- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I don’t know that many people. I don’t like that many people. And frankly, a lot of people don’t really like me… or at least, they don’t show up to any other event I’ve hosted in the past… But this wedding is a different story. I had imagined, in my dreams I guess, a smallish (100 people or less) wedding, on the beach, and hoped to have a budget wedding. Well somewhere along the lines, that all went to hell in a handbasket. I am now staring at a guest list of about 180 people. 180!! Oh, and it’s not on a beach, and that fun diy small budget? Gone. Luckily, I have saved for years for this and can afford it, but still. What did I do to myself?!
So my question, my fellow bees, is how screwed am I? I’ve heard to expect 80% of people to come… that would saddle me with about 144 people, about 44 of which would have to be seated outside, where the DJ is, because the inside can only hold about 100.
However, there are a few factors here I hope will bring my guest list down a tad closer to that magic number:
1- It’s a Friday wedding.
2- The ceremony is at 3 PM.
3- I’m not letting everyone have a plus one. If I don’t know your bf/gf’s name, or you just met? They’re not invited. Sorry.
4- About 40% of people are from out of town. (Lonnnggg drive and or flight)
5- We’re inviting a large portion of Hispanic people, as my fiance is Hispanic and a lot of my close friends are Hispanic (large Hispanic population in my town). Typically, Hispanic people where I’m from don’t like to drive very far (5 miles is far), and the reception is about 15 miles from the ceremony, it’s almost in another county, and is not in a well-known area.
6- Some of my extended family are currently feuding with one another, and some or all may choose not to come, lest they be forced to mingle with each other.
One more thing- People are constantly inviting themselves. I want to scream at them that it’s rude and that are you freaking kidding me I have too many dang people as it is. What is the best way to handle this? It blows my mind, EVERY TIME.
Sorry for a long post, hope it’s coherent! Thanks bees!