Post # 1
So here is my situation: My fiance and I are paying for my Maid/Matron of Honor to stay at the resort we are having out wedding at. We booked her room and paid for Friday (rehearsal dinner night) and Saturday night (wedding night). We are going up Wednesday and she said she also will plan on coming up 2 days earlier to help us get eveything ready. So do I pay for those extra 2 nights for her to stay or should she? It is $250/night and I feel like we just can’t afford to spend another $500. Another option is that my parents, who are also going up early, have a 3 bedroom suite and my brother, who is staying in one of the rooms, isn’t coming up until later. Should I offer that to her? It is her own room – she would have a private bedroom and bathroom, but common kitchen/living room area to share with my parents. How do I approach the situation?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You are being very generous in paying for two nights of her stay that you need her there. If she wants to come up earlier to enjoy the venue or sightsee that should be on her own dime. However, if she will actually be helping you out for those two days and it’s okay with your parents, I would offer her the room in their suite for the two additional days.
Post # 4
@Sea_Ashley: I wouldn’t pay for the additional two days. You’re already being so generous paying for the two nights she is actually needed. It seems like you are not requiring her to be there the days before so it’s her choice at that point.
Post # 5
@Sea_Ashley: I would tell her that you wouldn’t be able to afford those two extra nights, but in the meantime your parents have an accomodation she can use.
She might not be thinking that there is an extra cost with her staying two more nights. Some people tend to forget those things when it isn’t coming out of their pockets. In addition, I would discuss it with your parents so there isn’t any awkwardness. Hope that helps 🙂