- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
So from some of my past threads, you bees may know that I’m recently engaged and I really want to share the news with my extended family and friends. So far, I have only told my immediate family and a few friends because fiance has not told his parents yet. After talking to him, I have basically surmised that he is just kind of nervous about a bad reaction from them.
For some background, we are very young (21 and 19), but we have been together for four years, moved out-of-state together, essentially cohabitate for most of the week, have a cat together, share finances and do everything together. I don’t want this thread to turn into people crapping on me because of our age, rather, I just want you to know that he feels his parents will be concerned because we are engaged so young. We are having a long engagement and waiting for the wedding until after we both finish school.
He talked to his mother a few weeks ago to tell her we’re planning to get engaged, but he doesn’t think she expected it to happen so soon. His family generally likes me and I like them, although there have been some instances of tension or drama. I think that’s to be expected in a relationship of four years.
Personally, I think his parents are going to be more upset that we waited days or weeks to tell them about the engagement than they will be about the engagement itself. They knew it would happen eventually, and I know they only want their son to be happy.
So the question is, what is the best way to break the news to fiance’s family? I don’t want to tell anyone else until they know, and I feel that they need to know sooner rather than later. We live out-of-state and won’t be seeing them in person for a month. I don’t want to wait that long, and I just told my parents over the phone while they were at work. Should fiance just give his parents a call, should we try to meet them halfway between our two locations for a dinner, or should we come up with something cutesy (like a video announcement)? If we do a phone call, should fiance and I be on the phone with them together, or is it better for him to tell them by himself? I want his parents to be involved in our lives and feel like they are involved in the planning of this wedding, and I feel like keeping them out of the loop is not conducive to that. Plus, I want to be able to announce our big news to others without feeling guilty about fiance’s parents not knowing.
What do you think bees? How should we break engagement news that will be considered happy at best and neautral at worst to out-of-state parents?