Post # 1
My fiance and I have decided to have a Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor as our full wedding party and we have decided who those people will be. His will be a close friend of his and mine will be my sister-in-law, who has been in my life since I was 15 years old and without question my closest female friend and family member for years, despite living on opposite sides of the country. I love her dearly, can’t imagine life without her and I am so excited to be able to involve her in our special day. She has been excited about our wedding since long before we got engaged (and may or may not have been asking him every time she’s seen him when he’s gonna propose already lol). She is the perfect choice for Maid/Matron of Honor not only because of our very close relationship, but also because she is one of the most down to earth, calm and collected, rational people I know so if anyone is the right person to speak/decide on my behalf regarding any last minute emergencies or changes day-of, it’s her.
I know that to some extent, the whole “wedding party proposal” thing is silly and unnecessary. I most certainly can just ask her and she would be just as excited about it, but I also feel like this is a really great opportunity for me to really make her feel special and show her how much I appreciate and value our relationship.
We will be visiting my family back home in October to celebrate my Moms birthday and I would like to give her a gift and card and ask her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor while there. I have no idea what to give her though and I’m wide open to ideas!
She is a very sweet person, mid-30s with four children (ages 6-11). She’s not a big drinker but does enjoy a few glasses of wine here and there, likes camping and spending time outside, spends most of her time shuttling the kids to school, sports and other activities (and loves it). She is pretty crafty and creative (you should see the cakes she does!). She’s super low-key/low-maintenance but does appreciate nice things.
So there’s a bit of background on her haha
Post # 2
Gift her a bottle of wine and ask her?
Post # 3
I think giving her a bottle of wine and maybe a cute card would be cute! I sent all of my girls a cute ‘scratch off’ card. It had their name and flowers and a gold heart on the front, and when they scratched off the heart it said “Will you be my BM?” On the inside I wrote a sappy note to them. I think that could be something cute but not over the top.
Post # 4
“I know that to some extent, the whole “wedding party proposal” thing is silly and unnecessary.” Yes, you are right, it is .
“I most certainly can just ask her and she would be just as excited about it, but I also feel like this is a really great opportunity for me to really make her feel special ….” Well she is already special , being your Maid/Matron of Honor won’t make her so. Sometimes I think people overrate how much they are honouring people by merely them to be a Maid/Matron of Honor or bridesmaid
“…and show her how much I appreciate and value our relationship.”
Asking her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor wil tell her exactly that without any cutesy boxes or cards or anything .
Post # 5
sboom : ahhhh I felt the same! I was asking my 2 younger sisters to be joint Maid/Matron of Honor. They’re my only bridesmaids and I couldn’t imagine doing this without them! I made them a proposal box with a small bottle of Prosecco for a toast and our fave chocs and a nice card! Slightly ‘extra’ but they certainly felt special. Here are the pics my sis posted to FB as she was so proud to be asked.
Post # 6
I don’t get the whole bridal party proposal thing. I’m sure she would be just happy if you asked. If you really want to do something they have lots of stuff on Etsy.
Post # 8
elderbee : unnecessarily sbooty, but ok.. noted.
Post # 9
sboom : I’d probably get her a tiny vase of pretty flowers (I LOVE flowers) and on the card put something cute like “Just about the color of the bouquet you’ll be carrying in my wedding if you will be my bridesmaid” Or something like that– appropriate to your friend ship. I think your idea and feelings are so sweet, true friends are to be cherished!!
Post # 10
I think it’s so unhelpful to comment on a post like this saying that it’s unnecessary and that you shouldn’t need to do anything other than ask. OP knows and stated it’s not necessary, but rather it’s something OP WANTS to do – so either give ideas and contribute or just don’t comment. Blah.
OP, I think this is such a sweet thing to do, and you’re right that it’s a fun opportunity to make her feel special. I’ve seen SO MUCH cute stuff on Etsy for this type of thing! I would get a cute box and fill it with a couple of things you know she’d like – maybe a mini bottle of champagne for you guys to celebrate, some chocolates, or a little gift you know she would enjoy – and add a card asking her, or have the question on the inside of the box lid so she sees it when she opens it 🙂
Post # 11
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man once and the bride had flowers delivered to my door (we live in different cities) with a little note. I loved it!
Post # 12
I think what therobinsparkles : said is so cute! I was thinking of doing that myself, my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor live in 2 different states than me.
I also have this saved on Pinterest:
Post # 13
Thanks guys! You’re right – whatever I do she will love but it was nice to get some ideas. I love the idea of a mini bottle of bubbly as part of it!