(Closed) How secretive are you about your wedding plans?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How much do you share with others?
    I've pretty much been a one-woman show. : (13 votes)
    12 %
    My mom and/or MOH are the only ones that have really seen anything. : (27 votes)
    25 %
    I've been working on this with a small group of people close to me. : (48 votes)
    45 %
    They needed to bring in a spare couch for my extended entourage when we went shopping for gowns. : (0 votes)
    I'm sharing tons of details with anyone who seems interested. : (18 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3004 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m not afraid to tell people who are interested in my plans. To me, the more opinions the better. To me, it’s not like them knowing will take away from the fun on the big day. Plus, I’m really really bad with secrets like those 

    Post # 4
    Member
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If they ask then I tell them, my mom knows most everything and my FH knows the most.  But really most of it is in my head or in boxes that have devoured my kitchen.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Just my Fiance, my sister, and a good friend…that’s it. My Fiance and I have a weekly “planning” meeting where we discuss progress and dates for everything. I usually put together pictures, spreadsheets, etc. the Saturday before and we go over everything on Sunday. Only my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law have seen my wedding dress. I just don’t want a whole lot of input b/c I want the wedding/reception to be a reflection of me and Fiance. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I don’t really like talking about my wedding (or myself in general) so for the most part, my fiance, my two best friends, a coworker and members of the board are the only one who knows anything. I did show my grandma a picture of me in my wedding gown but even my sisters haven’t see that.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My FH knows everything other then my dress.  I share parts of things with people.  However, I do not want anyone to know what my wedding is going to look like.  I know his parents are very annoye over the fact that I tell them “I want it to be a suprise.” 

    Post # 8
    Member
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Only in generalities.  Though I have told the colors and the basic ideas.  Honestly, It’s going to be more a party than a wedding, so to me it’s not that huge a deal. 

    Welllll… I have been a bit underhanded with a few people.  For one thing, only the weddingbee and a few select friends have the site for my fantasy wedding blog.  I told a friend that I got one dress, but I’m getting another (evil, aren’t I?) to see if she tries to copy me. 

    For the most part, I know no one else can have something “exactly” like ours, because no one else is going to have our logo or design that I created specifically for us!  I also haven’t shown anyone how to make my little peryton chick (see my blog for details on that, lol). 

    I also don’t mind putting stuff on the bee because I have FEW girls around me who I can talk wedding plans to!!!!!  (I’m not sure if I should cry or pout about that, lol)

    Post # 9
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    If people wanted to know, I told them. We were very untraditional and I figured it was better to let them know now then surprise them at the wedding when they were expecting something else.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’m not secretive per se, but no one really asks me anything about it.. at all. haha.

    If I felt like someone actually wanted or cared to hear about it I would certainly share with them, but I’d rather not bore anyone to death with the details as I am sure they would be more interested in a documentary on snails! lmao.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I wouldn’t really call it secretive, but I only talk to my parents and fiance about wedding details. If someone asked I would definitely let them know, I don’t reall care about surprising anyone. I just don’t know that many people who want to sit and talk about wedding plans. Maybe it’s because they bore me in general as well 🙂

    Oh btw, my mom and sister in law know what my dress looks like. A few other friends saw pictures of it. But besides that, I’m not telling anyone. I’m not even showing it on weddingbee. My mom lives pretty far away as well, but she would be so upset if I didn’t include her in my plans. I could have been done planning now (cause I don’t care) but I have to wait for her to fly down and ok everything. Boo.

    Post # 12
    Member
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m not secretive about my wedding. If people ask, I would tell them. I’m not afraid people stealing my idea…I think it’s flattering that people would copy my style. Also, no one I know is going to have a wedding soon and willing to spend similar amount of money.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I shared a lot of stuff online.  I also had one friend who was really interested in all the details.  Otherwise, I tried to avoid talking about wedding stuff too much, just to avoid boring people.  But I really didn’t have an issue sharing with anyone who was interested.

    Then again, I was 56 on my wedding day.  I think that gave me some protection from people who were “sure” they knew better than me.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Frankly, I tend to keep quiet unless people ask me. Even then, it depends on who is asking as to what information they’ll get.

    For the most part, the only people who know details are my Fiance and one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man, my blog (and the bee, of course). My Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t really ask that many details.

    THANK GOD for WeddingBee!!!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1227 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve been sharing a lot with family & friends, and now I kind of wish I’d kept it a little more secretive, just so they won’t all know what everything’s going to be before the big day! But it’s been really nice to have everyone’s support, since I haven’t really had anyone be negative about our ideas and plans. And I still think people are going to be plenty surprised at how everything comes together on the wedding day.

    Post # 16
    Member
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Just my parents and my Fi know all the details. I just prefer to keep everyone on a “need to know basis” If they dont absolutely need to know that information then i wont tell them yet. I find this to be much less stress, because the less you tell people about it, the less you have to hear their opinions

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