Post # 1
Fiance and I really would love an early fall (September or early October) because of the weather. Where we live, it’s very hot in summer and very cold past mid-October. Not only that but I love the deep red, plum and dark navy blue colors. Unfortunately, it seems that many places are booked up even a year out! I have to get a move on FAST because there are only a couple Saturday dates for the fall left at the two places I really love (I’ve done hours of research) and within budget.
I’m touring there this weekend but I’m still stressing out because I am afraid the dates I want will be gone by then. There are plenty of Saturdays in November or July, May, etc. I think I’d settle for a late summer wedding but I have some concerns:
1. If I book now, will 9 months be enough to plan? I still have to go wedding dress shopping, help the bridal party look for gowns, hire a photography, DJ, etc.!
2. I’m dead set on my colors, I just love the deep red. Maybe I can change it to a deep red, blush pink, and gold to make it less fall like?
3. Too hot for a ceremony? July can be up to 80’s90’s. We are concerned, but I think 15-20 minutes of a ceremony outside shouldn’t be too bad.
I feel pressured for a timeline to get married, go on certain trips, and then have kids because I’ll be 31 and I fear of hitting the age past 35 and starting a family. My sister is 44 and just had a baby and that was really a lot for her to deal with. I’m pressuring myself lol. I guess if I really want my venue and the date, then I’ll have to settle for 2021 but that’s 2 years from now.
Post # 2
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
Mlim : At the end of the day the decision is up to you but personally I would not want to delay my wedding just because of the season.
I think November would be great if you can’t get an early fall wedding. November might be colder but you can still use the colors you had planned and use any of the same florals or fall themes.
I wanted to get married in the fall or winter. I had a friend get engaged a month before me and she chose October for her wedding. That made my decision easy so I decided on December. I loved having a winter wedding.
Post # 3
We also were looking at an early fall/late summer wedding. However, the venue we loved only had a March weekend available, so we took it! I wasn’t dead set on anything, and I planned the whole wedding for 350 people in 8 months, so its definitely doable. I didn’t have to compromise on anything, either. The only issue was the band we really wanted was already booked for a gig that weekend (they don’t usually do weddings, but since they were friends of my husband, they said to give them the date. Unfortunately, being that short of notice, they were already booked up!) but we found just as good of one and they were available. I also went into it with no preference on colors, I just knew that I wanted navy suits and navy dresses for the girls. The other colors (I landed on rose gold) I didn’t really care about. I don’t think it would be too hard to move your dream palette to a different season. The only real issue will be what flowers are in season.
I think you will be fine! Good luck!
Post # 4
Thanks all. I’m a worry wart. LOL
Post # 5
I always thought I wanted a late summer/early fall wedding. However, when we went to book the venue in January of that year, they did not have an opening for a spring/summer/fall wedding until the next year and those were already filling up! Their earliest opening if we wanted to do it that year was end of November – we took it. And it turned out to be amazing. It was all done in a Winter Wonderland theme and they had all of their Christmas decorations up by then and it was incredible and lovely. And because we did it in the off-season/winter, we were able to get a nice discount too and use the extra money to bump up other things for the reception. Looking back, I’m glad we went with it as we did not want to wait over a year to get an availability and prolonging things. The decision to have it sooner than later is entirely up to you, but I was fine with changing seasons to get the venue I wanted for when I wanted to get married.
Post # 6
I wasn’t too attached to any season. I picked November for my frist wedding because it’s nice in Texas in November and it coordinated with Thanksgiving break. I picked summer for my second wedding because it was most convenient as a teacher. I picked New Years Day for my third wedding because it was a cool date and we didn’t want to delay it further. So I’m no help. I liked my July wedding the best because it was in a garden and beautiful, but all 3 were nice in their own way.
Post # 7
Mlim : if you need to do summer instead of fall, you can still have things you like, such as the same colors. It’s a silly rule. We had navy and bright orange at my June wedding and got tons of compliments. If your ceremony must be outside, do what other summer weddings do: keep it short, provide fans and water. Give shade where feasible. Absolutely have seats for everyone. 9 months is plenty of time, mine was easily ready in 6 with lots of downtime.
Post # 8
beesinging : I think I became attached to a certain season because Fiance said it would be so nice to have it fall and he was concerned about the heat so I became stuck on it and agreed. Before I don’t think I cared but it’s his wedding too so I want him to be happy as well. He is open to summer but we just love the fall but I think we’d both rather get married than wait it out longer than it has been.
Post # 9
skunktastic : Comforting to hear!!
Post # 10
I totally get where you are coming from!
I am not engaged, but we have had the general discussions surrounding it and timing for kids. I would really like to be engaged by next September. The benefits of that are a) I can attend my sister’s wedding in October engaged (not to show her up, but because a lot of our relatives are travelling very far for her wedding, and likely won’t have the finances to attend two weddings within a year/two year time frame so it would be their chance to meet my boyfriend as “fiance”) and b) so I can plan a wedding for June the next year.
I’m not hell bent on June per se, but with the weather, wild fire season, and other milestones (his birthday is September, mine is October, Christmas is December, Valentine’s Day is February, it would be nice to have it a bit spread out).
My main concern would be the weather, but if the proposal is delayed and venues are booked, I would have the wedding in September or October rather than waiting until the next year.
Post # 11
November sounds great for a fall wedding still. You can ever serve hot drinks like cider or something! And yes, 9 months is plenty of time to plan. I planned my entire wedding in 7 months, including dress and venue. You’re good!
Post # 12
I used to be completely sold on fall weddings and wanted a date in October. The more I have friends getting married though fall is to the go-to. I can only imagine by the time we get married how busy of a season it’ll be. As a result I think we’ve decided to do end of May and enjoy the summer being married.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
Mlim : We got engaged August 2018. I wanted a fall 2019 wedding but dh thought that was too long lol so we decided on May 4, 2019 and it was a beautiful, perfect day. That made our engagement 9 months long and we had plenty of time to find vendors, dresses, decorations, etc. Though if you do decide on a 9 month engagement I suggest you start wedding dress shopping asap. Mine took almost 6 months to get in.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2021 - City, State
We’re so set on our date that we pushed our wedding a year. I graduate from my program in December 2020, but we are set on an October wedding. I can understand that some aren’t for the waiting, but I won’t risk my thesis semester for the wedding or change the season or date, and I’d rather have the long engagement anyway.
Hope that helps!
Post # 15
9 months is plenty of time, you should be fine. I’m 7 months away and just started planning. We are having wedding in summer heat outdoor as well. I pick the venue next to the river, so we would have a bit of nature wind to cool down. For color, I have no clue even for my own wedding what theme color I would like to have ugh