(Closed) How quick are you to take your child to the doctor? what are your thoughts…

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally after 3 days of itching yeah I would take him to the doctor to just to be on the safe side. 

Myself my son is 8 months old other than the normal wellness visits he has been the doctor twice for being sick.  He is/was a premie and can get really sick fast.  So both times he went to the doc., it was for simple things but erroring on the safe side. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

@stardustintheeyes:  I’m no doctor, but it sounds like you are doing fine.  In general, with people running to the doctor and asking for prescriptions for antibiotics for every little thing has made them less effective for all of us.  I think perhaps it is ignorance/a generational issue.  Antibiotics were originally seen as “miracle drugs” because they saved many lives, and they can be life saving when used properly, however now there are “Superbugs” out there because they have morphed into stronger strains of bugs out there due to improper use of antibiotics.  It sounds like some information from the CDC needs to make it’s way to grandmother’s reading list.  Of course, you do need to exercise caution (as you appear to do-with having an epi-pen) for severe allergic reactions/anaphalactic shock).

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

No, you’re not horrible, and you’re not alone. My mom gets on my case about this all the time. Every time he has a cold, she wants me to run him to the doctor’s office. I just want to scream: it’s a cold! They can’t do anything for it, anyway! He also has sensitive skin, and he does sometimes break skin when he’s scratching, so I get the same crap about that.

I always try natural remedies before I go to the doctor. I use diluted tea tree oil for hives, peppermint oil on the chest for congestion, etc. I think my parents think I’m crazy, but I think running to the doctor over a stuffy nose or dry skin is crazy.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I am a nurse and rarely take my kids to the doctor (we joke that we have to be dying to be going in). My oldest has several antibiotic allergies that she developed after being treated for every single little thing as a baby.

If his rash/itching continues I would make an appointment in a couple of days (as long as it is really his only symptom), maybe he needs a daily antihistimine for these high allergy times (which it sounds like you have investigated). If I saw anything in his mouth or he complained about anything in his throat I would go in right away.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As far as I am concerned unless they really need to go then I am not taking them to the doctor. My mom had a rule if you are sick enough to stay home then you are sick enough to go to the dr. I had strep all the time as a kid, one dr preffered penicillin in the butt. I must say I was happy when we found a new dr…lol. When either of my kids needs to go then they go. If it is something that can be treated at home then they do not need to be there.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am in the medical profession and I agree with you. Kids do NOT need to see a doctor for everything, especially common viruses.

If things don’t let up, usually around 5-7 days, I would go to the doctor to ensure it’s not bacterial.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I honestly don’t EVER remember being taken to the doctor when I was growing up. I went once for strept throat that wouldn’t go away on it’s own. I’m fine. But Fiance was taken in for every sniffle and he’s also fine. So either way you’re not a bad mother! Does your grandmother watch him a lot for you? I would bring her along on his next doctor visit and ask the doctor (in private) to explain to her that a heat rash/allergies can’t be treated with antibiotics. Maybe she needs to hear it from a professional. My own daughter has never been to the doctor for a sick visit (she’s 2). She’s had colds and mild fevers only so we’ve been lucky. Good luck with this!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Generally speaking, I follow the philosophy that parents know their children best and that as long as they are parenting in good faith and using common sense, I say let them be.

I’m also a nurse and cannot even begin to count the number of times I’ve seen patients (peds and adults) that really didn’t need to be brought into the hospital. However, I also have never faulted anyone for being erring on the side of caution. I also feel very strongly that antibiotics are severly overused and misused. They are prescribed frequently and also people are noncompliant with following the exact dosing instructions. (Not fully completing a course also contributes bacterial resistance.)

Now, all that being said, I catch a lot of flack for doing the opposite and taking my son to the doctor very frequently. He has some developmental delays that means he can’t always tell me when something is wrong. My son also has a ridiculously high pain threshold. I don’t mean he’s just a tough kid, I mean sometimes pain doesn’t register in the receptors in his brain due to his cognitive processes. For example, my son broke his arm a few weeks ago and he never registered any pain. He simply stood up, walked over to Fiance and said “My arm’s broke.” He can also become pretty sick pretty quickly. With most kids, an ear infection or strep means that the child will become lethargic or have a sore throat or start pulling at their ears. There will be some sort of sign. This isn’t the case with my son. Multiple times, my son has appeared perfectly fine. He’s gone to bed without the slighest cough or sniffle or indication that something’s up then awoken during the night with temps of 104 and 105. It can be quite scary. So yes, we go to the doctor all the time. Fortunately, his PCP is incredible and understands where we’re coming from. He also shares my views on antibiotics so I don’t worry about mediciations being forced upon us.

If Fiance and I have any more children, hopefully this won’t be the case and we will be able to only seek medical attention when it’s truly needed. Until then, though, this is how it works for our little family.

On to my thoughts as a nurse…if the itching is persistant, I may would have it checked out, especially if he is outside a lot playing ball and whatnot. Ticks, mites, and spiders are all rearing their ugly little heads this time of year. Chances are it’s nothing but the tiniest little critters can carry some nasty little bugs.

Regards though, you’re not a bad mom. You’re doing what you feel like is best for your child and that’s the sign of a great mom!

ETA: Holy long post, batman! Sorry!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You shouldn’t have to defend yourself. Maybe try the broken record method.

You: “As his mother, I think everything looks managable at the time. If things persist, we’ll check with the peditrician.”

Gma: “He needs to go to the emergency room right away.”

You: “As his mother, I think everything looks managable at the time. If things persist, we’ll check with the peditrician.”

Gma: “If you don’t take him right away, it will get infected and his whole arm will fall off.”

You: “As his mother, I think everything looks managable at the time. If things persist, we’ll check with the peditrician.”

Gma: “They’re going to have to ampuate from the neck down if you don’t take him to the hospital right away!”

You: “As his mother, I think everything looks managable at the time. If things persist, we’ll check with the peditrician.”

Rinse. Repeat. Smile. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I dont actually have kids yet but this is a topic that interests me so I thought I’d chime in. Im just like you in that I don’t go to the dr unless I think it’s really necessary which is rarely, my mother raised me that way and I know I’ll raise my own children that way. However fmil is a bit more neurotic so i could see her being more dr concerned, she already does it with FHs dog…

You are doing just fine! He’s YOUR son and you know what’s best for him, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders when itcomes to this stuff as well. I think if you havent already done this I’d sit grandma down and just calmly explain to her that while you value her opinion and the fact that’s shes raised children herself, you have a different philosophy on medical attention and you know your own child, i mean he’s 7 and he’s still alive! Ask for her support and respect because right now IMO she’s undermining you and crossing boundaries she shouldn’t be. Hopefully she’ll realize you ate doing fine and she doesn’t need to fight with you over what is YOUR decision, not hers. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Bahahah well theN I have no advice besides you’re doing fine don’t worry!

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