- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Weddings and marriage have never really filled my dreams from a young age, but I guess in the back of my mind I always imagined a proposal to be a surprise; you know, like clapping my hands over my mouth, a tear of happy shock rolling down my cheek and a beautful ring before me that is somehow just perfect despite never having even hinted at what I’d like. Of course, for us at least, life has been a bit more conservative in what it’s tossed our way, so four years into our relationship we’ve been discussing marriage and rings, and are now at the stage of actually obtaining the ring.
My question is, once I know my partner has the ring, how on earth is the proposal still meant to be a surprise? I know other bees have definitely gone through this, and at times found it excrutiating, but how has it been, honestly? I just strongly suspect that the second he suggests we go for a “casual walk” or to a fancy restaurant, I’ll simply be like, “Yeah, yeah, just give me the ring already” or otherwise have to feign some kind of surprise. I guess it would be better if I don’t actually see the ring before he presents it, so that that’s at least a surprise?
Also, I don’t expect him to fly me to France and propose in a Michelin-star boutique restaurant in Paris (although…), but I would kind of like it to be somewhat romantic beyond just sitting on the sofa and feeling something ring box-like under my bum while he beams at me. Admittedly, it’s probably a silly worry. I actually wouldn’t even care so much how it happens, because it’s not even all that important, but I know it’s meant to be a detail of the relationship that is remembered forever and completely unchangeable.