Post # 16
I think 9 months is plenty of time.
We wanted fall but my husband was starting his PHD program that fall and it would have been way too stressful to get married in his first semester so we did a late summer wedding (August). I’m happy with our choice. In the end I really don’t think the season mattered.
Post # 17
Thanks all, you are right the thing that matters most is I get to marry my fiancé with my friends and family present to celebrate. I am beginning to keep an open mind to November since there’s plenty of dates open and possibly even a late Friday ceremony (cheaper too) lol and I know that those who matter most will make it to the ceremony.
Post # 18
9 months is enough time.
We weren’t attached to the season at all. We chose our date because it was one of only two dates in the whole year that all our VIPs could make! If I could have chosen any season, I’d have chosen spring because I wanted daffodils, but it was more important for the VIPs to be there. We ended up in late summer and it was great. Every season has lovely things about it and I’ve been to wonderful weddings in all seasons.
You can have any colours you want whatever the season. One of my friends really wanted a fall themed wedding, but she got married in winter and it was snowing. Her colours were still autumn coloured (gold, brown, green) and it was still lovely.
If you go for summer and it’s super-hot, please think about some form of shade and/or fans! I just went to a wedding which was outside at about 95 degrees. It was fine, but only because there was a canopy to sit under and only lasted for 15 minutes. One of my friends recently went to a hot outdoor wedding with no shade, and the Mother of the Groom had to leave half-way through the ceremony because she was about to pass out. Although that ceremony went on for over an hour :-S
Post # 19
I didn’t care so much for the date. We got married in late autumn and had a 10 month engagement. You’d be honestly fine with a 9 month engagement, it doesn’t take that long to plan a wedding.
Post # 20
secondtimer18 : yikes! Right now I’m leaning towards November if I can’t do October or September. It’d be nice to do outdoor but it’s not important, can’t have everything lol
Post # 21
Mlim : We planned a wedding in 9 months with a bare minimum venue (which means we had to plan every single detail – all they provided were cheap tables and folding chairs). Even with quite a bit DIY, it really wasn’t that bad.
If you decide to go that route, my recommendation is to nail down the big things ASAP (DJ, caterer, photographer, etc.) to ensure availability, then move on to the dresses, decor, and such.
Post # 22
Mlim : So my husband proposed in April and in my mind I had always wanted a fall wedding. I loved fall colors and something about late September/early October just seemed lovely. But I knew my anxiety wouldn’t let me plan a wedding in 6 months and I also didn’t want to wait 1 1/2 years to get married (we had already been together 4 years at that point). If it was 9 months away I totally could have done it, but 6 months was too much for me. So the fall wedding idea was scrapped.
I simply had to decide what my/our true priorities were. #1 was marrying my husband and #2 was not getting completely overwhelmed and losing my mind planning a wedding. So we basically started back over at the drawing board, which led us to plan a completely different wedding entirely than what I had been thinking of. It was actually really refreshing because I had had these thoughts and plans in my head for a couple years while we’d been dating and after a while they just become so “set” that it was nice to just let go of them and start over. Turns out we ended up having a small destination wedding on the beach in Puerto Rico. Completely different from what I had envisioned in the years leading up to our engagement but it was ultimately perfect and represented us so so well. Looking back I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 23
I completely get why you have your heart set on a fall wedding. Cooler temperatures, beautiful natural colors, and fall is one of the best seasons for flowers! But keep in mind that many people have biased opinions on summer weddings because of their own negative experiences due to poor planning on the part of the host. It takes some additional preparation, but some of the most beautiful weddings I’ve been to have been outdoor weddings with summertime vibes.
If you decide to book your wedding in late July, here are a couple of ways to combat the heat and keep your guests comfortable throughout the ceremony:
A Relief Station
These should be covered with a canopy if possible and include things like sunscreen, chilled towels, cold beverages, and plenty of ice water!
These are lightweight and easy for your guests to use throughout the ceremony. There are tons of options for customized designs to match your colors.
A Summer Dress Code
There is nothing more miserable than sweating through your best set of clothes! A more relaxed dress code that welcomes khaki shorts, polos, and sundresses will keep everyone much more comfortable.
Not Booking Your Ceremony During the Hottest Part of the Day
Temperatures fluctuate significantly throughout the day, and just a few hours can make a huge difference.
This is especially helpful if your wedding location doesn’t have an abundance of natural shade. You can even provide colored parasols that match your wedding theme for incredible pictures!
Hope that helps! If you need some more inspiration, you can check out a more in-depth breakdown here! https://www.yourstrulymedia.com/blog/5-ways-to-keep-guests-cool-at-your-summer-wedding
Every season has its pros and cons, so whatever season you decide to go with will turn out great! Best of luck!
Post # 24
We wanted a specific dates, so if the venue we loved wasn’t open that date, I’m not sure what we would have done. I think I would have moved the date for sure though. That said, we booked 18 months in advance, so even though it is during peak season (October) no one had chosen a date for that month yet.