(Closed) How quickly did you move in together?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you (or when do you plan to) move in together?
    After we've been dating for a while : (243 votes)
    56 %
    After we get engaged : (77 votes)
    18 %
    After we get married : (66 votes)
    15 %
    Never: we're still long distance, even after getting married! : (0 votes)
    None of the above. My situation is unique and defies categorization. : (45 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 92
    Member
    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Started dating in high school, and did not move in together until we were married 7 years later. NO ONE in his family lives together before-hand, so it is a big no-no! We never planned on it, so it was no big deal.

     

    Post # 93
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    2271 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    My fiance is moving in this weekend, after being engaged for 14 months. And he still would not be moving in until after the wedding except he is putting his house up for sale.

    Post # 94
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee

    We met and started dating the end of my first year of college, his second.  I stayed over in his dorm room even though it wasn’t allowed.  Then we took turns staying at eachother’s houses (we both lived with our parents, he lived with his dad, and they did not mind)  Then he moved off campus and even though I had my dorm room I stayed in his house. Now we are both out of college and living together. We have basically been living together since we started dating!  I never thought that would happen!  His mom does not know (accept) we have been living together (she chooses not to know) or that we plan to be engaged soon.  She lives states away and is a strict Catholic.  My parents are fine with it and love him and has made him a part of the family.  His dad is the same way as mine. 

    Post # 95
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    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    we moved in together after just two months. now i look back pretty surprised–it was very quick and i’d never lived with a boyfriend before. but it just seemed so right and well, it all worked out!

    Post # 96
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    815 posts
    Busy bee

    We are doing the long distance thing for as long as possible–that means after the ring and maybe even after the marriage.  There are two very good reasons.  One: my family.  They would be so disappointed in me, and I would get a lot of flack for leaving my home, my family, and my friends and moving to another state.  Two: the economy.  I have a job, and it’s a pretty darn good one.  I also have huge bills (thanks to my student loans) so someone has to keep paying them, and that someone is me.  Sigh…

    Post # 97
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    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We started dating and his lease was up 6 months after we started dating so it was either he sign a year lease or he moves in with me!! We always spent so much time together and were always at my house so hey! Plus I don’t mind sharing my mortgage every month either! 🙂

    Post # 98
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    1145 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2000

    8months of dating

    4 months of engagement

    Bought a house, only I moved in

    4 more months of engagement while Fiance slowly moves in

    We get married and Fiance starts living here October 10th. 16 months after we started dating.

    Post # 99
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    • Met on my semester abroad
    • Date for 4 mos
    • Lease on my apt ran out, all my american friends went home, I wanted to stay until my visa ran out, moved in with him for 3 weeks
    • He came to USA for 7 mos semester abroad, moved together to Miami, Fl living together
    • Moved together back to Aus, rented a room in a friends house, 5 of us living in one house 18 mos
    • Move out to our own rental 9 mos
    • Got engaged (aug ’07)
    • Bought our own house (Feb ’08) and getting married

    Post # 100
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    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Me and Mr Mini have been dating for almost 3 years, I am not a big believer in just "living together" without an expressed commitment, so I didn’t want to live together until we were engaged and planning a wedding. 

    Mr Mini had to move to another city for his career, so we have been living 3 hours apart for 6 months, for engaged about 6 weeks ago, and now we are buying a house and will move in together next month.

    I wouldn’t have been comfortable moving in together until this point, because moving in, in my opinion is not really a commitment, and I don’t believe in "common law" marriage. But since we are buying a house together, planning a wedding for next summer, and getting ready for babies right after we get married it just makes sense to do it now. 

    Post # 101
    Member
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    Hey Bees – I love reading ya’lls stories about moving in together!! Ours go –

    – Meet online, date for 6 months
    – Move in together
    – After 2 months, move to a new state together (promotion for my job, he finds a new job)
    – Live in an apartment for a year
    – Get engaged, and move to a house!!
    – Married after living in our house for a year and a half!! 🙂

    I love living together, and we were talking the other day about how everything seems so natural, and almost like the way it SHOULD be – no worries or doubts about us or our future. That is such an awesome feeling!!!

    Post # 102
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    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    1. Dated for 3 months

    2. In courtship for next 6 months

    3. Got engaged

    4. Moving together after getting married…

    That is if all works out!

    Post # 103
    Member
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)

    We moved in together 2 months after we started dating.
    Got engaged 8 months later and got married 3 years after that

    Post # 104
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    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Dated for 1 yr 3 months, then moved in together (including a move across the country together), engaged 11 months later, will be engaged for 2 years and 7 months (yes, a very long engagement) when we get married. 

    Post # 105
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Uhhh I moved in. He was my roommate. So we’ve lived together since day 1. I do not recommend it, LOL. But almost 4 years later we made it, have a house on our own now so it was all worth it 🙂

    Post # 106
    Member
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Met at work orientation

    Dated for a couple months

    Spent alll my time there, hated my college roommate and tiny dorm room

    Officially moved in (as in, got rid of dorm room) after 6 1/2 months

    In the process of buying a house after 1 year

    Had a few small marriage talks, but will talk seriously after I’m out of college

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