(Closed) How old were you….please make me feel better…I’m down today

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Started dating when I was 19 and he was 20.

We got engaged when we were 28.

We got married when I was 28 and he was 29.

We took a long time, partly because we were both focused on our education and career. He was in DC getting his JD and I got my Master’s in CA. And then I was working in Asia for a year right before we got engaged.

Post # 48
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5280 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Met: Me: 27, Him 30 (almost 31)

Started Dating: Me 27 (almost 28), Him 31 (nine months after we met)

Now: Me, 29, Him 33

Waiting, I thnk we’ll be married when I am 30 or 31 because he’s slow like that :D! LOL!!!

Post # 49
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2220 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

                      Me    Him

Dating             20      32 (cradle robber…) lol

Engaged          22      35

Married            24      36

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

23 *is* young, especially if you’re still in school.  it doesn’t mean you’re too young to get married, but that varies person to person.

Met at 18.

Started dating at 25.

Engaged at 26.

Married just shy of 28.

We’re prety much average.

Post # 51
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Honey bee

Everyone is so different.  I had a slew of friend getting married after college (22, 23, 24) – then there was a lull – it was time for babies… then another cycle of marriages (27, 28) another lull … and so on.

If you are ready for the commitment to one person for the rest of your life – then go for it!  Perhaps it would help your family if you did some pre-marital counseling, etc – just to ease their concerns about you being young.

But, as to your question:

I’ll list ages as Me / Fiance

Met:  29 / 28 (we were both with other people)

Dating: 30

Engaged: 34

Married: 35

Keep in mind that your family will always see you as the kid.  I’m the youngest and I think even now it’s hard for my mom to view me as full-fledge, almost to be married adult.  As the oldest, your parents are going through the transition of ‘giving you up’ – so, take the comments in stride and enjoy the journey into this next stage of your life.

Good luck with the meeting tonight!!  I’m sure it will go great!

Post # 52
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337 posts
Helper bee

Dating 18, Engaged 22, Married will be 25. 

Post # 53
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2631 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Met: Me 17 Him 16

Started Dating: Me 18, Him 17

Engaged: Me 20, Him 19

Will Marry: Me 21, Him 20 = )

Post # 54
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I always thought I wanted to get married young; I wanted to start having babies by the time I was 25. That didn’t happen!

                Me      Him

met:         23       24

engaged:  25       26

We’ll be the same ages still when we get married. We also aren’t going to have kids for at least 3 more years, and he might want to wait longer.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Met – Me 21 (nearly 22), Him 25 (just turned)

Dating – Me 22, Him 25

Engaged – Me 25, him 28

We are 3 years 5 weeks age difference.  Neither of us at the time anticipated or would have wanted to be in a marriage-worthy relationship, but it happens when you least expect it!

Post # 56
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA

As others said… I think there have been two strong waves of weddings: 1) immediately following college and the year after  and 2) pre-30.

For us, we were 25/28 when we met…. 26/29 when we were engaged… and 27/29 when we got married.

Post # 57
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131 posts
Blushing bee

                     Me            Him

Met and started dating (we met at a party and he asked me out on a date)              26             30

Engaged:        28             33

Married:          30             34

I will say that I thought I was going to marry the guy I had been dating for 3 years when I was 22, but it didn’t work out and I am SO glad it didn’t…I took some time for myself and now know and like myself so much more than I did in my early 20s.  FH has been married before (married at 20, divorced at 27) and I know he feels the same way.

BUT…that said…when it’s right, it’s right and you have to make that decision for yourself and not to please other people.  If you’re ready to do that, you’re ready to get married.

Post # 58
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We met at 15-16.  Didn’t start dating until 17-18.  Got engaged on my 19th birthday and got married when we were 22/23.  So you aren’t too young to get married.

Post # 59
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Honey bee

Dating: Me: 25, Him: 26

Engaged: Me: 27, Him: 28

Married: Me: 28, Him 29

I don’t think that you’re too young. I had a girlfriend in college who was engaged at 22, married at 23. Her guy was in the military, and they had their first baby at 24. She’s so thankful for her time with him, b/c just shy of his 25th birthday (and his daughter at only 8 months old), he was killed in Iraq. I think things progress differently for different people, and you sound like you have a great head on your shoulders with fantastic time management skills!!!

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Not crazy at all!

We started dating when I was 17 and he was 16

Got engaged at 20 and 19 (less than a month away from both of our birthdays, though)

And we’ll be getting married at 22 and 21!

Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We started dating when I was 22 (can’t imagine being married at that age, but that’s just me) we got engaged when I was 25 and married when I was 26.

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