be ready
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
We started dating when I was 23 and he was 25. We were engaged after I turned 24 and he turned 26, and we will be those ages when we get married on January 2nd!
I echo what the others have said: it all depends on the people and where they are in life. We specifically are waiting until he finishes school to marry, but we didn’t wait til then to get angaged.
I read a statistic recently that 25 is the median age most women marry for the first time. That number has been rising steadily, but it’s not all that far off from where you are. Do you still live at home? I know my parents had a hard time coming to grips with my adulthood until I was living on my own and financially independent. Even then, if you are the eldest child that’s going to be a big adjustment to them. Is this your first serious relartionship?
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Started Dating / together since : me = 16 him= 17
Got engaged : me = 26 him= 26
Wedding Day : me= 28 him = 29
Post # 14
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Honey bee
Started dating: Me 20, Him 22
Engaged: Me, 24, Him 26
Getting married: Me, 27, Him 28
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Started dating: me=23 him=25
Got engaged: me=24 him=25
Wedding day: me=25 him=26
Post # 16
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Busy bee
We met when I was 10 and him 12, started officially dating when I was 18 and him 19, and got engaged when I turned 22 and him 23. He is 24 now, and will be when we get married, and I will be 23.