Post # 1
I know there have been other posts similar, but I’m having a hard time finding them. I have a cousin who will be married on the 23rd. I’m trying to get my invites out by the end of this week and I’m not sure how to address hers. Her and her fiance live together and I know she’s super stoked about being a MRS. Should I just put her married name down? Or do I keep it with her maiden name since it won’t be official when she recieves her invite?
Post # 3
Can you personalize hers? Maybe write their actual names on the outside, and slip a note in that says soemthing like, “Congrats future Mrs. Blankety Blank!”?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t use her new name yet.
Post # 5
@peachacid: Ooh I love that! She’s having a destination wedding this month with just immediate family and her reception at home next month. I think your idea works best with the situation. : D Thanks!
Post # 6
Can you hold off on her invite?
Post # 7
I don’t really want to. I’d have to hold off on all of my local family. Her mother is my Godmother and lives with my grandparents. If they all received their invites and she didn’t I think she’d be pretty hurt.
Post # 8
I understand! Since waiting wouldn’t work, I agree with @peachacid.
Post # 9
@peachacid: That’s soo sweet! I wouldn’t think about that!
@FloretteLiz: I think you should definatly still put her maiden name and keep it formal but stick in the inside a “future Mrs so and so” because its going to be something she’ll look forward to in the future, just not at the moment.
Post # 10
@FloretteLiz: I think @peachacid‘s idea is FANTASTIC for your unique situation. Kudos to you for being so considerate!
Post # 11
Meh. If it would give her a little thrill to see Mrs. on there, then don’t let silly things like rules stop you. It would be really exciting for her to see that on an envelope, what does it hurt to put it on there?
Post # 12
@zomgwut: agreed, whipo cares what the “rules” say
I have quite a few friends getting married this summer and I’ve addressed all oftheirs as the future mr and mrs joe smith or what have you. They’ve all done the same to us or they’ve flat our just put mr and mrs. It’s fun, who cares!
Post # 13
Thanks ladies for all the input! I adressed it about an hour ago and decided to put a little note in the envelope. I would have loved to give her the thrill of seeing it on the envelope, but I think the secret unexpected note will be exciting too. It ended up being a nice compromise between ettiquette rules and giving her a nice pre-wedding boost.
Post # 14
I would not address it as Mrs. if she is not married yet.
You can always send her a sweet card after her wedding with Mrs. on it.
Post # 15
Im with Zom. If you think she’d be really excited to see the Mrs, put it on there! I was stressing about ettiquite and consistancy while addressing my invites. And then it occurred to me that they will likely be the only ones to see their own invite. I’m only going to worry about the ‘proper’ thing to do for the people who would really care about that stuff. And no one will ever know if you address two similar invites in a different way.
I’m addressing on of my buddy’s invite as “Lord First Middle Last” and another one as “Your Royal Highness” as I think they’ll get a kick out of it. And perhaps the mailman will have a chuckle as well!
Post # 16
Some of our friends waited till after our wedding to send us our invite just so they could write “Mr. and Mrs.” I thought it was really cute of them to do that. 🙂