(Closed) How should I feel? (Why is this asked all the time?)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well I think sometimes in the heat of the moment and especially in the middle of wedding planning, small things can get blown a little out of proportion. But if you’re mad at you SO, of course he/ she’s going to say you’re being ridiculous. I think it helps people to post the argument, and see if complete strangers think you’re upset for no reason, or if you are justified. It really has no relevance to the actual argument, but if you see other strangers saying “yeah, you’re right!” or “no, you’re being silly!” it might calm you down a little.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@AllShookUp:  Agreed. Perspective is a wonderful thing!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I honestly don’t know how much help they get from comments, either. On a single thread you’ll see both “You’re over-reacting” and “You’re so right to be throwing him out” – or “Yes that’s rude,” and “No that’s not rude at all I’m totally doing that, too”

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@ProfessorGirl:  ain’t that the truth!

I think it’s good to get some perspective, however there are threads where the person is strictly looking for validation. That’s what I find annoying. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@ProfessorGirl:  I agree. 

Sometimes there are some useful insights, but it’s always all over the board. I think posts that ask for advice on how to approach/fix the problem seem to be much more helpful than those that just ask “are my feelings justified?”.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ProfessorGirl:  it’s true there’s usually a lot of replies, but I think if the OP really reads through them, one will pop out to her/him and they’ll go … “You know what? That makes sense to me.”  Sometimes it’s what they knew deep down, sometimes it’s something they didn’t think of. So everyone can throw out any opinion they want to, but we always read things through our own filter, and if we don’t like the response, we usually don’t concentrate on it so much.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Pixie79:  I think a lot of the posts ask for advice on whether or not they should address the situation or just let it go.

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