(Closed) How old were you….please make me feel better…I’m down today

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You know, age is so subjective. I have friends who are in their mid 30s who are so immature and who I’d quickly say are not ready to get married, and at the same time, one of my good friends got married at 20, is incredibly mature (as is his wife, 6 months younger than him), and I can’t imagine them not being together anymore. Conversely, I know some 30-somethings who act like they’re in the 50s, and some 20-somethings who act like they’re in high school. Or maybe it’s really all the same thing. 🙂

Actions and attitudes speak much louder than numbers or years, IMO. At least once you’re a legal adult 😉

Post # 33
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009


                    Me            Him

Met:              18             24

Dating:          19             25

Engaged        24             31

Getting married in 29 days!!

It has been a rough road, my parents gave us a hard time at first but we have been living together for a few years and everyone gets along etc.

Post # 34
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think early/mid twenties the perfect time to get engaged! Alot of my friends around my age are engaged now (22-25yr olds) or have already wed.

Post # 35
1108 posts
Bumble bee

We met at 18 and started dating at 20.  We’re 24 now and not engaged.  Not formally, I guess.

I have friends who are younger than me and have been engaged for at least a year, and I’ve had a few friends who got (or are getting) married at 22/23, right out of college.  I also met a guy who was getting married before he graduated, because his Fiance was going to grad school and they wanted to stay together.  

Post # 36
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone is different but remember that your family knows you best and has your best interest at heart!

We met at 21

Engaged at 26

Married at 27

Post # 37
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Met: 18

Engaged: 27 (him), 26 (me)

Married: 27

(We’re only 3 months apart in age.)


I feel that when you know, then you know. If you have all the resources that you need to start your life together, and if that’s what you want, then no one else should be able to judge you for that.

Post # 38
5278 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think its completely different for everyone! I was experiencing the other side, where eveyone couldn’t understand why we weren’t engaged yet 🙂

Met: Both 20

Engaged: Both 24 (basicaly 25 b/c our B-days are right after)

Married: Both 25 (basically 26 b/c our B-days are right after)

Post # 39
314 posts
Helper bee

We met at: me-16 him-17

Started dating me-17 him-18

Engaged: me-21 him 22

When we get married: me-23 him 24

Well since we have been together since we were so young and have been together for 5 years and will be together almost 6 on our wedding day… I feel like we are at a perfect age.

Post # 40
567 posts
Busy bee

engaged at 22!! 23 now, getting married right after i turn 24.

Post # 41
2029 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Met at 19, dated 7 long years, engaged at 26, married at 28, celebrating our first anniversary at 29. Hated the delay at the time but now I think it was the right thing to do to wait until we are both mature enough to handle marriage.

Post # 42
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Started dating when I was 30 he was 29, engaged when I was 33 he is 32. 

When I look back, I’m a very different person now than I was when I was in my early mid 20’s.  I’m glad i didn’t marry the person I was dating back then cause it never would have worked.  Even though we had a great relationship back then, it would not have lasted.


Of course it varies from person to person.  Depends on your lifestyle, maturity, sometimes career gets in the way, etc etc.  You do what is right for you! Goodluck!

Post # 43
624 posts
Busy bee

dating: just turned 20

engaged: 23

married: 24

Post # 44
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t feel bad! I am only 22 too! We haven’t even been dating that long either. But we know. And I think age is just a number. I work full time, and go to school (just like you!) When you find that person, and you both know, then there is no reason not too.

Post # 45
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

       Me                      Him

Met: 31                      20 :O

Started Dating: 34      23

Engaged: 36              25

Married: 38               27

Why?  Because I’m slow like that!  I like to be really sure about my decisions.

Post # 46
474 posts
Helper bee

Met: me 18, him 19

Dating: me 19, him 20

now: me 25, him 26

.. still dating Tongue out…would love to be married at 26, but we shall see

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