Post # 1
Is there a polite way to phrase that I do not have a wedding registry on my website? In my culture, guests usually provide cash gifts. However, all I want is for my guests to attend and have a good time, so I don’t want to give my guests any indication that I want a cash gift b/c I honestly don’t care whether or not I receive a gift.
I understand that I can always not put up a registry on the site, but I would like to avoid various texts and phone calls asking about it. I’m also scared that a friend or relative might speak on my behalf and say something like Cash Gifts only, which would be off-putting.
Post # 2
I would just say something along the lines of:
“We’re already blessed with a home full of the the things we need (or somehting like that). Your presence at our wedding is gift enough. We cannot wait to see you.”
Or something along those lines, people who were going to bring cash, will still bring cash.
Post # 3
Don’t put anything. If someone wants to give you a gift, they’re going to do it regardless.
Post # 4
“The bride and the groom appreciatively request that there be no gifts. Your well wishes and company is more than enough!”
“In lieu of gifts the happy couple request that a donation be made to..”
“The new Mr. and Mrs. Xyz request no gifts please. Your celebrating with us is all we wish for!”
Post # 5
dojx: Don’t mention it at all. Its rude. If people call or text you will just have to deal with answering the questions. If its a cash gift culture people will assume just to give cash anyway.
We didn’t put our non existent registry info on our website and I had zero questions about it.
Post # 6
Boxerlover24: +1. I just removed that tab from the wedding website template. We got maybe one or two questions about it; it wasn’t a big deal at all.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
You could put something like your precence is all that is requsted or something like that.
Post # 8
I recommend keeping the tab and including a small registry to avoid confusion and allow people who would like to get you a physical gift the opportunity. Those who want to give cash will give cash anyway. Honestly, while I am not typically one to advocate for conformity, in the case of a wedding people have certain perset notions of how things work and it’s better to accomodate those notions than to fight them.
Post # 9
Why not pick a charity that you and your future husband both love and ask in lieu of gifts people could make a donation to that.
This would be a win-win!
Post # 10
I’m not doing a registry (I just don’t want THINGS and dealing with either flying them up to where we live or, if we move, bringing them home- most people here just sell all their stuff when they move away because it’s so expensive to move). I’m just not mentioning anything. I honestly don’t care if we get anything or not, I just want people to come 🙂
Post # 11
This is how we worded ours. But you have to know your audience..ours is our closest friends and family and no one who will be mad or think it’s rude. If you’re having a larger wedding with more acquaintances you have to be careful because some think it’s rude to say “no gifts.”
“We don’t have a registry!
The only presents we want is the presence of your company…
Ok corny, but seriously, we know that there is significant cost and time involved in attending weddings and we just really want to share our day with all of you!
So the best gift you can give us is to join us to celebrate our new lives together! “
Post # 12
dojx: Let your friends and family know that if anyone asks you already have everything you need for your home. People will get the hint at that point…
Post # 13
I just wouldn’t register. If your crowd usually brings cash, they’ll probably be fine with it.
Post # 14
I didn’t put anything on the wedding website, but I did make a couple small registries and only told one person so far who asked privately about our registries.
Post # 15
dojx: In my country we don’t do wedding registry lists, so Fiance and I have put this on our wedding website: “
Your presence at our wedding is enough of a gift, but if you wish to buy us something, please keep in mind that we do not have a lot of space and there are not any household things we currently need.
We would therefore be very grateful if you could consider either a gift card from X, Y or Z as a potential present.”
We know that our family and friends wouldn’t be offended by this, and that way we’re not asking for money, but leaving the option open.