Post # 1
When we first got engaged, I thought for sure I would change my name to First Middle Newlastname. Then my mom made a comment about how she thought I wasn’t going to change it. It was a strange comment since we had never talked about it before. But, then it got me thinking.
My fiance is totally on board with me changing it to First Oldlastname Newlastname since his middle name is his mom’s maiden name. But I like my middle name and don’t want to lose it!
On the other hand, I know that having four names will likely be very confusing somewhere down the line.
I know I don’t want a hyphen and now I’m just leaning towards First Middle Newlastname to keep it simple.
So, what do all you bees think?
Post # 3
I have four names now, these aren’t my real names but it goes like
Terry Anne Ethans Lord (no hyphen)
I just go by Terry Lord and when asked for my middles names on forms I put Anne Ethans or A.E. when asked for initials.
Post # 4
I thought about this too and all I can say is that this name is going to be with you for life so you pick it the way you want it. Don’t let anyone else influence your decision.
Post # 5
Everyone has very personal opinions on this. I thought long and hard about this and my final decision has mde me happy. I went with just taking his last name – the old-fashioned way. Please note this was my 3rd marriage (or as I like to think of it, my 3rd wedding and first marriage). The first time I was very young and hyphenated my maiden and married names. Very confusing for everyone, esp public records. Second time I just took his last name and kept it after the divorce because I had children with it. If I hadn’t gotten married, I would have taken back my maiden name last year. This time I considered using my Maiden name and Married name, no hypen but decided that I am all-in with this man who has given me so much that taking his name is a privilege. I know…old-fashioned.
Post # 6
I hate my middle name so my old last name is now my middle name
Post # 7
My fiance’s parents couldn’t decide who to name him after, so he’s a four-namer, so I think that’s what I’m going to go with too. It’s difficult, cause it’s a huge alphabetical hit, (B to Z!) but I don’t think it’ll really be that complicated (I hope!)
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church
I have had four names from birth– because my grandmother kept her name (which was her mother’s maiden name + her father’s last name) and aded her husband’s last name–and then named me after her. I’m not going to change my name because I’ve never understood that, but the having four names has never been a problem, except that now, because of my age, some think that I’m married already. So, I think if you just add on to your current name (if that’s what you want to do), you’ll be completely understood.
Post # 9
It sounds like you want to do First Middle NewLastName but your mom made you question it. Do what you want, it’s ultimately your choice 🙂
Post # 11
First middle his-last-name.:)
Post # 12
Well, I went with First Middle Newlastname so I voted for that.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2016 - Bloch Chapel
@MissNoodles: This is what I was planning to do as well…my middle name is a family name on my mother’s side, but I want to keep that connection with my dad’s side of the family as well (they’re divorced). I just can’t bear to part with either one.
Post # 14
I’m going with Middle Maiden NewLast, because I don’t use my legal first name so I don’t see the sense in keeping it around.
My mom did First Maiden Last so I got it from her.