(Closed) How rude! Guests inviting themselves!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m already dreading this. I know there will be at least one person on FI’s side who will try to bring their child and their flavour of the month, whom I will probably technically have to invite anyways. She’s been ‘engaged’ to 3 different guys over the last 5 months. No word of a lie. In April she literally posted about breaking up with Fiance 1/her baby’s daddy one day, then 3 days later was ‘engaged’ to some other guy. 2 weeks ago she split with him and is now ‘engaged’ to this 3rd guy. Um sorry, your ‘fiance’ is not invited, nor is your child (we’re doing a child free wedding). I have a feeling that a few of FI’s friends will want to bring their children too. 

Post # 18
11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I guarantee that it WILL happen to you….I don’t know of a bride that it hasn’t happened to.

People are rude and assume a lot. I guess it just depends on your situation and if you want to fight them on it or let it go.

It is one thing to invite someone random via your RSVP card that wasn’t invited. What really ticked me off was that this unvited additional person that we allowed to come to avoid a fight didn’t even show up!!!! I am still incredible pissed! The nerve to invite yourself and then after we spend the extra money to accomodate you, you flake. Grrr!!!!

Post # 19
44 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Treejewel19:  That is so ridiculous!!! How rude of that guest!

This is currently happening to me. But I have decided to not fight the battle anymore. All the people doing it are my relatives with kids. I didn’t put kids on the invitation envelopes, but nobody seems to care. They all just return the rsvp with the kids on there. I fought with my mom in the beginning about not inviting kids, but there obviously was no point in the debates, because my relatives are writing in kids anyway regardless of what the envelope says. I have decided that the battle is lost. No point in offending half the families.

Post # 20
6 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

i think we all need to send out a few of these babies 🙂

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