(Closed) How should I address this?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you personalize hers?  Maybe write their actual names on the outside, and slip a note in that says soemthing like, “Congrats future Mrs. Blankety Blank!”?  

Post # 4
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t use her new name yet.

Post # 6
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Can you hold off on her invite?

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I understand!   Since waiting wouldn’t work, I agree with @peachacid.  

Post # 9
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@peachacid: That’s soo sweet! I wouldn’t think about that!


@FloretteLiz: I think you should definatly still put her maiden name and keep it formal but stick in the inside a “future Mrs so and so” because its going to be something she’ll look forward to in the future, just not at the moment. 

Post # 11
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Meh.  If it would give her a little thrill to see Mrs. on there, then don’t let silly things like rules stop you.  It would be really exciting for her to see that on an envelope, what does it hurt to put it on there?

Post # 12
5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@zomgwut: agreed, whipo cares what the “rules” say

I have quite a few friends getting married this summer and I’ve addressed all oftheirs as the future mr and mrs joe smith or what have you. They’ve all done the same to us or they’ve flat our just put mr and mrs. It’s fun, who cares!

Post # 14
184 posts
Blushing bee


I would not address it as Mrs. if she is not married  yet.


You can always send her a sweet card after her wedding with Mrs. on it. 

Post # 15
45 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

Im with Zom.  If you think she’d be really excited to see the Mrs, put it on there!  I was stressing about ettiquite and consistancy while addressing my invites.  And then it occurred to me that they will likely be the only ones to see their own invite.  I’m only going to worry about the ‘proper’ thing to do for the people who would really care about that stuff.  And no one will ever know if you address two similar invites in a different way. 

I’m addressing on of my buddy’s invite as “Lord First Middle Last”  and another one as “Your Royal Highness” as I think they’ll get a kick out of it.  And perhaps the mailman will have a chuckle as well!

Post # 16
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Some of our friends waited till after our wedding to send us our invite just so they could write “Mr. and Mrs.” I thought it was really cute of them to do that. 🙂

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