How should I respond to these guests?

posted 2 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
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Newbee

I would politely say that while you love children and enjoy spending time with them, this party is unfortunatly not child friendly, or appropriate for kids and that you hope they will understand!

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Let her know that while you love her and her kiddos, you can’t bend the rules for just her kids. It’s not fair to the other parents. There are multiple reasons you wanted this event kid-free. Let her know she is more than welcome to come late at 9pm (assuming you think the party will still be going then), and you’d love to see her!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’d say that since you’ve requested other couples with children to find childcare options, it would be unfair to them to make an exception for one family, but you’d be happy to have them stop by (either one or both of them) after her husband gets home from work.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just say “I’m sorry. We are unable to accommodate the children. If that means you will be unable to attend, let’s make alternate plans to get together soon.”

Post # 7
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Busy bee

RoseAdore :  Housewarming parties where I live are normally family friendly afternoon events where people casually drop in for just a bit, but it seems like you’re doing a more formal evening party so I don’t get why the mom isn’t even asking.  2 kids at a party way past their bedtime by 9:30pm is absolutely asking for disaster and is something I wouldn’t compromise on.  

You’ll probably cause a bit of a tift, but I would say the party atmosphere isn’t kid appropriate, but you’d love to have them over on x date for pizza with the kids. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

litttlemisslamb :  I agree. If it were midday, I could see a bit of a compromise. Little kids won’t do well that late in a house full of antiques.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The above responses are good. Don’t make excuses that will allow her to counter with options. Just tell her the party is for adults only and unfortunately the kids won’t be able to attend. Leave it at that. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I would let them know that the party isn’t for children it’s an adults only party. Remember your house your rules 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

RoseAdore :  some parents never cease to amaze. How rude and pushy can she be? Thinking it should be ok to bring (her super speschal) kids to a no kids event! Wtf! I wouldnt worry about letting her see my annoyance as she had no problem rudely asking if she could keep her kids at your adults only event for over 2 1/2 hrs!!!   Trust me, if you give her *any* leeway, she will insist they’ll be “no problem” and show up with them.  She’s obviously an oblivious asshat…

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

RoseAdore :  I think the problem is that you called it a house-warming party. I don’t suppose you’ll be having another house-warming party anytime soon, but in case it’s helpful for any other bees, if you don’t want kids there, call it a cocktail party. There’s really no benefit to calling it a house-warming unless you’re hoping for gifts (in which case, ew). Everyone who hasn’t seen the house yet will be excited to see it, and nobody should question why their kids can’t come. Win-win. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

Daisy_Mae :  Actually, the problem is her rude friend who is putting her in an awkward situation.  People don’t need to label their get togethers a certain way in order to subtly let people know it’s adult only, especially if they were specifically made aware of that on the invite. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

litttlemisslamb : your experiences with housewarming party Is interesting. where I’m from there often is a housewarming party for a family members with tea and biscuits but the one for friends are known for being boozy affairs that last late to the night. it is fun to hear how certain parties give a different image to others.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

leembee :  Ok, sounds like you enjoy drama and exerting your authoritay, so you are free to tell people their kids can’t come to a type of party that most people consider a family affair, and then bitch about them when they argue about it. Me, I enjoy making things peaceful and fun, so if I don’t want kids around, I’ll take the easy way and give the party a label that will encourage people to look forward to a child-free night out.

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