Post # 16
j9marie : no no: i said your script was not “IN the law” but it was exactly the info I was looking for: that there are slightly more requirements in what you have to say in order to make it a legal contract: I can see my two/three sentences wont work. I will adjust accordingly
To perhaps allay your feelings of intrigue: I think what my spouse and I have as far as our promises to eachother is not any state or institution’s business. We have already made the promises to each other that myself and he and my family would consider binding in spirit.
But perhaps it touches a bit on the fact that my family and my spouse are in the spectrum of atheists and agnostics (as well as feminists *gasp*) and his family has some dyed in the wool Catholics and hard core protestant Christians. I want my family to hang out for my “wedding” but not including his family would be unacceptable to my social morés, so I want to limit the part that might cause friction but still align with my values.
And yes I am probably overthinking it, but i do like a good tangent and friendly philosopical debate. Thanks for helping me.
Post # 17
iliketurtles82 : love your answer, also like turtles 😉
Post # 18
notinterested : Thank you for clarifying. I think its great that you are putting thought into this to ensure your vows are authentic to you and your spouse.
Post # 19
This will probably make you cross ( you seem to get cross rather fast ) but I just wondered why , if you want this eminently sensible and doable short cermony you aren’t just , well, doing it soon , rather than waiting three years or more to do it .
Post # 20
This will probably make you cross ( you seem to get cross rather fast ) but I just wondered why , if you want this eminently sensible and doable short ceremony you aren’t just , well, doing it , rather than waiting three years or more to do it .
Post # 21
notinterested : Check your state laws. In MN we simply have to sign the license! We are havinig vows but bride and groom signing it with two witnesses is enough. I have a friend who is an officiant, he does that for folks shipping out in the service or the like.