Post # 17
Thank you all for your advice and kind words.
@missrain- I live with my grandparents because of their age they needed some help. I could afford a house and have looked at several but every time I mention moving out they pitifully ask if they have done something wrong….how do you respond to that? This will be my second serious relationship, the first one they thought I was going to marry but we just weren’t meant to be. My family loves BF and knows that I’m going to marry him; I think it’s just hard for them to realize that I’m grown.
Post # 18
We met when I was 23. Got engaged just before 24. Got married at 25.
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Goals , job, etc. And if you get engaged at 23, you probably won’t get married until what, 24? That doesn’t seem too young to me. But I don’t know you or your family or bf. And they know you pretty well. Have you talked to them to see if there is some other reason behind this, they feel you aren’t ready to marry. Parents are a hard read sometimes. (Although I’m not sure this is coming from your parents.) But generally parents want what’s best for their children. So it’s a good idea to consider what they have to say. Unless you ahve rotten parents, you probably won’t find anyone else who is much on your side as your parents. ON the other hand, sometimes they can lose perspective, and not realize (in protectng and making sure their kids have a good life) that you’ve grow and can actually make good choices for yourself.
It’s a blancing act. Have an open convo with them. And tell them the ways in which you area prepared for marriage. I know you’re 23. Maybe you feel like you shouln’t have to explain things. But I think it will look like the mature thing to do.
Post # 19
Yep, sounds like a case of “but you’re our little girl” syndrome! Good lukc, pec1216… when the time is right, they will come around!
Post # 20
we met when i was 25. we got engaged when i was 26, and i’ll be 26 when we get married (a week away from 27). he was 29 when we met, and he’ll be 31 when we’re married.
Post # 21
started dating when i was 25 and he had just turned 27. not engaged – yet – but assuming he proposes before my 30th, i’ll be 29 and he 31. our actual wedding will be determined by our finances so i’m guessing we aren’t actually going to have a wedding until 2011 which make me 31 and him 32 (if we do it before Nov 2011).
Post # 22
When we met: 23 me – 25 him
Engaged: 27 me – 28 him
Married: 27 me – 29 him
We have been together a total of 4 years this past October 29.
Post # 23
My sister was…eighteen, I think? When she started dating my Brother-In-Law. They married when she was 20 and he was 22. Happily married five years later and expecting their first child.
My man and I started dating when I was 20, he was 28. It looks like we’ll be engaged at 21/29 and married just a hair over our 22nd and 30th birthdays. In our situation, I’ll be able to get married right after graduation and it won’t interfere with a job/career, and my parents will be able to send my younger sister to college b/c my student loans won’t be tied to them anymore.
Age =/= maturity. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders; I’m sure you’ll be able to handle any of the challenges you face! 🙂
Post # 24
We met when I was 24, got engaged at 25, and married at 27. The most important part of that process thought wasn’t considering what age we were when each event was happening, but focusing on the fact that it felt completely natural and right.
Maybe it’s just because you’re their first child to get engaged and married – my older brother got engaged a month before we did – and my parents were a little “One of our kids is old enough to get married?” in response. Lucky for me, by the time we got engaged, they were used to the idea of becoming in-laws and there wasn’t any awkwardness, although I’m sure there would have been otherwise, even though I was 25! lol..
Post # 25
We are the same age (well, I’m 5 weeks older and he never lets me forget it!)
Started Dating – 21 (Had just turned 21)
Bought a house – 22 (Almost 23) – I think this delayed the engagement a bit financially, that’s why I listed it
Engaged – 25
Married – 26
As far as I’m concerned, as long as you are over 18, age doesn’t matter. It ALL depends on the people involved.
Post # 26
Ha, I love the charts! This post made me smile. Glad to see so many girls being supportive of eachother!
Post # 27
I’m 23, Fiance is 21. we started dating at 15 & 17. young marriage is beautiful:)
Post # 28
@ashleyjane: Exactly! I’m definitely quoting you on that in a blog post. 🙂
Post # 29
I was 21, he was 20 when we started dating. When we got engaged, I was 23, he was 21. And when we get married, I will be 23 and he will be 22. So I think if you are ready to make the next move, then go for it. Def not crazy.
Post # 30
Started dating: Me 23, Him 24
Engaged: Me 27, Him 28
Getting married: Me 29 (well, two weeks before my 29th birthday), Him 30
Post # 31
Every relationship is different– I was 30 when we met, 31 when we got engaged, and 32 when we got married. However, if I had met him when I was 22 or 23, we still would’ve gotten married. I think it just takes meeting the right person.
Don’t let others get you down! Just think how young a lot of our grandparents were when they got married– and they seemed to make it through perfectly fine!