How should I "propose" to my MOH (sister-in-law)?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
48 posts

Gift her a bottle of wine and ask her?

Post # 3
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think giving her a bottle of wine and maybe a cute card would be cute! I sent all of my girls a cute ‘scratch off’ card. It had their name and flowers and a gold heart on the front, and when they scratched off the heart it said “Will you be my BM?” On the inside I wrote a sappy note to them. I think that could be something cute but not over the top.

Post # 4
10106 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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sboom :

“I know that to some extent, the whole “wedding party proposal” thing is silly and unnecessary.”   Yes, you are right, it is . 

 “I most certainly can just ask her and she would be just as excited about it, but I also feel like this is a really great opportunity for me to really make her feel special ….”  Well she is already special ,  being your Maid/Matron of Honor won’t make her so. Sometimes  I think people overrate   how much they are honouring  people  by merely them to be  a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid 

“…and show her how much I appreciate and value our relationship.”

Asking her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor wil tell her exactly that without   any cutesy boxes  or cards or anything . 

Post # 5
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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sboom :  ahhhh I felt the same! I was asking my 2 younger sisters to be joint Maid/Matron of Honor. They’re my only bridesmaids and I couldn’t imagine doing this without them! I made them a proposal box with a small bottle of Prosecco for a toast and our fave chocs and a nice card! Slightly ‘extra’ but they certainly felt special. Here are the pics my sis posted to FB as she was so proud to be asked. 





Post # 6
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I don’t get the whole bridal party proposal thing. I’m sure she would be just happy if you asked. If you really want to do something they have lots of stuff on Etsy. 

Post # 7
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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elderbee :  All of this!

Post # 9
383 posts
Helper bee

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sboom : I’d probably get her a tiny vase of pretty flowers (I LOVE flowers) and on the card put something cute like “Just about the color of the bouquet you’ll be carrying in my wedding if you will be my bridesmaid” Or something like that– appropriate to your friend ship. I think your idea and feelings are so sweet, true friends are to be cherished!!

Post # 10
95 posts
Worker bee

I think it’s so unhelpful to comment on a post like this saying that it’s unnecessary and that you shouldn’t need to do anything other than ask. OP knows and stated it’s not necessary, but rather it’s something OP WANTS to do – so either give ideas and contribute or just don’t comment. Blah.

OP, I think this is such a sweet thing to do, and you’re right that it’s a fun opportunity to make her feel special. I’ve seen SO MUCH cute stuff on Etsy for this type of thing! I would get a cute box and fill it with a couple of things you know she’d like – maybe a mini bottle of champagne for you guys to celebrate, some chocolates, or a little gift you know she would enjoy – and add a card asking her, or have the question on the inside of the box lid so she sees it when she opens it 🙂

Post # 11
336 posts
Helper bee

I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man once and the bride had flowers delivered to my door (we live in different cities) with a little note. I loved it!

Post # 12
316 posts
Helper bee

I think what 

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therobinsparkles :  said is so cute! I was thinking of doing that myself, my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor live in 2 different states than me. 

I also have this saved on Pinterest:

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