(Closed) How rude, right?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Some people just don’t understand. They are probably thinking that it is cute to invite themselves, and that we (the bride and groom) feel special because they want to attend our wedding so bad that they invite themselves. I would have your FH explain to them that you two are not trying to be rude and tell them again.

Post # 4
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Its outrageous, this happens to me a billion times throughout my wedding planning process, its ridiculous, and it really is hard to say NO.  People dont understand that times are tough now and money doesnt grow on trees and if they werent invited then they really werent invited. We are 20 over our list right now too and feeling the pain being 4 wks away!

Post # 5
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3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Ouch, that’s really bad. But you guys have to lay off the facebook and all of that and be direct with people, and not be afraid to say no. If you don’t say no, people will walk over you and do what they want. So.. use the phone, or face to face and stick by your original list. It’s hard but if you want a 30 person wedding, you have to take control. 

Post # 6
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If this guy wants to come, he needs to pony up some cash at the door.  Asking him to do that is no ruder than what he’s done. I’m with you, totally.  What a jerk.

Post # 7
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2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ok. His reply is rude. But I agree with melissabegins, the only way you’re going to get those numbers down is to be firm. Why don’t you just phone your FH’s cousin and explain it if your FH is too much of a softy? 

Post # 8
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am sorry I just giggled out loud at your last line! (How many times do we all wish we could actually say that.. but alas we are better than that.)

But Yes this is SO rude!! I agree with missmoo, definitely be firm, and maybe pick up the phone and flip the tables, say just how much you’d loveeee them to be there (not!) , but due to your budget you have been forced to be modest with the guest list, but maybe if they really want to celebrate with you they could help with the cost? Kind of makes you come off as the better person, and doesnt let them get any with making you out to be the rude one.

Post # 9
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wait so did your Fiance already agree to it? It sounds like you’ve already allowed your guest list to blow up and there’s no going back from that.

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