Post # 1
My Fiance older brother is part of the wedding party. He and his wife have a 2 year old who they are super overprotective with (they never leave him with anyone). He will also be the ringer bearer in our wedding. We just found out this past weekend that his brother and wife are prego with twins!!! Very excited for them! The babies are due in June. My wedding is in Sept. I’m a little worried that they would want to bring the twins (who will be about 2 1/2 months old) to the wedding. I understand if a couple wanted to bring 1 young baby but I don’t think bringing 2 babies is smart choice. I know there is still 10 months to go but I am worried that this. Is it going to be difficult for my Future Brother-In-Law since he is in the wedding and won’t be able to be with his wife until the reception??
I wish I could comment and say “Maybe it might be a better choice to leave the twins with her family, that way she won’t be overwhelmed.” But I can’t, Future Brother-In-Law is super sensitive over that stuff.
So my question is…should I worry about this or should I not care about it and it won’t affect me directly???? Advise please!
Post # 3
Honestly, I would be worried about having two 2 1/2 month old babies at my wedding. I would definitely say something to try and see what they plan to do. I would stick to the “I don’t want her to be overwhelmed” instead of “I don’t want two infants at my wedding” though. If she says she won’t be overwhelmed, remind her that her son is already the ring bearer and you will probably need her help getting him ready, etc. so it would be more then just caring for the babies.
In my personal opinion, you shouldn’t be bringing infants out for that long anyway, way too much noise/stimulation for a prolonged period of time!
Post # 4
Why don’t you (or better, your FI) just ask them how they’re planning on managing it?
Post # 5
Should I hold off until next summer?
Post # 6
I would bring it up now, in a “no big deal, but I just thought of this” sor of way. That way they have plenty of time to think about it and plan and if they decide it will be to big of an issue and need to change their plans or not have their older child participate since she won’t be able to handle all 3 kids by herself, they have plenty of time to let you know, before they have spent any money.
Post # 7
I thought so…zip my mouth shut
Post # 8
I agree with @mightywombat. You should ask what they are planning before you say anything. I’d say something along the lines of, “I just realized that your twins will only be about 2 1/2 months old for the wedding so I was wondering what you were planning on doing with them. I’m afraid that with your son being the ring bearer, since he could use his mommy’s help getting ready, that she might not be able to handle the twins too. Is someone else going to watch them for awhile or do you have someone to help her at the wedding? I don’t want her overwhelmed since you will be at the front and not able to help her.” This way it sounds more like a concern for her than for your wedding. My baby was 1 month old exactly at my FI’s cousins wedding and he was wide awake and, more importantly, QUIET for the whole thing. Most babies that young sleep a lot or just look around and only cry when they are hungry, need a diaper change, etc. If she does bring them to the wedding just ask them to be curtious and have her sit in the back so if they start to cry she can quietly leave until they calm down. It’s your wedding so if they bring the kids they should understand there will be a few exceptions they have to make.