(Closed) How screwed am I?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
Member
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ninjachc:  I don’t think you’re screwed at all!  Like you said, you already know you can afford it even if 180 people do show up, and even so, I had over 200 guests invited to my wedding, and a little less than 150 of them are expected to come.  Since about 40% of your people are from out of town, you might have even less of the people you invited show up than I will.  However, people should not be inviting themselves!  They have no right to do that, especially if you’re paying by the head.  I would just explain to people something along the lines of, “As much as we’d really love to have everyone, I’m afraid we have to limit ourselves.”  Good luck, but I’m sure it will all be fine. 🙂

Post # 6
Member
862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ninjachc:  Yeah, I hear what you’re saying.  It’s really not fair when brides and grooms can’t get the wedding that they dream of due to family obligations, but maybe for one of your anniversaries, you could have a vow renewal ceremony on the beach like what you wanted. 🙂

Post # 7
Member
11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know. We invited 190 people to our wedding and 176 rsvp yes so far. We only had 3 couples/families (out of 16) from out of town send regrets. Don’t plan on people saying no just because it’s out of town for them or on a Friday. Especially if you sent out save the dates.

Then again I like people, and they like me…lol.

Post # 9
Member
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think you’ll be fine.  It might not be the wedding you wanted but at least you will be getting married and celebrating with some family and friends you love (the others you don’t like that you feel obligated to invite will at least “hopefully” bring a fabulous gift). LOL!

Post # 10
Member
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This post makes me kinda sad. Smaller, DIY beach weddings are the bomb. I’m sorry you got swayed so far away from your original vision.

that being said, have you already invited that many people? you say you are staring at a large guest list, not a stack of invites. if nothings in the mail- DON’T DO IT!!! easy as that. don’t invite that many people. seriously.

we invited 130 people. 35 from across the country. we had 105 people come. You cannot count on declines. and ours was on a WEDS evening.

you’ll thank yourself for scaling back.

Post # 11
Member
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ninjachc:  ok, so you haven’t passed the point of no return. Don’t invite the whole fam damily, just don’t!

it’s so true, you won’t have enough time to spend with everyone who comes, and some people WILL just come for the food. if you’re lucky, they will have left a card with $100, but you never know…

if you are now commited to a wedding with a steep per head cost, you really want to scale back… do it… no regrets… it’s ok, you’ll be happy you did!

Post # 13
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t want to sit ouside…have you actually sent out invites yet? Can you still cut back? 

Post # 15
Member
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I won’t lie, I’d be kinda pissed if I went to a wedding and then was left to sit outside, away from everyone else.  i’d feel unwelcome and unappreciated.

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